Woman Allows 16 Year Old Daughter to Marry 51 Year Old Man

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    "Age is nothing but a number" they usually say. But really? This is just a bit too far-fetched for me. Maybe she does love him? Who knows? We'll see how long it lasts.

    I just want to know your opinions and thoughts on this. Would you give your underage daughter legal consent to marry a 51 year old? Why or why not?

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    June 21st, 2011 at 10:27pm
  • Jewel Nicole

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    I think sixteen at sixteen you can definitely experience love. If her parents have no issue with her marrying at sixteen and she REALLY wants to do it, then I don't see a problem.
    June 21st, 2011 at 10:53pm
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    If her parents are okay with it and he treats her right - why not? Besides, it's not like it's impossible to get a divorce if it wouldn't work out.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 02:28am
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    If they're both consenting, as well as the girl's parents, then I see no reason for them not to be together.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 02:09pm
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    No, I would not let my daughter marry a man of 51. Firstly, because I wouldn't want her social life to suffer - imagine the names she'll get, the friends she'll lose etc,. It all lovely and rosy to say that if they were real friends, they wouldn't leave her, but the matter is the world isn't ideal, so her social life will suffer.

    Secondly, because I believe her life would be ruined, firstly for settling down at the age of 16 and secondly for marrying an older man whose on milestones are years ahead of her.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 02:12pm
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    I dont believe at sixteen you could truly love. Yes you can love actually, but for all the wrong reasons. First off this girl she hasnt finished highscool, probably hasnt even thought of college. Hes rich obviously, and I think thats the only reason her parents are allowing her to marry him. And their children? You guys do know that he cant have sex with her until shes 18 right? Because then that'd be statiatory rape.

    And isnt that man a bit of a pedifile? How does 51 year old fall in love with a 16 year old. In his eyes shes a little girl, a child. When my dad saw that, he found it disgusting because he told me that when he sees girl 16, 17 years old. Thats just what they are little girls.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 05:51pm
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    LoveIsEternal:
    I dont believe at sixteen you could truly love. Yes you can love actually, but for all the wrong reasons. First off this girl she hasnt finished highscool, probably hasnt even thought of college. Hes rich obviously, and I think thats the only reason her parents are allowing her to marry him.
    You don't know her. You don't know what she feels for him or how he feels for her. You don't know that her parents are only allowing it because he's rich. I think you're passing a judgement on people that you don't know and that's not right. I don't think you'd appreciate if someone you didn't know passed a judgement on you and your feelings towards someone or passed a judgement on your parents decisions.
    LoveIsEternal:
    And their children? You guys do know that he cant have sex with her until shes 18 right? Because then that'd be statiatory rape.
    No, they CAN have sex because they're married. If they weren't married then it would be statutory rape, but since they are it's not. That's the law.
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    And isnt that man a bit of a pedifile? How does 51 year old fall in love with a 16 year old. In his eyes shes a little girl, a child. When my dad saw that, he found it disgusting because he told me that when he sees girl 16, 17 years old. Thats just what they are little girls.
    How do you know that in his eyes she's a little girl? Have you asked him? 16 & 17 year olds aren't little girls. At those ages they can have a job, drive, and other things, I don't think that qualifies as a "little girl". & I don't think he's a pedophile, that's his wife now and before she was his wife the two of them obviously fell in love so... it may not seem right to you, and that's fine, but I don't think it's fair to judge them on it.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 06:19pm
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    Jewel Nicole:
    How do you know that in his eyes she's a little girl? Have you asked him? 16 & 17 year olds aren't little girls. At those ages they can have a job, drive, and other things, I don't think that qualifies as a "little girl". & I don't think he's a pedophile, that's his wife now and before she was his wife the two of them obviously fell in love so... it may not seem right to you, and that's fine, but I don't think it's fair to judge them on it.
    Your passing a judment on them to whether you like it or not. What your doing right now is called defending them, so from that, you obviously have no problem with a 16 year old and a 51 year old getting married. Therefore your passing the judgment that its right. im passing the judgment that its wrong. So if you have the right, to judge something and defend it as okay. Then I have the right to judge it and defend that its wrong.

