Unpopular/Controversial Opinions #3

I like reading Internet debates but I am inept at participating in them. I'd totally rather just leave it at "agree to disagree" because my oratorical tone is cold and calculative. Online, that tone is even more cold and can be 1000x more standoffish. Often unintentionally.

Rachel Dolezal and Caitlyn Jenner and their situations are completely, utterly, 100%, absolutely incomparable. You cannot compare a woman who posed as a black woman and built her life and career on racist lies to a trans woman who is a role model to a ton of people. If I see one more transphobic baby boomer say something like "how come it's racist for Rachel to pretend to be black but Bruce Jenner gets to pretend to be a woman??????" I am going to scream.

I think season three of Orange is the New Black was mediocre and disappointing

bucky.:

I think season three of Orange is the New Black was mediocre and disappointing

honestly i couldn't even make it through the first season of oitnb

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i don't really chocolate all that much unless i'm craving it

Okay so, I finally got around to reading the story about the double date of Lily/James and Vernon/Petunia andddddd I don't get how people came away from that story thinking further that James Potter was an asshole.

Was he ornery? Absolutely.
Was he a jerk? Not in my opinion.

After all, Vernon started the conversation assuming that James was dumb, unemployed and broke. Let's all be real, if someone started talking to most of us on the premise and with the attitude that we're lesser than them and talking to us with zero respect, we're probably going to be more than a little snarky. That doesn't make James an asshole. it makes him human.

I still haven't seen Jurassic World and still don't plan on it because I'm not interested. I love the Jurassic Park movies to death, but I feel as though this one is predictable.

deano.:

I still haven't seen Jurassic World and still don't plan on it because I'm not interested. I love the Jurassic Park movies to death, but I feel as though this one is predictable.

It kind of was. The CGI was nice, though.

Maybe it's just me, but I think the sex scenes in the show Sense8 (...which are literal porn scenes...) are excessive and unnecessary - I just personally get uncomfortable since they always seem to come without warning. I think we'd have a good understanding of the characters and their motivations without cutting to a sex scene every ten minutes. It almost makes me want to stop watching the show.

I don't think there's anything wrong with not trying to get your license at sixteen. I'm waiting until I'm eighteen, at least, saving me money on classes and letting me prepare myself to control a big. ass. machine. God forbid I say this around any of my friends, though; "WHY DO YOU NOT WANT TO DRIVE OHMIGOD ARE YOU CRAZY YOURE 17 YOU DONT HAVE A LICENSE LIKE WHAT ARE YOU??????"

@ tommo;

Totally agreed, and I was actually discussing this with a coworker today. On one hand, it's a hassle having to have people drive you back and forth, but at the same time, I know I didn't get my license until I was 18 because I didn't have a car to learn to drive in My mom drove a beat up car and a massive truck and didn't feel like either would be good for me to learn in.

bucky.:

I think season three of Orange is the New Black was mediocre and disappointing

This. And it felt like they tried to put everything they forgot to put through the the whole season in the last episode.

@ tommo;
I get this all the time. In the UK, you can start driving from the age of 17 and I never ever got my provisional licence and have no desire to do so (although I am going to have to start lessons when I get back home because it's more of a hassle now than it ever was when I was a teenager), despite the fact that I'm turning 21 in November. All of my friends are like "OEHMGEE WHY CAN YOU NOT DRIVE YET THAT'S LIKE CRAZY" but honestly, I've never had an interest in driving. Love cars, hate the idea of driving them. I don't see why that's so weird.

@ tommo;
I honestly didn't get a driver's license until I was 24. Partially because I was terrified of driving, but also because when I was living on campus there wasn't a single reason to actually have a license or a car since everything was right there.

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So, I was mentioning to someone about my crush on Jeremy Renner and someone decided to mention to me 'you know he's gay, right?' They then got annoyed when I replied that no, I don't know that, and they don't know that either. The fact of the matter is that if Jeremy Renner actually is gay, that's whatever and it's fine and I just hope he finds someone that makes him happy.

