Ever Hated Anything About Your Ethinicity?

  • derek hale.

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    I hate the fact that people judge me because I am white. I live in a strongly Polynesian community, and people always play the 'you're white you don't understand me' card. It irritates the crap out of me.
    October 21st, 2011 at 02:51pm
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    My parents immigrated to the USA from Egypt, so naturally, here are a few misconceptions:

    -I worship ancient gods, yet somehow I'm also a Christian at the same time (I'm neither, so...)
    -I have crazy voodoo magic.
    -Anything I do odd (for instance, I actually sit in a way that's kinda unique) is automatically because I'm Egyptian. It can't be because I'm an, oh, I don't know, an individual. It's because I'm Egyptian.
    -I HAVE to have been born in Egypt.
    -I must 'walk like an Egyptian'.
    -There's no way in hell I have a race, because Egyptian IS a race! No, actually, my race is caucasian, my ethnicity is Egyptian, my nationality is American.
    -I obviously am an expert on Egypt and everything about it.
    -Clearly, if I don't blindly follow America and scream 'I LOVE AMERICA! GO ARMY, GOVERNMENT, etc.' it's because I've got foreign roots.
    -Calling me a 'terrorist', even as a joke, is a good idea and the perfect way to piss me off. Actually, it does bother me. Just 'cause I'm pissed, doesn't mean I'm a PMSing terrorist.
    -I must've seen the pyramids, and that the entire country is a damn desert with pyramids everywhere, because we're all a bunch of uncivilized turban-wearing pricks.

    The ignorance that I constantly face is ridiculous. The only good thing that comes out of it is that I can convince ANYONE that I've got psychic powers and other abnormal things because I'm Egyptian and they'll believe it blindly. I hate the fact that people think they know all about me, or even worse, they think they can ask stupid questions and that I'll be okay with it. Plus, having my name as a season doesn't help.

    I just hate that people make these generalizations.
    March 8th, 2012 at 12:27am
  • kitsch

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    Oh, the many expectations of an Asian girl.

    1. If you're an Asian girl and you have light skin and you look a certain
    /cough/ Asian celebritie-esque /cough/ way, you're considered "so pretty!"
    but if you're too "dark / tan" then you're not. |: It's a real self esteem booster.
    2. Being coerced into playing an instrument.
    Piano, oboe, flute, clarinet, whatever it may be.
    No thank you.
    3. Being called "not a 'true' Asian" (in my case, Chinese)
    by someone who is of my ethnicity because I am half Chinese
    and I don't speak anything fluently besides English. I had no idea
    there was an unwritten code of How To Know You're a True Asian.
    March 10th, 2012 at 11:12am
  • Ayana Sioux

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    kitsch:
    1. If you're an Asian girl and you have light skin and you look a certain
    /cough/ Asian celebritie-esque /cough/ way, you're considered "so pretty!"
    but if you're too "dark / tan" then you're not. |: It's a real self esteem booster.
    I'm sorry but I love you for saying that. My friend who is Korean thinks this too but I think it's subconscious, and not how she really feels. I find dark skin really attractive and honestly, I like the way darker skinned Asians look because it looks more natural to me, other than a pale white face that has little contrast.

    And I think you left out "If you have even the slightest bit of curves, you're fat". Jesus, I don't know about you, but I don't think girls that are shapeless are attractive at all. If I were a guy, I would not date them.
    March 10th, 2012 at 06:06pm
  • Ahhhhron

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    All white people have small dicks.
    March 21st, 2012 at 03:52am
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    Airon:
    All white people have small dicks.
    hehe. i think you might need to check out this site called stories.xnxx.com and go to the forum section.
    March 21st, 2012 at 06:41pm
  • Ahhhhron

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    White people are more likely to be racist than any other race.
    April 24th, 2012 at 11:27pm
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    White people are more likely to be racist than any other race.
    Uhhhhhh yes and no.

    I think white people in many areas have a sense of entitlement which can lead to seeing others as foreign, Other, 'a minority' or 'ethnic' (even though Asians outnumber Caucasians now; to quote the lab tech from Better Off Ted, "I'm not exotic; I'm Asian. There are more of us than there are you, so statistically, you're the exotic one.”) In a lot of Western countries, whiteness has been normalised (and thus made invisible) to such an extent that we have things like, when I was growing up, the "skin colour" pencil (a kind of coral/peach shade; and my school had a higher-than-average Indigenous population, so it shocks me that we didn't even question things like that.) So in those areas, or in areas which use to be very white but have recently become more multicultural/pluralised, I imagine racism is something a) used by white people and b) felt by people of colour far more than not-A and not-B.