    And in the eyes of the law you are aloud to drive. In the eyes of the law you are aloud to have a job. A little girl, is someone who cant make decisions for themselves because theyre still living at home with mom and dad. Ill keep posted with them, and Im going to laugh when they divorce, because at 16 your eyes are still wondering. She doesnt know the meaning of commitment yet, at 16 you havent matured in the least. Your hormones are still raging, your bodies still growing. Nothing in a 16 year old is complete yet. She may be in love with him. but for all the wrong reasons.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 08:28pm
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    LoveIsEternal:
    Your passing a judment on them to whether you like it or not. What your doing right now is called defending them, so from that, you obviously have no problem with a 16 year old and a 51 year old getting married. Therefore your passing the judgment that its right. im passing the judgment that its wrong. So if you have the right, to judge something and defend it as okay. Then I have the right to judge it and defend that its wrong.
    I'm defending the fact that they have the right to not be judged by someone who doesn't even know them. Even if I thought it was wrong I wouldn't sit that and say that their love for each other isn't true or that they don't love each other for the right reasons or that the man only sees her as a little girl. You have no idea what the two feel for each other and neither do I. That's the difference between you and I is that you're claiming to know what they feel or her parents feel when you, in fact, do not, I'm claiming to know nothing.

    And, at any rate, what business is it of anyone's that they decide to get married? They've already gained the approval of everyone that actually matters in the situation... does it really bother you that much that this girl, who you don't even know, is getting married at such a young age?
    LoveIsEternal:
    And in the eyes of the law you are aloud to drive. In the eyes of the law you are aloud to have a job.
    And "in the eyes of the law" they can get married if her parents say that she can. So...
    LoveIsEternal:
    A little girl, is someone who cant make decisions for themselves because theyre still living at home with mom and dad.
    Just because someone lives at home with their parents doesn't mean they can't make decisions for themselves. Teenagers make decisions for themselves every single day. Her parents allowed her to get married, she's a married woman now and I'm sure she can make decisions for herself. Just like teenage girls choose to have sex at a young age this girls chose to get married, in the eyes of the law, if her parents approve then it's perfectly legal.
    LoveIsEternal:
    Ill keep posted with them, and Im going to laugh when they divorce, because at 16 your eyes are still wondering. She doesnt know the meaning of commitment yet, at 16 you havent matured in the least. Your hormones are still raging, your bodies still growing. Nothing in a 16 year old is complete yet. She may be in love with him. but for all the wrong reasons.
    If you laugh when, so I should ay IF, they divorce then that's your prerogative. If you think it's funny when people's marriages end then, again, that's your prerogative. However, I won't, I think it's sad when anyone gets a divorce, but sometimes divorce is the best option for some people, at any age. And again, how do you know that she doesn't know the meaning of commitment? Do you know the girl? And again I ask, how do you know that she's in love with him for the wrong reasons? Do you know how many 16 year olds have experienced loved? Numerous.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 08:57pm
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    Jewel Nicole:
    If you laugh when, so I should ay IF, they divorce then that's your prerogative. If you think it's funny when people's marriages end then, again, that's your prerogative. However, I won't, I think it's sad when anyone gets a divorce, but sometimes divorce is the best option for some people, at any age. And again, how do you know that she doesn't know the meaning of commitment? Do you know the girl? And again I ask, how do you know that she's in love with him for the wrong reasons? Do you know how many 16 year olds have experienced loved? Numerous.
    And numerous teenage girls break up with their boyfriends everyday. And I will agree with you on that, I am wong, I dont know. But its not about me knowing the 16 year old girl on the bases of commitment. Commitment isnt something you know, it is something you learn. And maybe she will learn it, but at 16? I cant see it happening. Its sick a 51 year old is going to have sex with a 16 year old. And if she gets pregnant by him, the childs risk of having abnormalities is worse.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 10:19pm
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    LoveIsEternal:
    And numerous teenage girls break up with their boyfriends everyday. And I will agree with you on that, I am wong, I dont know. But its not about me knowing the 16 year old girl on the bases of commitment. Commitment isnt something you know, it is something you learn. And maybe she will learn it, but at 16? I cant see it happening. Its sick a 51 year old is going to have sex with a 16 year old. And if she gets pregnant by him, the childs risk of having abnormalities is worse.
    And how do you know, again, that she doesn't know commitment? Even if you're right and she doesn't know, she'll learn, eventually. People only learn from mistakes when they make them. Maybe you can't see that happening but she does. Her family does. Her husband does. And you know what? Those are the only people that really matter. You may think it's "sick" but if her parents are fine with it and the two are married then it's fine, by law. Child abnormalities? Everyone has the potential to make an abnormal child. Everyone. No matter the age or age difference. They may have a perfectly healthy child.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 10:31pm
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    Jewel Nicole:
    And how do you know, again, that she doesn't know commitment? Even if you're right and she doesn't know, she'll learn, eventually. People only learn from mistakes when they make them. Maybe you can't see that happening but she does. Her family does. Her husband does. And you know what? Those are the only people that really matter. You may think it's "sick" but if her parents are fine with it and the two are married then it's fine, by law. Child abnormalities? Everyone has the potential to make an abnormal child. Everyone. No matter the age or age difference. They may have a perfectly healthy child.
    No for a women at the age of 40 and up, it is harder to have child, and if your lucky enough to have one, because your body is working harder, and your a lot older, some die, and some do have abnormalities, its the same with a man.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 10:43pm
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    No for a women at the age of 40 and up, it is harder to have child, and if your lucky enough to have one, because your body is working harder, and your a lot older, some die, and some do have abnormalities, its the same with a man.
    And some are born perfectly healthy. The same thing can be said about having a baby at any age. So, I don't think you're really basing your arguments on anything.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 10:47pm
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    I will never allow my children to marry when they're underage. Ever. I think that if they're in love that's great. I'll support them. But if they're truly in love, then they can wait until they're of age to marry.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 10:53pm
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    I will never allow my children to marry when they're underage. Ever. I think that if they're in love that's great. I'll support them. But if they're truly in love, then they can wait until they're of age to marry.
    I might. I mean, I don't know, I don't have kids yet, but if the situation happen to development, I wouldn't completely shut it out, I'd hear their side and I'll take it from there...
    June 22nd, 2011 at 11:03pm
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    Jewel Nicole:
    I might. I mean, I don't know, I don't have kids yet, but if the situation happen to development, I wouldn't completely shut it out, I'd hear their side and I'll take it from there...
    I'd be willing to listen, but I still wouldn't allow it. I don't see a lot of statistics supporting it. And if they are a statistical anomaly, then I just don't see how them waiting two years would destroy their marriage.

