But assuming we're talking about a married/established couple, who take a lot of decisions together, who share a bank account and a house and everything else, it's slightly different. Then, I guess if the couple were to have a child, then it's a decision they'd take quite equally. With the woman, of course, having the final say. But in that situation, if I had a husband, and he really wanted a child - I would definitely be prepared to take that into account, even if having children was not my priority.
- The Strokes:
You understood correctly, I believe.
- Bloodraine:
- I would let him tell me, because I grant him the unequivocal freedom of speech that I grant all human beings, but I would certainly not listen to him.
Although perhaps you could clarify what you're saying, because I really don't understand the point that you're making.
You wouldn't let a man order you to have his child, or get an abortion, yes?
The point I'm trying to make is that once a couple is pregnant, all of the decisions are left to the woman. This is right, I suppose, because it is her body, she shouldn't be forced either way. However- the man should not bear half the responsibility because he has no authority in the matter.
I think if you've got a serious relationship then there are two people in it. And although the woman clearly has the final say, I don't think the man has no authority. Of course, a woman is going to care what her husband thinks. I think most people have to listen to their partner, if they want their relationship to work. Family planning decisions aren't just going to be made by her. They'll be made by both people.
May 3rd, 2009 at 11:16pm