The Definition of "Slut"

@ dru's sick and tired
I did not say you were less then me.

@ emmett james
If you think that I deserve a negative or derogatory label because of my sexual behavior, then clearly you are deeming something in me to be beneath or 'less' than you, otherwise you wouldn't think I was worthy of that negative title. (If, indeed, my sexually promiscuous behavior of screwing different people all the time because it's fun and I can is what you deem as "screwing someone every night".) (I'm using "my" nonspecifically here, although I'm no stranger to being called a slut for my sexual behavior.)

@ dru's sick and tired

You made this to get peoples oppinion on being a slut...if you are going to take what I, someone you know nothing about and I know nothing about you, say so personaly then maybe you should not be asking your self what people thing of sluts but of children. Because taking this so personal is acting like a child in high school

I think the word 'slut' is pretty damned derogatory. Do I think the fact that people have multiple sexual partners is okay? No I do not nor do I advocate sex before marriage. That is my view and that will not change because my religion as well as my culture as well as my personal preferences dictate such beliefs. But do I call people who do such things 'sluts'. No. Not happening either. And no, that does not mean I think the definition of slut means someone who has multiple partners either. I think it has no specific meaning and it lies solely with the person/people who use the term at that time.

@ emmett james
I also made this to counter people's slut-shaming opinions so before you tell me why I made this thread, keep that in mind.

I take slut shaming personally because it has happened to me and people I love. I take the definition personally because there is no definition and because of this word anyone is allowed to decide the definition and shame others thy deem as sluts.

It's pretty fucked up, destroys women, destroys self esteem, creates a rape culture and victim blaming society, allows my daughters to be treated as less, and makes my mom come home crying because men harassed her over the shirt she was wearing.

You are damn right I take this personally. I think it's sad more people don't.

polka:

That is my view and that will not change because my religion as well as my culture as well as my personal preferences dictate such beliefs.

It won't change because you're stubborn; culture and religion are just (bad) excuses. Why do you care how many people or who someone sleeps with? Of all the things to use to judge someone, that is just 100% not your business.

emmett james:

@ dru's sick and tired

You made this to get peoples oppinion on being a slut...if you are going to take what I, someone you know nothing about and I know nothing about you, say so personaly then maybe you should not be asking your self what people thing of sluts but of children. Because taking this so personal is acting like a child in high school

Yeah.. how dare a female take sexist, derogatory ideas personally... how childish!

You fail to see how your archaic beliefs about women's sexuality is bad for society as a whole. The fact that you can so flippantly post demeaning and sexually repressive things about women shows how pervasive the idea is that a woman's worth is determined by her sexual purity.

@ Kurtni
When did I say it was a women? If you look back at my first post it refers to a man, not women.

@ dru's sick and tired
Being gay, I get what it's like to be called names but if you alow it to get to you then that's your falt and you allowed them make you feel that way.

I don't think you understand what I was getting at. Say your walking down the street with a friend and you go past someone and she OR HE says 'oh I hit that!' You keep walking the next person you see, 'banged that too!' You keep walking the next sevrial people you see is the same thing from this friend...that is a slut. Some peiple like being a slut, one of ,y close friends takes pride in the # of people she has slept with. She is always saying 'yeah bitch im a slut my cunt gets fucked 100 times more then yours!' So tell me, does this make her a slut? Because in her mind it does and she doesnt have a problem with it.

EMBRACE THE SLUT!!!

Kurtni, you clearly don't realise the difference between an opinion and a judgement. If you look closely, you would realise that it was actually you who was being judgemental by saying a) I'm stubborn and b) believing in a religion is bad. Ya... You might want to go back and check that out. And I honestly have nothing else to say on this.

polka:

Kurtni, you clearly don't realise the difference between an opinion and a judgement. If you look closely, you would realise that it was actually you who was being judgemental by saying a) I'm stubborn and b) believing in a religion is bad. Ya... You might want to go back and check that out. And I honestly have nothing else to say on this.

Your opinion is judgmental, the two are not mutually exclusive. You clearly don't realize how degrading it is to judge someone by the quantity of sex partners they've had. You said it's not "ok" for someone to have multiple sex partners... which is judgmental, judgmental about something that is none of your business.

And I think religion is a terrible thing, and I'm judging you based on your opinion, naturally. Being judgmental isn't really the problem- everyone who has an opinion on anything has made a judgement- your opinion is the problem because it degrades people and is based in a world view that is sexually repressive to women.

@ emmett james
Clearly you don't agree because you also think a slut is someone who fucks another person's significant other, which I agree is negative and I'm sure you do.

@ dru's sick and tired
Well yeah, its wrong, if someone isn't going to be fathfull then they shouldn't be with someone.

@ emmett james
So the word slut is negative then. And when you use it against a promiscuous person you're using the same word you use with the unfaithful person.

Slut, in my oppinion, like any word is all about how a person takes it. Because I will be the first to say that I am a cockslut. Hands down. Slut, man bitch, whore...all of them are just words. Don't let them get to you

@ emmett james
So if I go up to a gay kid and call him faggot or a black person and call them nigger, they shouldn't worry about it or let it get them down?

Don't say it isn't the same because, by mass societal definition, slut is a derogatory term for a woman.

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@ emmett james
So if I call someone a fag and punch them its only offensive if they take it as such? No, intent of the speaker is important.

@ dru's sick and tired
Ok see now your changing what you said and its just sad now. Physical contact was not in this. If you feel the need to change what your saying after this long your just desprite for someone to fight with.

This is just me, but the last guy to punch me for being gay ended up in the hospital. I think that everyone should know how to defend them selfs without the use of weapons.

Now do you plan on changing what you said again? Because this is getting really old, really fast.

@ emmett james
What I'm saying is that the intent of the speaker has to do with whether or not a word is derogatory or not. If I call you a mean word with mean intent, it's derogatory. Judging someone for their sexual history would be considered in that realm. Participating in behavior that leads to negative consequence for women would be considered in that realm as well.

@ dru's sick and tired
Yes ok, have you ever heard the saying sticks and stones may brake my bones but words can never hurt me?

Yes emoshinaly they can, I go through it all the time but there is no point of holding onto words that hurt you, they just drag you down. Me I write them down in a notebook and that's that.

Everyone thinks diffrently. An oppinion is just that it has no meaning to anyone but to the person saying it.

@ emmett james
Words can hurt. Words do damage. The word 'slut' cause slut-shaming, victim-blaming, rape victims to not be taken seriously, for women to be fired from their jobs for being "too attractive", for women to be looked down on for their sexual history, for my daughters to be taught not to be raped instead of my sons being taught not to rape.

You act like words don't have power, but they do. Until you can admit that, we can't have this conversation. There are none so blind as those who will not see.