Single Mothers

  • UsagiChaan

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    My sister and I were raised by a single mother. She's got to be one of the strongest women I know. She had help from my grandparents, who watched us while she worked full time and went to night school, but she did a majority of things on her own. I admire her strength and I love her so much! In Love
    November 16th, 2010 at 02:00am
  • whiskey lullaby.

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    A single mom, by definition, in a mom who is single. She is no longer a single mom when she gets married, no matter who it is she is marrying.

    However, I consider a single mom someone who is raising the baby without the father in her life.
    November 16th, 2010 at 06:32am
  • moikay way.

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    My mother raised me for ten years, and if she were still alive, I would give her a giant hug and thank her for everything. She always put me ahead of herself and threw away her life just for me to have a good childhood. Yes, I feel guilty now but I appreciate all of the love and care she gave me when my father wasn't around at the time.

    I believe that a mom and dad should both take care of the children. It shouldn't be just the womans job because some mothers don't know how to be strict with their kids without their husbands to help. So if both parents have the child, they should both take responsibility on raising the child. The end.
    January 17th, 2011 at 02:02am
  • folie a dru.

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    I think a single mother is a woman who is doing at least most of the raising of the child by themselves. The father can be in the life, but it doesn't mean that he's helping out all that much. If he just shows up at Christmas and on birthdays, he's not really helping.
    January 28th, 2011 at 06:16pm
  • aiyanamama

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    I'd say a single mom is a mom that is not in a relationship. Mainly because that seems to be the widely accepted definition of it. I guess that would kind of make me one?
    January 30th, 2011 at 02:04am
  • iron underneath;

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    A single mother - is a woman who is taking care of her child(ren) on her own without any help from the father - including child support. That's in my book. Because technically if you're receiving money from the father you're not raising the child on your own.
    May 29th, 2012 at 08:56am
  • folie a dru.

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    I think that paying for shit and raising a child are completely separate. If you never see your kids, but you "pay" for them, I don't consider you a parent, I consider you a financial provider.

    There's a lot more to raising a responsible adult than throwing money at them.
    May 29th, 2012 at 04:55pm
  • lyndsifer.

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    A single mother, in my opinion, is a mother who is raising a child/children without any help from the father.
    My mom has been a single mother for almost my entire life, and even though she made mistakes in the beginning; she is an absolutely amazing mom, and I wouldn't ask for anyone else.
    June 30th, 2012 at 02:33am
  • Kays2301

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    I've raised my daughter on my own up until a year ago when I got with my current partner. It's hard yet so rewarding, she's understand who was there and who wasn't as her real father has never been there for her.
    July 12th, 2012 at 08:23am
  • daisyfairy

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    @ part of dru's world.
    Exactly, yes. My dad sends me ''pocket money'' every so often but he's had very little involvement in my life.

    I've never lived with my dad, and although my mum isn't perfect she's done the best job she could. I respect her so much for it.
    July 17th, 2012 at 11:08pm
  • ello.luv

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    I'm going to be raising my son on my own, with child support (if I ever even get it, I don't see the "father" paying for anything). I wish I didn't have to get child support but I didn't act alone in this, the baby also is here because of him.

    When my son comes, yes I will consider myslef a single mother, because of the fact that the "father" has already told me he doesn't want anything to do with the baby and he could basically give two sh*ts about it all. He has also cut off all contact with me.

    So I belive that a single mother is a mother that raises, loves, and cares for a child, and puts in most the effort to give that child an amazing life. Whether or not getting finacial aid from the father of the child.
    July 24th, 2012 at 09:22am
  • Year Walk

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    My dad is in prison for multiple crimes. He doesn't give a hoot about me or my welfare and I haven't seen him (Or atleast I don't remember seeing him) since I just turned seven years old.

    My mum raised three kids (One older than me, one younger, all born to different fathers) on her own. She's one of the strongest women I know. She has several health issues which stop her from working so we're on benefits. I soon as I get a job, I'll start helping her like she helped me.

    I look up to no one more than my mother. We aren't wealthy in the slightest, and have to save every penny we get - but my mum makes it so worth while. I appreciate everything I have. It might just be a tiny council house, but my mum is doing so well on her own.
    July 27th, 2012 at 06:44pm
  • youth and whiskey.

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    My mom and dad divorced when I was in 1st or 2nd grade. So basically, them being apart is all I remember. Anyway, my mom was one hell of a single mother. Financially my dad helped my mom (still does - he actually just made a joke yesterday that he's got 4 more child support checks until he's got me "paid off.") But as the one who actually RAISED me and nurtured me and stuff, it's always been my mom.

    She would get me ready for school, go to the gym, come home and get ready for work, pick me up from school, help me with my homework, fix me dinner, go to her night classes, and always tuck me in at night. She was great. I don't know how she did it all.

    I'll tell you one thing, she was a whole lot better of a single mom than she was when she was married to my 1st step-father. She didn't do anything for me then and that marriage lasted seven years. Now, with my 2nd step father, she's back to how she was when she was a single mom but now she doesn't have to work.

    I'll always have an undying respect for single moms. Those women are total badasses. Single dads, too. Single parents in general work their asses off.
    April 1st, 2013 at 11:02am
  • BabyBlues

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    A single mother in my eyes is a mother taking care of the child by herself or with little help from the father.
    My mom is a single mother, has been all my life. She works two jobs just to give me everything I want and more, I love her to death for it. She puts my needs before hers, she thinks of me before her, and she takes care of others before of herself, like the ones that come in to her job, her co-workers, or just people that she sees in need. I am not saying every single parent does/needs to do that, but that's how the single mother in my eyes/life is. There is also the single fathers as well, who take care of the children without the mother, and both should be recognized. Mr. Green
    April 1st, 2013 at 08:03pm
  • dally winston.

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    One might consider me a single mother because my daughter's father and I are not together. However, I don't necessarily consider myself one, because my ex is still a big part of my daughter's life (or will be, when she's finally born), and me and him are still close friends.

    I have to give a round of applause to the real single mothers out there, they have a tough job!
    April 2nd, 2013 at 03:14am
  • iron underneath;

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    In Texas there are laws that force child support from the fathers if the mother is on WIC or Medicaid. They garnish it from his wages, and if he refused to pay he'd go to prison.

    A single mother, is a woman raising her children primarily on her own. The father isn't around or isn't around enough for it to make a difference or influence the children differently on any topic.
    April 10th, 2013 at 11:59pm
  • folie a dru.

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    I believe 100% that you can be a single mother and receive child support. Money doesn't make a father.
    May 20th, 2013 at 05:01pm