Living With Racist Family Members?

I consider myself a non racist that is occasionally poked with the stereotype stick, and I mentally slap myself for being so mean in my mind. And I try my best to not be racist towards anyone.
But its kind of hard when my family members don't think the same way. I'm not saying that we should all have the same opinion, because that would be boring but I think sometimes we should keep our opinions to ourselves.
My mom loves Ethnic History topics (mostly African American history), but somehow every conversation she starts, always leads back to other races hating on black people.
I know that racism still exist, but some of what she says is just outrageous! Like I told her about how this woman was kind of rude towards me after happily chatting with one of her favorite students and my mom said that it was probably because I was black.
First of all, the lady was black and so was her favorite student. And the reason was probably because I was shy or something or maybe she didn't feel like ending her conversation to help me with my issue!
Anyway, my brother is a totally different issue. He has always been a creepy black power activist person. And everything he says always leads back to race! I mean its crazy! And he's SO mean! I asked him if he thought Angelina Jolie was prettier than Jennifer Aniston and he said "Honestly all white people look the same to me."
That is so RUDE!
And my dad! Oh ho ho ho! >.< He told me that if I married a European/Caucasian guy, that he didn't want me to visit him, and he wouldn't see my kids. (If I had any)
And my brother gets all upset when I say that I' not interested in dating men of my own race.
Its just...UGH!

Okay. I'm done *breathes*

My family is semi-racist, but they don't mind of we marry people of other race. I mean, most of my cousins are doing that anyways. My parents complains about every race, since they work in a place fill with different people. So basically, my family kind of goes toward the sex side. My father told me that I shouldn't go and marry a girl and being friends with a lesbian would make me a lesbian too. Which doesn't make any frickin' sense.

It's hard living in a semi-racist family for me. My family is a large portion white besides Native American on my mom's dad's side and a dash of it on my dad's side. In some way or another they're either making fun of someone's race or degrading them in some way, and yet they have friends who are of the same race they criticize. It seems hypocritical to me.

I have big issue with it because two of my best friends are actual Mexicans. I mean they literally moved to my town from Mexico when they were 5 and 4 years old and my other best friend is Indian, like the India kind (but he doesn't live there) and he's not my boyfriend right now, but that guy I'm pretty sure I"m going to end up with someday.

My family is always talking about how white is the minority now and how they keep marrying out of their race. They think that white people are going to disappear off of the planet if they keep mixing together and we're all going to be the same color, which I don't particularly see as a bad thing... at least then there'd be no racism.

Imaginary Enemy:

My family is always talking about how white is the minority now and how they keep marrying out of their race. They think that white people are going to disappear off of the planet if they keep mixing together and we're all going to be the same color, which I don't particularly see as a bad thing... at least then there'd be no racism.

Oh wow that is so ignorant, (what your parents said not what you said). How can they say that when they have Native American in their family?I would love for everyone to become brown or whatever so that we wouldn't have as many problems as we do today!

I don't really understand the term semi-racist... I would just have thought that you're either racist or you're not?

Alex; periphery.:

I don't really understand the term semi-racist... I would just have thought that you're either racist or you're not?

I mean some people don't outright call other races insulting names, but they believe the stereotypes created by society. Do you get it?

My mom's side of the family (not my mother herself) are extremely racist, not just semi. All of my second-cousins (who are my age) have go or have attended private schools so they don't have to go to school with black folks. They all constantly use the n-word in a demeaning way. It's very difficult for my immediate family to visit them because of how terrible it is.

I believe that discrimination on all levels is pathetic.
One of my uncles is racist and homophobic, my cousin (who pretty much has the same views as me) and I hate being around him and his kids, they're just as closed minded. The rest of my family just see it as some sort of joke, although he'd never say that type of stuff infront of my mum because she'd chew him out.
I can't stand being around him because it's just constant hate that spills from his mouth and I'm the one that has to keep my mouth shut to keep the peace. Enduring that is painful.

My famiky don't like gays....I'm gay!

My family is also "semi"-racist :( It really sucks! My dad is really the main proponent, because his parents were old-fashioned and southern, but I can see some of it in my brother, too. To be honest, it's really not so bad with my close family; my dad usually shuts up about it when he realizes I don't think it's funny, and he's not really awful about it. My family that still lives in the south (Alabama and Louisiana) are the worst of it, but we never really see them much. So that's that.

emmett james:

My famiky don't like gays....I'm gay!

Racism and homophobia aren't the same, fyi. But that's a shame, nonetheless.

There's some internalized racism in my family. My mom is latina and my dad is filipino and they have very superficial understandings of the other's culture. And I kinda just watch from a distance with an irked look on my face My dad's also kinda racist towards other ethnicities and races, but I don't let it get to me.