    Personally, I hope my kids wait until they're at least 25 to get married.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 11:07pm
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    I can agree that it's sometimes hard to believe how someone around that age can know commitment well enough to make a marriage work, or know love well enough. But at the end of the day to assume and decide how she feels or what she can/can't do is unnecessary and none of our business. Debating on whether we'd allow our children to do it or not is kind of cool, it can create an interesting discussion, but flat out saying that their marriage is going to fail and that she can't possibly know commitment and that it's sick for them to have sex - no, I don't think anyone who doesn't know them at all have a right to make that judgement.

    Personally, I don't know. I probably wouldn't allow my children to get married before 18, but that's just me. If their relationship works out then that's great.

    And for the record, some people get married when they're older after having been together for years and still get a divorce. So...
    June 22nd, 2011 at 11:20pm
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    Jewel Nicole:
    And some are born perfectly healthy. The same thing can be said about having a baby at any age. So, I don't think you're really basing your arguments on anything.
    Yes, but there is a higher increase of risk after the age of 40. Of course, there is a risk younger than 40, but for two healthy people to have a baby younger than 40, an illness might not be expected. For those conceiving aged 40+ a medical practitioner will warn them of the dangers. Not to mention the higher risk of chronic disease in the mother.

    "the risk of having a baby with Down syndrome rises from about 1 in 759 at age 30 to 1 in 302 at age 35, 1 in 82 at age 40."
    Source: http://www.babycenter.com/404_what-are-the-risks-of-having-a-baby-if-im-35-or-older_3127.bc

    I personally wouldn't want to risk it.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 11:28pm
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    Jewel Nicole:
    And some are born perfectly healthy. The same thing can be said about having a baby at any age. So, I don't think you're really basing your arguments on anything.
    But more a higher percentage of children are born with abnormalities. So I am basing my arguments on facts.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 11:29pm
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    I can agree that it's sometimes hard to believe how someone around that age can know commitment well enough to make a marriage work, or know love well enough. But at the end of the day to assume and decide how she feels or what she can/can't do is unnecessary and none of our business. Debating on whether we'd allow our children to do it or not is kind of cool, it can create an interesting discussion, but flat out saying that their marriage is going to fail and that she can't possibly know commitment and that it's sick for them to have sex - no, I don't think anyone who doesn't know them at all have a right to make that judgement.

    Personally, I don't know. I probably wouldn't allow my children to get married before 18, but that's just me. If their relationship works out then that's great.

    And for the record, some people get married when they're older after having been together for years and still get a divorce. So...
    For the record, Ive never even heard of such a thing as a 16 year old marrying a 51 year old, and if I did, it didnt work out for them. And again, its not about knowing them personally, its about age difference. At 16 you havent even experienced life yet, at 51, hes old enough to be her father/grandfather.
    June 22nd, 2011 at 11:32pm