I don't know if I would define us as a "rape culture." But it does infuriate me that it's so much easier for someone, a man in particular, to joke about rape than it is for someone to report rape.
July 29th, 2012 at 08:02pm
With respect, that leads me to think you aren't clear on the definition of rape culture. Yes, some of the 'extremes' may not apply - but in a very pervasive and horrible way, much of our everyday experiences are actually coloured by it.
- catinabottle:
- I don't know if I would define us as a "rape culture."
Considering rape "normal" and/or not prosecuting it, is not the definition of rape culture.
- catinabottle:
The link has a conversational tone, and if you continue reading past the first couple of sentences, you see that it's a much broader definition. (And, like I said, even the narrow/'extreme' definition is, I think, somewhat applicable.)
- catinabottle:
Since the USA (and many western countries; Australia included) contain many of the myriad of symptoms of rape culture, and you suggested the US was not a rape culture, I was offering you a contrary definition to whatever definition you were employing. I guess that does suggest 'ignorance' but certainly not in any aggressive or offensive or generally negative way. Most disagreements come down to differences of definition.
- catinabottle:
I really think the ignorant thing is being taken too personally. Since I (clearly) disagree with her on the matter, my initial response was that she was ignorant about a (specialised) term; once she insisted this was not the case, I acknowledged that it became a difference of opinion. (Plenty of users in, for example, the evolution/creation thread use "theory of X" in the non-specialised - and thus inaccurate - way. I politely offered a definition I considered thorough, notwithstanding their initial use of Wikipedia.)
- Kurtni:
- It's seems harsh to me that you're presenting the idea of rape culture as this particular thing, and going as far as to call someone else ignorant, when even feminist groups cannot definire the term uniformly or agree on what exactly it means or who it applies to (and certainly some random blog that relies on Wikipedia as a reference is not an authority on the subject). It's controversial, and disagreement does not mean someone is ignorant.
Really, you don't think there's a culture of violence or racism in America? Also, I 100% disagree that the concept minimises or "outright tries to hide" abuse of men - firstly because I have literally never heard any woman who cared about violence against women support or mock male sexual abuse, secondly because sexual abuse in general is a part of rape culture, where being 'rough' is being sexy, where you can take a 'no' as a 'yes' because they were asking for it or had a glint in their eye, where the act of sex, generally, is seen as a dominating, violent act that's more about power than physical attraction - at the same time, 1 in 33 men being sexually assaulted and 1 in 5 or 6 (depending on your sources) women being sexually assaulted are massively different statistics and it's not an attempt to "minimise" the former by pointing out the absurd frequency of the latter (and discussing why this is the case and what can be done to turn it around.)
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- I think it's useless to talk about the entire culture of a country when no such uniformity exists (ie, a culture of violence, a culture of racism, etc.), and the attitude rape culture is discussed with minimizes, if not outright tries to hide, sexual abuse of males.
I think society is [currently] bad and anti-women, but I don't think that's an innate way of being and I don't think it's unchangeable - unless people go around saying "Nope, that isn't happening," in which case of course nothing will change. Yes, not 'everyone' romanticises male aggression and those other things (especially not the people in this discussion making these points: females) but it genuinely surprises me that the extremely prevalent and deep-seated objectification of and misogyny towards women can be not just overlooked but flat out denied.
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- Not everyone romanticizes male aggression, not everyone blames rape victims, not everyone objectifies women, not all media is rooted in misogyny. Condemning an entire society as bad and anti-woman is not just wrong, but furthers the idea that this is some unchangeable truth to our lives we should just accept.
- catinabottle:
- I didn't say anything ABOUT rape culture.
- catinabottle:
- I don't believe America is a rape culture.
- catinabottle:
- I don't think America is a rape culture.
This is saying something about rape culture.
- catinabottle:
- I just consider Iran and places like that more of a rape culture.
Why would you think that in Iran 'and places like that', there are no laws against rape and people there consider it to be 'normal'?
- catinabottle:
- @pravda No...just because I say that doesn't mean I don't know what it means. I just consider Iran and places like that more of a rape culture. We have laws against rape, and rapists tend to be at the bottom of the informal social hierarchy in prisons...I don't think Americans consider rape NORMAL, per say.
I didn't mean "normal" as in it doesn't happen often. Believe me, I know it happens often. I meant it isn't considered acceptable.
- dru chases the wind.:
- That actually sounds like women are getting raped 50% of the time in this country, which means that not only is not "not normal", it so "normal" [as in normally occurring] that it occurs as often as rape doesn't occur.