@ January Rose
I generally stay out of this stuff, but saying women who get pregnant and want an abortion should "face the consequences" really really rubbed me the wrong way. Why?
Because I want you to be nineteen year old me for a few minutes. You're on birth control and you're in a sexually active relationship with your boyfriend of four years. You fund out he's been cheating on you for the last year of it. You end it. A month later you find out you're pregnant. You've been on birth control for the last three years. You're halfway through your first year of college. The minute that little thing reads 'pregnant' all you can think is a mixture of 'how?' And 'my life is over'. So you sit there and cry, because the guy who is responsible is in the Caribbean with the girl he was cheating on you with, your best friend told you she would never speak to you again if you didn't carry it to term, your family cannot afford to take care of a child, and you personally are not mentally stable enough to handle the burden of carrying this thing you used birth control to prevent happening. So you contemplate suicide. You wonder if there's enough of your parent's prescription sleep-aids in the cabinet to end it. Because you know in your mind that if you have to carry that thing for nine months you will not survive it. Your mental state is not strong enough to handle it.
And then, one person comes along and sits you down, and tells you that maybe you need to consider your own well-being. Maybe if carrying it to term even to put it up for adoption is going to destroy you mentally and emotionally, you should get an abortion. So you sit there and realize for the first time "Why the hell does no one worry about the mother's well-being?"
So you do it, because its whats best for you and you know good and well if you would have had to "deal with the consequences" that fetus wouldn't be the only thing gone.
So I had an abortion. I used birth control; I WAS careful and I still got pregnant. I hope you realize how much nerve it took me to admit this, and how saying that women who get pregnant should have to "deal with the consequences" is cruel because it takes no consideration into how it is going to affect them.
I felt this had to be said because no one ever seems to take into consideration the woman who is pregnant. Its all about "saving" the fetus. What about saving her? I can tell you right now if I would have had to carry it I wouldn't be here right now. Would attempting to carry it to term really have been worth my life?
I generally stay out of this stuff, but saying women who get pregnant and want an abortion should "face the consequences" really really rubbed me the wrong way. Why?
Because I want you to be nineteen year old me for a few minutes. You're on birth control and you're in a sexually active relationship with your boyfriend of four years. You fund out he's been cheating on you for the last year of it. You end it. A month later you find out you're pregnant. You've been on birth control for the last three years. You're halfway through your first year of college. The minute that little thing reads 'pregnant' all you can think is a mixture of 'how?' And 'my life is over'. So you sit there and cry, because the guy who is responsible is in the Caribbean with the girl he was cheating on you with, your best friend told you she would never speak to you again if you didn't carry it to term, your family cannot afford to take care of a child, and you personally are not mentally stable enough to handle the burden of carrying this thing you used birth control to prevent happening. So you contemplate suicide. You wonder if there's enough of your parent's prescription sleep-aids in the cabinet to end it. Because you know in your mind that if you have to carry that thing for nine months you will not survive it. Your mental state is not strong enough to handle it.
And then, one person comes along and sits you down, and tells you that maybe you need to consider your own well-being. Maybe if carrying it to term even to put it up for adoption is going to destroy you mentally and emotionally, you should get an abortion. So you sit there and realize for the first time "Why the hell does no one worry about the mother's well-being?"
So you do it, because its whats best for you and you know good and well if you would have had to "deal with the consequences" that fetus wouldn't be the only thing gone.
So I had an abortion. I used birth control; I WAS careful and I still got pregnant. I hope you realize how much nerve it took me to admit this, and how saying that women who get pregnant should have to "deal with the consequences" is cruel because it takes no consideration into how it is going to affect them.
I felt this had to be said because no one ever seems to take into consideration the woman who is pregnant. Its all about "saving" the fetus. What about saving her? I can tell you right now if I would have had to carry it I wouldn't be here right now. Would attempting to carry it to term really have been worth my life?
October 20th, 2013 at 10:04pm