However, what fucking business is it of any of ours to guess who's 'secretly gay'? Like, just stop. First of all, coming out is a personal decision so even if the person isn't open about being gay, it's none of your fucking business to try and drag them out of the proverbial closet. Secondly, what makes you so certain the person is gay? Like, having a male roommate while an adult and a guy could mean that someone is gay or it could mean about 5000 other things. Trying to pigeon hole every single goddamn behavior into an orientation isn't just annoying, it's offensive the spectrum that we have in this world.

So why can't people just accept that if someone identifies as straight or gay or bisexual (or hell, hasn't identified as anything) or whatever to just accept that and not fucking attempt to argue with them or call them a liar because it doesn't fucking fit with the idea that you have with them. Not your body, not your fucking business.

@ CallusedSilk
To add to what you were saying (though I do agree with what you said) what does Jeremy Renner being gay have to do with you having a crush on him? Like, it's not like you'll marry him or something so why does someone have to say that he may be gay and that would make you not have a crush on him? I hope this makes sense but I'm trying to say that the two groups are not mutually exclusive so what's the point of even saying it

southpaw:

Maybe it's just me, but I think the sex scenes in the show Sense8 (...which are literal porn scenes...) are excessive and unnecessary - I just personally get uncomfortable since they always seem to come without warning. I think we'd have a good understanding of the characters and their motivations without cutting to a sex scene every ten minutes. It almost makes me want to stop watching the show.

i agree. i finished the season and still really enjoyed the show but i took a lot of time in between every episode or so before completing it because the sex scenes were so gratuitous and made me uncomfortable too. :/ if i weren't so invested in the characters and general storyline i would've dropped it though, i think that's a huge part as to why i can't bring myself to like or finish oitnb s1.

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it's a very fine line, but i feel kind of uncomfortable seeing fanart of kid's shows depicting characters, particularly the younger characters, in romantic relationships when heavily implying sexual content. even when they're aged up accordingly. like i don't mind the cutesy fanarts in which characters are cuddling or even chaste kissing but once it feels even remotely sexualized it just makes me so uncomfortable tbh

@ swell
I totally get what you're saying and I understand that as well. People like to inform me that Matt Bomer is gay, although Matt Bomer is openly gay, when I mention that I have a crush on him as well, and I'm just over here like, "Which stops him from being a ridiculous Adonis of a human being how?"

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@ southpaw

The sex scene in the very first episode was one of the reasons I gave up on the show after the first episode. Like, why have the only LBTGI+ couple get introduced with an outright sex scene at all? They're literally the only characters within the show introduced in that way that I saw. Everyone else is doing something job related, but then we've got those two characters introduced in the middle of a sex scene. It was even more annoying and frustrating to me though because Lana Wachowski is one of the creators and she's a member of the LBGTQI+ community, so she should know better than to treat these characters like sex objects.

I like writing in present tense. I think works well with sci-fi and action.

@ capax infiniti.
All the power to you. Some books turn out well with it. I just care that someone commits to a tense and that it's never in second person. Not okay, guys. Not okay.

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I'm still baffled by how popular The 100 is. I tried to watch it and I wanted to like it so badly, but I barely made it through one episode. There were just too many things that drove me nuts. Maybe those things were cleared up later in the show, but all I could focus on was on how half the stuff in the pilot made no sense to me.

@ CallusedSilk
Pretty much everything does get explained, it drove my boyfriend crazy but I got him to watch a couple more episodes and now he loves it

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I much prefer reading stories written in third person. I find it frustrating to have a narrowed view of a story because we only get to see what the narrator sees.

@ losing control.
So basically I need to give it another shot?

Also, fyi, I have preferences on POV depending on how much is too much for the reader to know. Like, when it comes to more psychological things, it has to be a narrowed point of view, whether that means first person or third person limited, because the whole point is experiencing strictly what they experience. Sometimes to the point where you don't know if the narrator is reliable or not. Horror sometimes has to be done from a limited point of view, but often can be done with a more expansive view so that you can get little tidbits. So for me it just depends on what the author is trying to achieve.