Some people have said their culture pierces ears very young. It just means it's a tradition within their culture.
- Dirty Byrd:
- And what exactly makes it a "cultural thing"? I don't quite understand that argument...
February 23rd, 2011 at 04:06am
Some people have said their culture pierces ears very young. It just means it's a tradition within their culture.
- Dirty Byrd:
- And what exactly makes it a "cultural thing"? I don't quite understand that argument...
No, it wouldn't in most cases, but when it is a cultural thing I'd say maybe 95 times out of a 100 the child isn't going to have a problem in it.
- faith in dru.:
- I've heard that having ears pierced young is a cultural thing, but does really waiting until your kid say 'yes' completely destroy your cultural background?
But why are young and infant who can't consent interchangeable? It's not like the ages of 2-5 are "old".
- sunflowers.:
- I can't obviously speak for everyone, but to me, I find it completely understandable that parents would just get it out of the way when they're daughter is young.
My point was, sure you can wait until your child consent, but if you're only waiting another year so that they can speak, I genuinely think it makes no difference because the child still had very little idea what they want at 3.
- faith in dru.:
- But why are young and infant who can't consent interchangeable? It's not like the ages of 2-5 are "old".
My problem is a three year old could easily say 'no', they don't want it. And I highly doubt the shop would allow you to pierce the ears of a toddler that's screaming and saying they don't want it. If they know at that age they don't, I think it's wrong to force it. People seem to be operating under the assumption that every toddler will want them. I didn't. I waited until third grade to get them 'cause that's when I was ready. And then after my ear ripped (and I got it fixed) I waited until eighth grade to do it again.
- sunflowers.:
- My point was, sure you can wait until your child consent, but if you're only waiting another year so that they can speak, I genuinely think it makes no difference because the child still had very little idea what they want at 3.
You say that if your mother had pierced your ears, you would be annoyed that she hadn't gotten your consent. But the consent would hardly be informed consent. Just because a child can speak, doesn't mean they know what they're getting themselves into. My four year old god brother always asks to eat fish. He hates fish, he won't touch it if you actually give it to him, but he claims to love it.
You can then get equally annoyed at your parents saying, 'why did you not wait until I could make an informed, sensible decision'.
If a parent forces a child that is saying NO, and crying its head off, then I think that's not very nice, but just a few parents do something that we don't approve of, doesn't mean it should be illegal for everyone. Some kids force their child to go to piano lessons against their will or get ugly haircuts. Some kids may force their babies to go to daycare. Some parent's make their child enter beauty pagents and I think that's disgusting. But you can't make it illegal for all children because a few children may not want to. And if like you said, the shop is unlikely to do it on a child that is screaming, than surely that means it's unlikely to happen?
- faith in dru.:
- My problem is a three year old could easily say 'no', they don't want it. And I highly doubt the shop would allow you to pierce the ears of a toddler that's screaming and saying they don't want it. If they know at that age they don't, I think it's wrong to force it. People seem to be operating under the assumption that every toddler will want them. I didn't. I waited until third grade to get them 'cause that's when I was ready. And then after my ear ripped (and I got it fixed) I waited until eighth grade to do it again.
Is there anything wrong with waiting until a child can say 'yes' or 'no'?
- sunflowers.:
- If a parent forces a child that is saying NO, and crying its head off, then I think that's not very nice, but just a few parents do something that we don't approve of, doesn't mean it should be illegal for everyone.
Of course not, and I never said there was.
- faith in dru.:
- Is there anything wrong with waiting until a child can say 'yes' or 'no'?
My brother claimed that he could eat raw meat when he was 4. He obviously never actually eat it, but he asked for it all the time.
- sunflowers.:
- My four year old god brother always asks to eat fish. He hates fish, he won't touch it if you actually give it to him, but he claims to love it.
Do you think that laws and principles we base them on, should have exceptions which are founded in tradition or things that are socially acceptable?
- sunflowers.:
- Of course not, and I never said there was.
But I also think it's perfectly plausible for a parent, especially when ear piercing is a highly common cultural practice, to pierce their child's ears when they are younger and haven't developed a phobia of needles etc.
Rape is no longer legal in a marriage. At least, not in the U.S.
- Xsoteria:
- Like, on principle, we oppose idk, rape - but since rape is socially acceptable within marriage, it's fine to rape your wife (unless you rough her up too much). Hypothetical scenario obviously.
Okay, that makes sense. I'm sorry, I just woke up.
- acorna wants to know:
- I think he's saying that making things legal because it's socially acceptable isn't always the right thing to do.
And I agree.
Well in some places that isn't the case. But yeah, what acorna said.
- faith in dru.:
- Rape is no longer legal in a marriage. At least, not in the U.S.
(I don't really understand what you're saying. Sorry. >.<)
My lobe piercing healing process was nothing, really. I had it done in second grade, eighth grade, and tenth grade.
- cosmonaut_.:
- I believe that piercing the lobes of an infant is perfectly acceptable, and other facial piercings should be allowed if it is for cultural reasons. I had my lobes done for the first time when I was seven and it was because I had chosen to get them done and had adequate parental permission. I'm glad I could get it done at a young age, because I wouldn't have to go through the healing process of a lobe piercing at a later stage.
I think you'd pretty much have to assume with this one. Sometimes it's easy enough to tell, especially if a person is attending a school. The tutors, carers etc., will mostly be aware of their cultural background as parents often offer up that information. When a new child from a different culture registers with our preschool we do a lot of research into that culture both past and modern beliefs and ethics, just so that we can prepare for them. (different eating habits, routines etc.,)
- wrecked up dru.:
- And how would you prove it was for cultural reasons [other facial piercings]?