Half Siblings?

  • Charlie Scene

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    So, it's been a little over a year since I found out I have a half sister. She's 20 (21 next month) and I'm 18. She lives in Wales, UK and I live in the US, so I've never even met her in person. No

    I feel... insignificant, for lack of a better word.

    My sister, Siobhan, has brothers and sisters that she's grown up with. I feel like I just popped out of nowhere and now I fear I'll never have a relationship with her.

    I don't even know how to talk to her, because I'm an only child. I feel pretty dumb. Also, I'm afraid to mention too much to her about my family life - especially our father. I feel guilty because our father left her and her mother when she was just a newborn. He left to be with my mother in America.

    Anyone else have thoughts or stories about half siblings?
    September 14th, 2010 at 11:02am
  • Cereal Killer

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    Don't feel guilty about what your father did, that was his action, not yours. It's gotta be awkward meeting a sibling when you're 17, but you two could really get to know each other. Maybe she could fly over some time so you could meet in person. Just talk to her like meeting any other new person, I'm sure it'll be awkward for both of you, but she'll understand, and hopefully try to get to know you too Wink

    I have four, all on my dad's side. Two live with me and I just consider them little brothers like a full-blood sibling. I have a half sister who is 43 I believe, haven't seen her in a long time, last we heard from her she lived in South Carolina but she always moved around a lot, so who knows. And a half brother that would be 26 but he was a speed freak who shot himself.
    September 14th, 2010 at 07:29pm
  • Bloodwing

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    I have a half sister. She's 22 and just had a beautiful baby on the 12th! (Just wanted to add the baby part.) She never met her dad, because he killed himself before she was born. Nobody really knows the entire reason why. My dad has been in her life since she was 2, so yeah.
    September 16th, 2010 at 04:47am
  • Charlie Scene

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    My sister also had a baby. Today is actually his first brthday :)

    I feel weird calling him my nephew...I guess it's because I've never actually been in their presence.

    Actually, when he was born, I told one of my oldest friends that I just became and Aunt to a baby boy called Finnley-Jay, and she goes "Lee, you're not his aunt. You're only like, a half aunt. That dosen't count."

    I felt so shitty. Like, really though? I never thought I'd ever have nieces or nephews, so I was very excited at first.

    Now I feel kinda like...a phony. I know I shouldn't but I just do.
    September 16th, 2010 at 10:43am
  • Cereal Killer

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    ^ That's shitty to say! Half or full sibling, you're still his aunt, especially if you spend time with him. It's about heart not blood Wink
    September 17th, 2010 at 05:10am
  • Charlie Scene

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    Thank you! That's exactly what I said!!
    September 17th, 2010 at 07:06am
  • Cereal Killer

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    Put your heart into it and there'll be no difference. I don't even consider my little half-brothers half-siblings, I love them hate them and spend time with them just like a full-blood sibling, so what's the difference? Nothing. As long as you're a good sister and aunt there shouldn't be any trouble adjusting and getting to know each other.
    September 18th, 2010 at 12:56am
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    I also have four half-siblings on my father's side; three girls and a boy. I'm the eldest and the only child from the first marriage of my biological parents. I'll be honest, even though I don't really know how to be one, sometimes I feel like a failure as a sister. I guess I just want to be a part of a big family. My big family.
    September 21st, 2010 at 08:28am
  • pulmonary archery.

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    I have two half-sisters from my father of whom I've never met. I've met one of the sisters though, but I'm not sure if she knew who I was. One of them lives with him (the one I met) and there's another, but I'm the oldest. It's a weird feeling, I guess, when I met my half-sister I wasn't quite sure what I was supposed to feel towards her.

    I also have two half-siblings from my mother. They're great, I don't really see them as half-siblings at all (though it can be a little hard when they get special treatment from their dad whereas I barely talk to him and he lives with us.)

    I guess living with half-siblings is just like living with any other siblings, but the ones who are out there in the world.. I don't know, I'm not quite sure. I don't know if I should make an effort to talk to them or see them, or if I should feel responsible, or if we're just set to lead different lives. It's also a weird feeling to know I'll never have a full blood sibling, someone who is made up of the same stuff as me - and might even look alot like me. It's a tough one.
    September 23rd, 2010 at 09:59pm
  • Disenchanted Babe

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    I have 2 brothers and 3 sisters.
    They're all my half-siblings.

