It's just a word. What matters is the intent behind it. If someone is using the term in a pejorative manner, I don't approve. Otherwise, it's a word.
July 1st, 2011 at 04:45am
I know this is a little late but you've got that a little wrong. I am African American myself, and me and my brother (we're the only two with black in us in the house) call each other the 'N' word frequently just messing around. We both think it's hilarious. On my dad's side of the family (Af.Am.) the people that say it, they don't say it as a bad thing from what I've heard. They say things like... "What's up n*gga?" or "How's it going n*gga?" The people that I know don't say it as a bad thing unless someone ratted out on them, or betrayed them in some way. When an Af. Am. says it to a person, it's usually because that person is black. It's is 95% of the time not used in a degrading term. Let me know if I didn't understand your post right.
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- But the majority of African American people who use the N word do so as a term of endearment. A word is only demeaning or degrading if you let it be.
I'm weird in that sense. I don't really call things gay and get much more offended if someone says 'that's so gay' as opposed to 'what's up, fag'.
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- Now back to the 'F' word. I say the 'F' word, but I learned that when you say gay or call things gay, people take more offense. My opinion on it is kind of torn between it being offensive, because my cousin is gay, and just being a term of use to something that is dumb, but some people that use it don't really think that gay people are dumb. It's just a saying that people use. Kind of like the word Epic. Does that make sense?
Why? Doesn't make much sense to me.
- Nirvash Type TheEND:
- If you're going to get your panties in a wad when someone uses it as a slur against you, don't use it as a term of endearment towards yourself and others like you.
It's not that hard to figure these things out.
Faggot I love you. You see that? I just used a slur and got away with it because my 'intentions' weren't to use it as a negative term. However the fact remains, that I just used a slur.
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- Why? Doesn't make much sense to me.
If someone jokingly punches me in the arm it's not the same as me punching someone hard in the face. intent can be a deciding factor.
I really only consider slurs to be slurs when they're used as slur. To me, a word itself is neither good nor bad. It's the intent.
- Nirvash Type TheEND:
- Faggot I love you. You see that? I just used a slur and got away with it because my 'intentions' weren't to use it as a negative term. However the fact remains, that I just used a slur.
And this is why double standards exist kiddies!
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- I really only consider slurs to be slurs when they're used as slur. To me, a word itself is neither good nor bad. It's the intent.
It's nothing to do with a double standard. It's to do with gray areas. You can't say that something is something 100% of the time. If you like oranges, you can't say oranges are delicious 100% of the time. What if you find a rotten one? Is it delicious? No.
- Nirvash Type TheEND:
- And this is why double standards exist kiddies!
If you'd said it to me you wouldn't have gotten away with it. Neither would anyone who isn't my very close friends. To me it doesn't just depend on the intention but who says it. If a stranger says it to me in a kind manner I'm still not saying it's okay, mainly because they can't possibly know that I'm okay with it.
- Nirvash Type TheEND:
- Faggot I love you. You see that? I just used a slur and got away with it because my 'intentions' weren't to use it as a negative term. However the fact remains, that I just used a slur.
Have words always had the same meaning or always meant what they mean in one time period? No.
- Nirvash Type TheEND:
- "Faggot, often shortened to fag, is a pejorative term and common slur used chiefly in North America against homosexual males. Its pejorative use has spread from the United States to varying extents elsewhere in the English-speaking world through mass culture, including movies, music, and the Internet."
Yeah, you have a very good point there. I have to agree.
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- I'm weird in that sense. I don't really call things gay and get much more offended if someone says 'that's so gay' as opposed to 'what's up, fag'.
I think it's because we all know 'fag/faggot' is supposed to have negative connotations, however gay does not. It's like deciding that calling things 'white' or 'black' in a mean way is okay. There's nothing wrong with the word gay, no negative connotation, so I don't like it when people affix one.
True, that, but I'm just making the point that it's the usage of the word that makes the difference.
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I think cigarette was mentioned. And I know 'faggot' can mean a bundle of sticks but no one really uses it that way.
I read about how the nickname "faggot" came about and it's horrible. Apparently in the middle ages, homosexuals were tied together and set on fire.
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I think cigarette was mentioned. And I know 'faggot' can mean a bundle of sticks but no one really uses it that way.