@ dru is beautiful.
I disagree.
I disagree.
February 20th, 2014 at 03:58pm
Original source: here.
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- half of all women getting abortions report that contraception was used during the month they became pregnant (1). Some of these couples had used the method improperly; some had forgotten or neglected to use it on the particular occasion they conceived; and some had used a contraceptive that failed. No contraceptive method prevents pregnancy 100% of the time.
If abortion were used as a primary method of birth control, a typical woman would have at least two or three pregnancies per year - 30 or more during her lifetime. In fact, most women who have abortions have had no previous abortions (52%) or only one previous abortion (26%) (2). Considering that most women are fertile for over 30 years, and that birth control is not perfect, the likelihood of having one or two unintended pregnancies is very high.
This argument always seems to sound as if a baby is somehow a punishment for a woman's 'mistakes', which is neither fair on the woman or the baby. I would personally rather that a foetus be aborted than for it to be born to someone who is not ready to raise it. And adoption isn't much better as an alternative, considering the large amounts of unadopted children.
- asherzx112:
- Weather she wanted to get pregnant or not, she should accept her responsibility, step up to the plate and either take care of the kid, or give it up for an adoption.
It might have just been a figure of speech, but it still implies that abortion is automatically easier than the alternatives.
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- Instead, she'd be taking the "easy way out" and just getting rid of it. (Note: this was in no way to imply that abortion is "easy". It was just a figure of speech.)
Maybe. Maybe not. But the longer you leave it, the less humane it becomes. I think it would be more irresponsible to take a pregnancy into the third trimester on the off-chance that she changes her mind.
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- Also, another side reason why I think a woman who willingly had sex should not get an abortion is because, between the time she finds out she's pregnant and the time she goes into labor, her mindset could change on weather or not she actually wants the baby.
I don't see how that's relevant. Women have abortions because they, for whatever reason, are not fit to be a parent at that point in time. Again, I don't see how it would be a good idea to go through with a pregnancy just because one day it might turn out that she wants the kid after all.
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- And what about if something happens to the woman health wise and it turns out after she gets her abortion that she (for whatever reason) cannot have kids anymore, but also after the abortion she realizes "I want kids of my own". She'd most likely be thinking 'If I hadn't of gotten that abortion, I'd have my own son/daughter right about now'. I can only see it as being a regret at some point.
Abortion is not an easy choice. However, that does not mean it is the wrong choice. As well as this, making this decision (whether pregnancy is the right choice or not) indicates the presence of responsibility because it yields a decision of some sort (keeping the pregnancy and raising it afterward, keeping the pregnancy and having someone else raise it afterword, or not keeping the pregnancy. Lack of responsibility would, for example, be shown by a person who does not take care of oneself while pregnant, potentially hurting the growing fetus (doing hard drugs while knowingly pregnant, for one example).
- asherzx112:
- Weather she wanted to get pregnant or not, she should accept her responsibility, step up to the plate and either take care of the kid, or give it up for an adoption. In this specific case, I believe that if the woman were to get an abortion, she wouldn't be taking any form of responsibility at all. Instead, she'd be taking the "easy way out" and just getting rid of it. (Note: this was in no way to imply that abortion is "easy". It was just a figure of speech.)
It is wrong, again, to assume that abortions are decisions made in haste. A lot of deliberation is often involved when these things happen. However, some people just know it is not the time for a child to be a part of their family (or lack of family). For example, a person who does not feel comfortable raising a child because of mental illness (their personal decision, obviously, I am not against any person raising children if they are comfortable), or drug use, or dangerous lifestyle activities. Some people also know much before they become pregnant that they will never raise children of their own.
- asherzx112:
- Also, another side reason why I think a woman who willingly had sex should not get an abortion is because, between the time she finds out she's pregnant and the time she goes into labor, her mindset could change on weather or not she actually wants the baby. I think that her deciding to get an abortion right after finding out she's pregnant was a decision made in haste. It's like that saying goes "Don't make a permanent decision when you're angry."
That might be true if we as humans only used the instinctual/"animal" part of our brain. We have evolved past that, though, and use our brain for social interaction beyond reproduction. We now do things not only to further the human race for generations, we do things for our generation. That includes doing things that feel good, like sex.
- asherzx112:
- Pregnancy comes from having sex, that's kind of the whole point of it.