Well, I just want to say this because I've had male friends who are abused by their partners, and of course, there are people striving to make this not invisible to the rest of the world, and it needs to not be invisible anymore.
We discussed this in my Health classes as well, the fact that rape and spousal abuse are often attributed to women rather than to both men and women. And I'm sick of it. We have all of these statistics that talk about how often women are raped, and we seem them on this thread, but what about men? Are we ever going to have clear statistics on that? The world has just heaped this image upon their shoulders that they should be the strong ones, the ones who take everything in stride. How can they feel safe enough to report something like rape or spousal abuse? And I'm not talking just between male, homosexual relationships. I've had male friends who were being physically abused by their girlfriends who were too worried about the stigma of saying anything and the fact they believe no one will take them seriously. And because society has presented this image that women are so much more fragile than men, they are taught they are not supposed to hit woman, and so, they do not even defend themselves.
Men can be raped, too. It might be less common, though with reasons I've stated above, we might never know, but it does happen, and yet, rape is a crime that society wants to paint as always victimizing a woman. While I do sympathize with female victims and believe rape as a whole has to be stopped, I sympathize with men, too. It's a terrible crime that should happen to no one, but we have to face the reality that it effects both men and women, not just women, and we have to be ready to deal with it on that scale. That means that, if women can have shelters to run to, men should have them, too.
I believe in men and women being equal in all aspects, and that means treating them the same no matter what. Which means if a guy comes in, shaking and saying his partner's been abusing him and he needs somewhere to go, he should have somewhere to go. It's not fair that we only focus on women. That doesn't make the problem go away, it just makes the known statistical numbers go down, and while that might look good on paper, in reality, it's nothing. You can't sit with a male victim and tell him all of these things and expect him to care when he's suffering from rape or abuse. It's not enough.
We need to realize, also, that women can be predators, too, and that needs to be stopped as well. If men can't grope women, women can't grope men. Instead, it's been painted that it's okay that women are sexually harassing men while men can't do it back. For once, and I can't believe I'm saying this because I hated this movie, Horrible Bosses showed an excellent example of it not being okay when Jennifer Aniston's character was sexually harassing her employee and blackmailing him into having sex. No matter how the media makes it look, sexual harassment on both ends is bad.
I'm still in high school. When we're in session, you see it happen all the time. The guys come up and touch a girl inappropriately, and she and her friends get up in his face or go to the principal, but if a girl does it to a guy, he's made to fee like it's no big deal even if he is uncomfortable with it. When one of the guys I know did go to the counselor, who was a female, his claims were brushed off like it was nothing, and it was something.
If we're going to take steps to lessen what's happening to women, we need to take steps to lessen what's happening to men, too. That's not an opinion, that's a fact. It's also 4:52 in the morning here, so if I don't make sense in some places, let me know, and I'll clarfiy.
July 31st, 2012 at 10:52am