Child of Teenage Parents

Personally, I am a child of a teenage mother and father. And to me I don't think teenagers are emotionally equipped to handle both their emotional and mental states along with a growing childs. Lord knows my mother didn't, nor my father. (They left me to live with my grandmother.) But that's just her and him, it doesn't mean that counts for everyone. And I don't hate my mother for it . . . we just don't have the best relationship. Putting it mildly. And I also don't hate my father, I used to, to a certain extent, but now our relationship is much, much better.

So what do you think about it? Are you a child teenage mother and father? Did it affect you in any way?

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My Mum was 18 when she had me and has since had 5 more kids.
I wouldn't say it affected me at all. Well, my Dad never grew up, got his priorities all wrong and I don't see him anymore. But I think that has more to do with his personality rather than being a young dad, since it's only been 4 years since I've seen him.

But my Mum's coped fine. She had a lot of experince babysitting so maybe that helped her, I don't know. But I've always lived with her and I've never had to fend for myself or anything.

And, there's a girl my age who had her daughter when she was 16 (maybe 17). She was off school for about a year when she was born, but came back to get qualifications so she can go to University, get a decent job and give her daughter the best life she can. I'd say she's coping well.

I'm not, but some of my friends are. I'd say it depends. One of them, I won't spend the night at their house because their parents scare. I know, that's mean, but it's true. But that's just the one. Many of my other friend's parents are totally normal.

My parents weren't quite teenagers when they had me, but they were pretty young. Mum was 20 and Dad was almost 19. They weren't even together, they had a quick little fling in the bathroom at a gig, and that was it. It was definitely a shock when it happened, cos my parents were both serious overachievers. Mum was just finishing up her nursing degree and Dad was in his first year in a veterinary degree, and had just joined a professional rugby team.

But, y'know, they stuck it out and finished their degrees, and I think that's what made the difference. They both got good jobs when they left school, and there weren't any major financial issues. They even got together a few years ago, had another kid, and got married. I'd say they definitely raised me well, but it really was just a case of circumstance.

My mom was 18 when she had me, but considering she has a 168 IQ level, I'd say she was pretty mature ;)

Besides, my dad is 4 years older than her, so he was 22.

I love both of my parents, we're all a lot alike. Lucky me :)

I just wish my dad lived with us. I think if they would've waited, that would've been possible. So...that's the only problem I have with the young parents thing. But it's also weird, because all my friend's parents are like almost fifty, and my parents are still in their thirties...and that whole 4 year age difference; they started dating when my mom was 14. So my dad was 18.

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One of my cousins is a mom at 17. She had to drop out of high school to take care of her baby. But somehow her parents just acted like nothing happened. :|

I dunno... it's a bit odd for me. Maybe it's because her mom was a teenage parent, too?

I'm the daughter of a teenage mom, She raised me and my twin on her own with also and my older sister and my dad left her.
She raised me very well though and my moms my hero.

I personally plan on waiting till marriage because I would hate to relive my moms experiance before her eyes.

My mum wasn't a teenager, but she was only twenty-two when she had me. And it's weird that all my friends' parents are all late-forties to mid-fifties but my mum's only in her thirties. A lot of my friends' parents don't like my mum for being so young - and that she left when I was two. But well, my dad sort of pressured her into believing that she wouldn't have been able to look after me on her own because she had mental health issues. But I'm going off-topic now.

My step-sister is a teenage mum but she's doing an alright job. So I guess it depends on the people. (:

I'm not [my mom was 23 when she had me and I was a friggin miracle baby] but I have a lot of friends who are having baby's at age's 16-19 and they seem so happy about it but I don't think they will be able to handle it.

At such a young age I believe teens want to do more than be a mom and no offense but women are meant to do more than have babies and do everything that implies with having babies.

I have like, 2 people in my Forensics class that are pregnant. One is 11 weeks and a junior in high school, and the other is 5 months and a sophomore. I don't think it's right, but they are keeping the babies, so I'm glad for that.

I don't like the fact that they're gonna miss schooling and stuff.

My mom was 18 when she had me, and because of me, she never went to college, and is now doomed to being a stay-at-home mom of 3 until... well, until we move out.

I mean, personally, I'd feel doomed in that situation.
And... though I really think it depends if a teen is emotionally mature enough for a kid, I'd say it's more of a "this is going to change your entire life, whether you're 'ready' or not" thing, y'know?

I mean, like with my mom, you can't very well go to college, or 'hang with friends' like you want to.

Make your teen years what they were meant to be. Not "Oh shiz, I'm gonna be a mommy?!" time. But maybe that's just my opinion. :file:

I think there is a higher chance of your parents seperating and getting a divorse if they have you as a teen, but I don't think they are less responsible.

My mum gave birth to me 2 days after her 18th birthday and 2 months before my dad turned 23. So as you can see there was a 5year age difference between them. My mum wasn't any less capable of raising me as she is with the children she is raising now. I think maybe the difference between my mum and someone else's is my dad wasn't a teen, he was in his early 20's so that helped a lot in my opinion. He was more mature than an 18 year old dad might have been (might).

My mum and dad went on and had a son 3 years after me and then a 2nd daughter 1 year after my brother. Than my mum and dad seperated just before my sister turned 1.

They did get back together about a year later, but seperated again about a year after that. They've been seperated ever since. A year after my mum and dad seperated for the 2nd time, mum started dating this guy, Peter.