    I was raised with my two brothers and one of my sisters. So I'm closer to them obviously, but since they're much older than me our relationship isn't as close as I would love.
    My other two sisters live in the States. I met one in 2004, and the other one by Facebook. I've maintained good contact with them by it. It's not ideal, but it's better than no contact at all.
    My relationship with them is good, and in some ways I think better than my relationship with the siblings I grew up with.
    Since all of the problems that existed in my house growing up both of my sisters weren't part of it at all.

    I'm the only child of my parent's marriage. But I honestly don't consider my siblings, half-siblings at all.
    I love them all the same and I consider them all full family, regardless of how good or bad the relationship is.

    Of course I hope that when I'm older I can travel to see them and hang out with them more often. But it's tough because both parts have to put in effort to get to know each other.
    October 9th, 2010 at 05:48pm
  • Crash Thrusts.

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    I have six half siblings. Five of them are from my dad and one is from my mom's second marriage. I hardly talk to my dad's kids since he died. I talk to my half-sister Brandy occationally, but that's it. The one from my mom is almost like my full sister, because when I was little, she took care of me like she was a second mom. Also, my dad basically took care of her until she moved out.

    I only have one full brother.
    October 10th, 2010 at 05:06am
  • Jorel Decker.

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    I've never met my real father. When I was six months old, my mom introduced me to her boyfriend, who had a son and a daughter of his own. He's raised me my entire life and I don't refer to them as my step-dad or step-siblings. That's my father, my brothers [After he and my mother broke up, he had another son], and my sister. That's what they will always be.
    October 10th, 2010 at 05:14am
  • ColourMeComplete

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    I have 2 half siblings through my mother, and to me they're just my little brother and sister. They may not live with me and may live in another town but I still make the effort to visit them and spend time with them and talk to them on hte phone frequently.
    October 24th, 2010 at 07:57am
  • Jewel Nicole

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    I have four half brothers. Shifty

    I supposedly have an older half sister, but I'm not sure at all about it, it's just something that has been floating around and I really don't want to ask.
    October 30th, 2010 at 12:24am
  • pezzie

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    I have two half brothers.

    Both of them are nearly twice my age and already have their own families. I don't see them very often, but when I do, they're always pretty nice to me.

    Shifty
    October 30th, 2010 at 03:56am
  • Desperate Dreamer

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    I have one half sister + a beautiful 4-year-old niece. If anyone told me I wasn't really her aunty I think we would all tear them apart, my sis included :)
    October 30th, 2010 at 12:53pm
  • PharaohsThrone

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    i have 1 half brother and 1 half sister, who are 11 and 12 years older than me, and my sister even has a son (whos 8) and theres another baby boy on the way! :D haha i consider them as full-blood siblings, but i never lived with them really. i also have 1 full blood brother, im the youngest =( anyway, when i was like really young i think my half bro and sis would come up every now and again, (as ive been told) but i have no memory of it, and i really like my half bro and sis, they're just awesome, and sometimes i wish i had actually grown up with them, because they are a lot better than my full brother, would have been handy to have karen or brett kinda help me when ryan would be about to tear me apart =/ so yeah, cuz i've always wanted to have more of a real sister if that makes sense, you know if she was closer to my age and actually lived with us, i probably would have been a lot happier, but what can you do?
    October 30th, 2010 at 04:44pm
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    All of my brothers and sisters are half.
    November 11th, 2010 at 03:33am
  • Hopeless Heart

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    I have one full-brother and two half-brother but they are to two different mothers. So my dad had four children to three different women and he has seperated from all of them. With the exception of my brother my father tends to leave the mother when the child is about 1-2 and then takes custody of the children, I only saw my mother once every fortnight as a child but now at 19 I have been living with her full time for a year and haven't spoken to my father in a year either and he hasn't seen his youngest son (about to turn 3) in about a year, but he's in good hand with his mother and he's such a cute red head!
    November 16th, 2010 at 03:48am
  • city lights;

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    I have two half-brothers and one half-sister. One of my brothers and my sister are like in their thirties and have families of their own, so I'm an aunt. They live in New York state still so I don't see them often. My other brother still lives with us, but he's still older then me by about three years.

    I only have one full-sister and she's younger then me.
    November 27th, 2010 at 03:05am