    However there are a lot of areas where people of colour (though I imagine it is more along ethnic/cultural lines than purely skin colour) are very racist. Racism isn't owned by white people, but (I feel like) they've done it best. And in countries which are either majority-Caucasian populations, or where the social structures/institutions are run by mainly Caucasians, I think it's white-racism which needs to be taken most seriously, because of the power that group holds over the rest.

    But it depends how you're defining racism, I guess? Like sexism, I think that these '-isms' are things which can only actually be imposed by the dominant group/s. I don't think a woman can commit/perpetrate sexism (against men). However, any and all individuals can (and plenty do) express sexist/racist beliefs, or actions which are sexist/racist. The belief/act on its own may be perfectly characterised as, say with racism, expressing prejudice against another race, or the superiority of your race, or a perception of a fundamental flaw/defect in other races, generalised from [members of that race] to [all members of that race], whatever you want to say a racist view entails; but if it's from someone who lacks hegemony or agency or is disenfranchised, I don't think it's an -ism. (It's not structural, there is no system underlying/supporting it.)

    And also I think that statement is probably from within a United States experience (though you may have only meant "in the United States") which might be accurate within that scope. But I don't think that I would agree that there is something fundamentally racist about white people. I think racism is learned (/taught.)

    Wow this is really tl;dr.

    Having said all that. I'm white, and usually I'm okay with it, but it's awful to think how little I can understand of the privilege that I live with - how very unfair it is that I was born into a white middle-class family, and, just because of that, get this ridiculous advantage/opportunity in life, regardless of my personal skills/intellect. What is wrong with society.

    Also, I just re-read the title, and this is a thread about 'ethnicity' rather than skin colour, which makes everything above even less relevant. My cultural tradition is of the Anglo-Saxon derived Australian variety. And it is fairly bigoted, racist and bogan, generally, which I hate. The fact that over half the country would prefer an ex-priest who wants to push gays back into the closet and ban contraception (nb: mild exaggeration) rather than an unmarried female atheist whose crimes include taking leadership after the party (not her, the party) removed the former leader, and trying to put through a carbon tax (for the environment) and a mining tax (to distribute wealth more equitably) rant rant rant. I'm really not a fan of Australia, I see very little reason to be a 'proud Australian'. But at any rate I think the nation-model of government will eventually die out the same way that the colonial and imperial models failed, as soon as people realise that nationalism is hollow, divisive and undesirable. Though, there, I'm again conflating ideas that are not the same (race ethnicity appearance nationality) sorry sorry sorry.
    April 25th, 2012 at 11:22am
  • What's in a name?

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    Actually, when I think about it, no. There's nothing I even dislike. And as annoying as misconceptions can be they don't cause me to dislike my ethnicity - they only make me more or less annoyed with the person or media presenting them.
    April 25th, 2012 at 03:37pm
  • Ahhhhron

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    pravda.:
    Uhhhhhh yes and no.

    I think white people in many areas have a sense of entitlement which can lead to seeing others as foreign, Other, 'a minority' or 'ethnic' (even though Asians outnumber Caucasians now; to quote the lab tech from Better Off Ted, "I'm not exotic; I'm Asian. There are more of us than there are you, so statistically, you're the exotic one.”) In a lot of Western countries, whiteness has been normalised (and thus made invisible) to such an extent that we have things like, when I was growing up, the "skin colour" pencil (a kind of coral/peach shade; and my school had a higher-than-average Indigenous population, so it shocks me that we didn't even question things like that.) So in those areas, or in areas which use to be very white but have recently become more multicultural/pluralised, I imagine racism is something a) used by white people and b) felt by people of colour far more than not-A and not-B.

    However there are a lot of areas where people of colour (though I imagine it is more along ethnic/cultural lines than purely skin colour) are very racist. Racism isn't owned by white people, but (I feel like) they've done it best. And in countries which are either majority-Caucasian populations, or where the social structures/institutions are run by mainly Caucasians, I think it's white-racism which needs to be taken most seriously, because of the power that group holds over the rest.

    But it depends how you're defining racism, I guess? Like sexism, I think that these '-isms' are things which can only actually be imposed by the dominant group/s. I don't think a woman can commit/perpetrate sexism (against men). However, any and all individuals can (and plenty do) express sexist/racist beliefs, or actions which are sexist/racist. The belief/act on its own may be perfectly characterised as, say with racism, expressing prejudice against another race, or the superiority of your race, or a perception of a fundamental flaw/defect in other races, generalised from [members of that race] to [all members of that race], whatever you want to say a racist view entails; but if it's from someone who lacks hegemony or agency or is disenfranchised, I don't think it's an -ism. (It's not structural, there is no system underlying/supporting it.)

    And also I think that statement is probably from within a United States experience (though you may have only meant "in the United States") which might be accurate within that scope. But I don't think that I would agree that there is something fundamentally racist about white people. I think racism is learned (/taught.)

    Wow this is really tl;dr.