Mum and Peter had a daughter a year after that. 2 years after she was born, they ahd another daughter :P A year after that they got married. Uhmmmm. Than last year they had another daughter and my mum is currently pregnant - due to have her 7th child (it's a boy, woo!!) in November.

That's my life story.
I turned out fine.
I love my life in fact.

I think it's careless and stupid, honestly.
I mean, is it really that hard to not have sex?

I was talking to my mum about what would happen if I got pregnant, today. It was a lovely conversation.

Previously, she always told me that she would kick me out of the house if I ever became pregnant, and oh God, I believed it. But last night, I had a dream that I was pregnant, and I had an abortion, and it made me feel absolutely dreadful. So, this morning, I talked to my mum about it, and I explained to her that I had that dream because I'd been thinking about abortion a lot lately, and how it would affect me. She then said "Of course you would want to have an abortion, but I don't think you should." I was just like ":shock: ... Whut?" And she basically told me she'd help me in any way she could. I told her I thought she'd kick me out, and she said "No, I wouldn't, because I know, it would be purely out of your control, because I know you're not a loose person." And I just wanted to hug her. It was one of the best compliments she could give me after having called me a slut and such so often. I then told her that it'd ruin my life, because I'd have to leave high school, and wouldn't be able to go to uni, like I planned to, and I would also not be able to move to England, like I also planned to. She said, that it went without saying, that she would look after the baby, at least until I settled down in England, because it's always best to keep a baby in a calm and settled environment.

So yeah, I think I'd be pretty sweet if I had a baby, but I still don't want to. It would make me feel as though I was trying to get way ahead of myself, especially since I don't want to have a baby until I'm married, settled into my carreer, and about thirty.

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I think it's careless and stupid, honestly.
I mean, is it really that hard to not have sex?

Is it though? I mean think about it. Just because you might not have been put under pressure to have sex doesn't mean that other people haven't.

My best friend was born when her mum was just barely nineteen. Another child four years later and my best friends mum and dad are still together and my best friend is at university, doesn't go around being rude to people, she doesn't really do drugs or drinks a lot.

She turned out fine. You can be an amazing parent at sixteen or can still be an awful parent at thirty.

Makes little difference.

One of my best friends had her child when she was fifteen (fourteen at the time of conception). And still, being so young, she tried to make the best of the situation, since she was against abortion. So many people tried to get her to get rid of her child, saying that she wouldn't be able to handle it, etc, but she didn't listen. And now, almost three years later, she proved them all wrong.

She's doing her senior year right now, getting her diploma, and is a very caring and loving mom. When she first had the child, she still took classes through corespondance, and will still graduate on time. It takes a lot out of her, but she's a wonderful mother, and total proof that a teen can raise a child right. I've seen her with her baby and the child is so happy. Even though she doesn't have much money (the father ran out on her a few months after she had the baby, but her parents are supportive), we all know the child is going to be raised right. My friend has worked hard to be able to support herself and the baby once she graduates, and I'm so proud of her for making the best out of a tough situation.

(brace yourself, this might get a little confusing) My mom's friend's husband's ex-wife's daughter wants to have a baby. The last time I saw her was at my mom's friends and her husband's wedding two years ago. I don't think that makes much sense so I'll just start from the beginning. Carl, my mom's friends husband, got married and had their daughter Allison, who's like 11, I think. Allison's mother had a daughter named Sarah from a previous marriage. When Carl and Allison and Sarah's mother got divorced, he took both of them to live with him because their mom wasn't, I don't know how to say it, "stable?" Then he got re-married to my mom's friend Dawn. That was two years ago. Sarah was sixteen then. But anyway, Sarah started getting into drugs (I think pills, not exactly sure though) then moved back with her real mother, Carl's ex-wife. She wants to have a baby now, which is really frightening, honestly. I pray to God she's sterile or something because she obviously can't take care of a baby. I'm not saying that goes for all teenage parents, but it definitely goes for her. That girl is really messed up.

I'm the daughter of teenage parents. My mother had my older brother when she was my age, she just finished high school when she became pregnant with him. Although she says, in retrospect, she's glad she had us because it made her stronger and she doesn't think she would of been able to handle us if she were any older. I believe it has effected how my brother and I grew up. My younger sister, who is 5 years younger, kind of got the good end of the straw. My parents had virtually no help, and didn't really know how to function as a family. So everything was how they thought it should be done.

Now, I have no real issues from those times, but my older brother he is largely different from me.I believe the troubles teen parents have strongly affect their children and how they grow. I see that evidence perfectly with my siblings. Not to say my parents aren't wonderful, it's just I know if we were raised in a different time or place, everything would be dramatically different.

my parents were in there late 20s when they had me. Personally I don't think teenagers are emotionally ready for raising a child.

My boyfriends sister had her daughter as a teenager, she dropped out of highschool at age 16 and had her at 19. This women has been fighting a custody battle for her child for months now and just lost because of her unexpected pregnancy to her 2nd child. She has been to jail and is an adict to god knows what.

Her daughter is the most sweetest thing on earth and for her to be put through all this struggle because he mother wasn't ready for a resposibility of another life is not fair at all.

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my parents were in there late 20s when they had me. Personally I don't think teenagers are emotionally ready for raising a child.

I think it's unfair to assume that. I know so many people under eighteen that have had kids within the last two years and ninety percent of them are fantastic parents. My childhood best friend had her daughter when she was sixteen. Brianna saved her life. And she's one of the best moms I've ever met.

My mommy had me when she was sixteen. She raised me by herself, with little help from her parents. She did fine. I'm fine.