- broken mirrors:
- however, he doesn't think it should be called 'marriage', since the term is steeped in religious belief and most people take the whole 'God doesn't approve' stance when opposing gays marrying. He thinks it should be called a 'partnership', or 'union', or whatever - just simply not 'marriage'.
-sigh- I doubt God would approve of atheists and Satanists getting married, either - is anyone proposing they ought to be barred from marriage? And despite being "steeped" in a tradition (which is never a particularly good basis for argument) we ought to take into account firstly the high number of non-religious marriages occurring today (in Australia, the number is greater than 50%) and secondly that some form of our concept of marriage has existed in almost every society and actually the word marriage comes from the Latin
maritare, a union under the auspices of the Goddess Aphrodite-Mari, and because the Goddess's patronage was "constantly invoked in every aspect of marriage" early Christianity was actually opposed to the union.
Origen: "Matrimony is impure and unholy, a means of sexual passion."
St Jerome: a man of God's purpose was to "cut down with an ax of Virginity the wood of Marriage"
St Ambrose: marriage was a crime against God which changed the state of virginity God gave every man and woman at birth, prostitution of the members of Christ, and "married people ought to blush at the state in which they are living."
Tertullian: marriage was a moral crime "more dreadful than any punishment or any death,"
spurcitiae - 'obscenity', 'filth'
St Augustine: marriage is a sin
Tatian: marriage is corruption
Syrian churches forbid married men from being baptised and only allowed celibate men to become Christians
St Bernard: easier for a man to bring the dead back to life than to live with a woman without endangering his soul
St Paul: to marry was only better than to burn
There was no Christian sacrament of marriage until the 16th century. Catholic scholars suggest the wedding ceremony was 'imposed' on a reluctant church. The Anglican marriage service arose from the need for men to seize their partner's property.
This is very different to contemporaneous Asian faiths, and the early Israelites, and elements of Grecian belief, which began to shift - Zeus replacing Rhea and her group marriages with 'monogamy' where he acted as he liked (cheated) - and when Brahmanism established monogamy in some areas of India, marriage altered again to: "No act is to be done according to her own will by a young girl, a young woman, though she be in her own house. In her childhood a girl should be under the will of her father; in her youth under that of her husband; her husband being dead, under the will of her sons. A woman should never enjoy her own will. Though of bad conduct or debauched, a husband must always be worshipped like a god by a good wife." Aspects of the Brahman model were adopted in western Europe by Christian authorities with some churches requiring women to "kneel and place her bridegroom's foot on her head in token of abject obedience... Christianity accepted marriage only on condition that the partners form a slave-and-master relationship." Since marriage had been historically conducted (in the west) by Juno's priestesses, it took centuries for Christianity to think of putting men in that role - so for that time period marriage had no place in canon law and remained under the common law jurisdiction. (I.e. as today was a
civil matter.)
Medieval folk tales also suggested the Christian God opposed marriage; pure youths agree never to marry "for love of God" and their heathen parents force them into a wedding. (By God's grace, the ground opens up and swallows them instead; the priest who dared officiate is found dead the next day.) During the Middle Ages there was in fact no ecclesiastical definition of a valid marriage nor of any contract to validate one. Until the later 16th century, Roman (and barbarian) law held that a marriage "could be freely initiated and could be terminated without formality by either party and at any time" and was the system used by 'common folk' (until 1563 when the church decided that priestly blessing was indispensable to legal marriage.) Clerical blessing only became a requirement in England in 1753 (Lord Harwicke's Act) which, not applying to Scotland, made Scotland the go-to for elopement (legal marriages could be made by the pagan custom 'handfasting', which required witnesses but no clergy.) (Lovers could continue this - elopement across the Scottish border - until 1939.)
When Christian authorities revised the pagan marriage laws, the primary concern was "placing a wife's property in her husband's control and keeping it there." The pagan system held that women owned the land; husbands could acquire it only through marriage. "Christian marital morality amounted to taking the means of independence from women and turning it over to men." The church also encouraged 'disciplining' your wife, in accordance with e.g. St Paul's teachings; "A mild protest in the 13th-century Laws and Customs of Beauvais noted that an excessive number of women were dying of marital chastisement, so husbands were advised to beat their wives 'only within reason'." English jurisprudence applied Blackstone's 'Rule of Thumb': a husband could beat his wife with an implement (rod, whip) no thicker than his thumb "in order to enforce the salutary restraints of domestic discipline" - and as wives were legally classified with "minors and idiots... consigned to the custody of their husbands" there was little they could do about it. Until the mid-20th century in America they held the "doctrine of immunity" whereby "the sanctity of the home" could not be 'invaded' to stop a husband's violence.
I could go on but you get the idea (I hope) which is more or less that the "term steeped in religious belief" is neither historically or geographically consistent nor very positive even within the limited scope of more recent Judeo-Christian tradition that so many seek to 'protect' through things like the Defence of Marriage Act.