Mibba Ate My Notifications, Can You Help Me Figure out What They Were?

Logged on, two notifications. One was from Aubrey about the NaNo groups, and there was another one that was something like, "There are three replies to your message!" and I clicked on it and tried to go to it but it was taking forever to load, so I switched tabs for a second, and when I went back it reloaded the alerts page and I lost the notification, and I can't find it, and it didn't tell me WHERE the replies to my message were, so I can't get to them.

If you replied to me lately, could you let me know where, so I can go and find it?