    Having said all that. I'm white, and usually I'm okay with it, but it's awful to think how little I can understand of the privilege that I live with - how very unfair it is that I was born into a white middle-class family, and, just because of that, get this ridiculous advantage/opportunity in life, regardless of my personal skills/intellect. What is wrong with society.

    Also, I just re-read the title, and this is a thread about 'ethnicity' rather than skin colour, which makes everything above even less relevant. My cultural tradition is of the Anglo-Saxon derived Australian variety. And it is fairly bigoted, racist and bogan, generally, which I hate. The fact that over half the country would prefer an ex-priest who wants to push gays back into the closet and ban contraception (nb: mild exaggeration) rather than an unmarried female atheist whose crimes include taking leadership after the party (not her, the party) removed the former leader, and trying to put through a carbon tax (for the environment) and a mining tax (to distribute wealth more equitably) rant rant rant. I'm really not a fan of Australia, I see very little reason to be a 'proud Australian'. But at any rate I think the nation-model of government will eventually die out the same way that the colonial and imperial models failed, as soon as people realise that nationalism is hollow, divisive and undesirable. Though, there, I'm again conflating ideas that are not the same (race ethnicity appearance nationality) sorry sorry sorry.
    Did not expect that, I was only being half serious.
    May 1st, 2012 at 05:13am
  • charming.

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    Ahhhhhron:
    Did not expect that, I was only being half serious.
    Oh, I assumed. (Even though on the internet you can't really assume that sort of thing.) But, every joke grain of truth sort of thing. I wasn't targeting you, I just wanted to think aloud I guess.
    May 1st, 2012 at 11:02am
  • Blackjack.

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    All black people like chicken and orange juice. And yes, while I do like chicken and orange juice, it's [probably] not because I'm black.

    Also, I get called 'white' a lot (Which is the nicest - usually it's bounty, coconut, choc ice etc) because of the way I dress, speak and behave. I'm sorry, just because I speak well and don't make trouble, does that mean I'm not black? Just because I like Radiohead, am I not black? Urgh.
    May 4th, 2012 at 09:31pm
  • indigo.

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    kafka.:
    I envy people who grow up in bilingual families because they get to learn a foreign language while they're kids.
    There's a down side to this though. Sometimes, when you're in full conversation flow and speaking to someone who knows only one language - you tend to switch between the languages you know to explain yourself. And then have to translate yourself when you realize later. I know, it's not hugely annoying but just wanted to put it out there.

    Multilingualism has it's downfalls too. Heh.
    June 24th, 2012 at 05:43am
  • inuyasha1618

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    Any Indians? (Not Native American) Well, I think what I least like about being Indian is.. hm, probably how stereotypical all the girls are. I've lived in the US my whole life and everything, just like a lot of other Indian girls here my age, but they are all so similar! Every single one I know does some sort of cultural dance (They're all smart and moderately nonathletic but this is the clincher).

    I can't even imagine an Indian gothic girl. It's probably due to how we were raised (enforcing parents) but I know a few of them who have lenient parents and they still choose to become extremely fashion-oriented and "preppy".

    I've never once met an Indian girl who likes manga, writes for fun, or even knows who Miyazaki is. I'm sure there are some deviant girls out there and I'm desperate to meet them, but here in the area, it's hard to relate to the ones nearby.

    ..Phew, confession over. ^-^
    August 17th, 2012 at 06:04am
  • rosewater tide.

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    I'm mostly Scottish, Swedish & Welsh. There's nothing coming to mind about my ethnicity that I'd change.
    August 17th, 2012 at 06:44am
  • cannibal.

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    I hate being white. People automatically assume I'm rich, racist and an asshole.

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    August 17th, 2012 at 07:21pm
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    Race is but a color people do not seem to get that yet :( I have always felt "some kind of way" About being so mixed and about people thinking that I'm not "a full fledged black person" because I'm such a mixed person. They think that I want to be "white" But what is white? I'm just trying to be me. And plus.. I cannot help where I came from :(
    January 23rd, 2013 at 10:28pm
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    @ Blackjack.
    OMG so dang true :)
    January 23rd, 2013 at 10:29pm
  • peaceforeber

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    @ inuyasha1618
    Well I'm some parts Indian :)
    January 23rd, 2013 at 10:30pm
  • An Awkward Turtle

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    I'm African American, but from what my mom tells me, there's also a certain degree of an Irish background because of where our family originated from.

    What I dislike the most about being this ethnicity?

    The hair. I've always envied people who have straight, curly, or glossy hair. Mine is short and stiff. D:
    While I'm certain that this isn't the case with every single person of my ethnicity, it's something that still gets to me. I know that all I have to do is straighten or oil or do something with it more, but I have no clue about "black hair products", so I'm basically flip-a-table irritated with this.
    January 26th, 2013 at 03:29am