The problem with defining 'slut' is that it has no one definition. In one culture or social group it can mean one thing and then it can mean something different in another culture or social group.
The biggest problem I have with the word 'slut' is that it's presumptuous - how many people call other people 'sluts' without really knowing them? The assumption that someone is a 'slut' based on how many people they've slept with, the way they dress or even their attitude can be pretty problematic.
I don't think 'slut' needs to be, or should be, confined to just one definition. People often define 'slut' for themselves, and technically it's a term that can be applied to anyone because the criteria for being a 'slut' or 'slutty' is so varied.
- dru's in the dark.:
- A slut is someone, to me, who carries themselves in a particular way. Like they want to be looked at a sex object, treated like a sex object, and don't think there's any other way to be but then they deny being that way.
- ayanasioux:
- If you're sexually active, whatever, just don't go telling the whole world and making it quite obvious that you want to be looked at as a sex object because then, you're a slut. That's just to me.
- dressedtokill:
- I think a slut is someone who brags about it.
- the mice endure:
- I think it's more an attitude than number of people one sleeps with. I would call someone who has sex with one person a slut as much as a person who has slept with a hundred. It's all about how they carry themselves I believe.
- wolfeyes:
- To me a slut is someone who uses sex in a manipulative/devious way.
Why do any of these women deserve to be called a 'slut'? 'Slut' has pretty heavy connotations. On here I've seen references to women being called sluts because they are manipulative or sneaky, or because they 'brag' about it or they have 'no self respect'. But I don't see why 'slut' needs to be used in any of these contexts.
I don't condone people being sexually manipulative, however, I take umbrage with 'slut' being used in relation to that behaviour. If someone's manipulative, just call them
what they are - manipulative - instead of calling them a very sex and gender based term that really only applies to women.
No self respect? Call them what they are. "That person doesn't seem to have much self respect."
They brag about it? "Wow, why does she have to be so open about her sex life? No one wants to know."
I don't understand why using 'slut' is necessary. Often you can say what you want to say without resorting to using derogatory slurs against women.