I was extremely fortunate to grow up in a school district where their is a healthy mix of different ethnicities and was able to form a very open mind to different cultures and gain an understanding of other cultures and races that my mother and father were both clearly deprived of.

What's the most sad is what happened to my half-brother, Darren and this story is a shining example of why I don't speak to my biological father.

Our father got drunk one evening and ended up in a one night stand with a very pretty black woman. He woke up the next moment, realized what he'd done (meaning that it was unacceptable for him to sleep with a black woman because of his racism) and basically ignored that Darren even existed. Darren experienced a bit of a racial identity crisis for most of his childhood/young adult life. His mother would always make subtle racial slurs about white people because of our father but whenever Darren would visit our grandparents he would hear the same thing about black people.

It's just a whole big mess. I don't talk to anyone on my dad's side of the family, really.

Except for Darren, because he's my favorite.

youme.atsix:

. His mother would always make subtle racial slurs about white people because of our father but whenever Darren would visit our grandparents he would hear the same thing about black people.

I can't imagine growing up like that.

@ Kurtni
It was really hard for him. No one would ever say anything outright, but little comments if a waiter was taking too long or someone cut them off in traffic.
He was really messed up for a really long time. :/

My family as a whole isn't racist, but my dad can be at times. He has very strong feelings about black people, but they're all stemmed from receiving racist comments himself when he was a young Chinese immigrant living in Mississippi.

I take everything he says with a grain of salt.

I grew up in a semi-racist family but it's more from my grandma's side than anything. But she's not really racist racist since she works with different kinds of people at work. It's just the more generalization of complaining about the stereotypes that other races take on such as Blacks being thugs/criminals, Asians being smart, and Mexicans working for practically no pay, and Islamic/Muslims being terrorists.

I grew up in a very racist family. My sister and I sometimes hold onto those old ways but we're not crazy...we just don't date outside of the white and Hispanic men thing. My youngest sister is the one that dated a black bit before, I kissed a black/Boricua boy when I was younger. I dated a Filipino too (for almost a year). As I said we're not crazy racist. Then again I don't even date...

My family I would say is semi-racist... Except me..
My dad will make crude jokes which I always tell him to knock it off...
My lil sis and brother will sometimes look at blacks funny or make comments they shouldn't...
My mom she warns me along with my dad to not marry outside my white race.. and for awhile I stuck to that thinking I shouldn't date any other race :/ Then I met someone who was mexican and dated him and then later on in life met someone black an fell in a summer romance xD I honestly did love him.. and recently told my mom she didn't overract thankfully... was shocked a little and disapproving (could see it in her eyes) and then I live in a very racist town... lovely people... really... they annoy me...
But anyway I dont see a problem with marry or dating other races! Besides the whole problem of 'the kid wont know whats his history' he cant exactly be claimed to a history like whites or black history... So that would suck a little..
But anyway my parents know where I stand on the topic luckily and are just crossing ther fingers I'll come away from the "dark side" haha..

My dad comes from a Southern family on both sides who were incredibly racist, and while he himself isn't as racist as they are, there are a lot of problematic things he's said. When I was younger I didn't really understand the concepts and have said some pretty shitty things myself...but I feel like as I get older and my understanding of things grow I've really shed those initial mistakes and instead formed my own ideas and have left those racist concepts behind me.

It was worse when I was younger, though. My sister has only ever really dated black guys and at first it was this huge deal but my dad's seemed to mellow out a lot since then. Especially given her last boyfriend was one of the nicest and cutest guys ever

My mom's actually admitted to being biased against Filipinos too, after having certain experiences while living in Japan when she was younger.

I still sometimes get into arguments with my dad over some of the things he says, but I figure at least I am challenging him on these ideas now.

Mysigh* Yes. All of them. Racist and homophobes and bias.
Well, all of them but me, my pap, my brother, and two of my cousins.
my brothers really,always in jail, or too high to be,racist. My pap, me and,one of my cousins just really don't care if people are Asian, black, white, orange, brown, native American, polka dotted, rainbow, or zebra-print. My other cousin is just too young to know what racism is.

its really sad. On my,dads side, I'm a,quater,German. I was riding in the car with my moms mom one day (we were about ten minutes away from my house) and an ad came on the radio. Apparently the spokesperson was called Ted German ir something like that, and my grandmother starts ranting. "Oh my God, Hannah, how I HATE those f****ng n***er Nazi scumbags! They are all b*****ds and just plain a**holes!" Those were just some of the things she said. Now, don't get me wrong, I love celebrating my heritage, and I'm proud of it. I am proud to be German, and I'll let the world know it! Even though there are some parts of history (like pretty much any heritage, I presume) when you want to look lie and awkwardly mumble that you're not a part of that heritage, but that was just going waaaaay too far.
I flipped her off and walked home.
and pretty much all of my family still is racist. Very.much so. Sadly.