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  • psychotic secrets;

    psychotic secrets; (1400)

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    Recently my younger sister blew up on me because I said "My rock collection was smarter than her" on Facebook. I do not have her as a friend because I vent about her on my page. I never use her name though. Because everyone knows its probably her.

    Anyway she made a huge deal about it, like saying how messed up it was. All I can think is, I'm nineteen years old. I can't have a bit of privacy on my Facebook page? I have made the whole page completely locked down from anyone that isn't a friend. The only people I add are people I personally know and trust. But apparently a "friend" told her about the post and sent it to her. Which meant it had to have been a family member. My actual friends hate her.

    My grandmother or aunt to be exact. And with them I can't write anything down or the whole family will learn about it. They always like and share my stuff. I mean come on. That picture I posted with that marker doesn't have to be shared with EVERYBODY.

    Does this happen to anyone else or is my family just extremely nosy?
    January 11th, 2013 at 08:00am
  • folie a dru.

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    You should stop family members from seeing your status updates. You can make a 'custom' list to block them. I do this to block extended conservative family members, my boyfriend's mom, and co-workers.

    Next time you do a status post it should say 'friends' underneath. Click that, select 'custom', and input your mother and grandmothers' names.

    It will help.
    January 11th, 2013 at 05:58pm
  • psychotic secrets;

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    @ the drupocalypse

    I didn't even know I could do that! Thanks. This will really help.
    January 11th, 2013 at 06:25pm
  • folie a dru.

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    @ Psychotic Secrets
    No problem! I usually take it off every once in awhile, post some "safe" things, and then turn it back on so no one is like 'why haven't I seen you on FB lately'.
    January 11th, 2013 at 07:44pm
  • psychotic secrets;

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    @ the drupocalypse

    Clever! Thanks again. I try to post safe stuff anyway because everything I post is always spread around the entire family.
    January 11th, 2013 at 07:55pm
  • Valiente

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    The condition in my house is that I can control what I post and who I add to my contact list as long as my ad gets to check my Facebook whenever he wants. I don't mind it, really, but t does freak me out if I know I'd been cussing in a message or talking about something personal with a good friend.

    The other thing that bothers me is having family from my mom's side in my contacts. Things between that side of the family and I have always been rocky. They're all very strict, homophobic Christians (apart from one uncle that I don't get to see that often) and are all obsessed with my weight. Their opinions are much different from mine, so I have to watch what I say in statuses
    February 6th, 2013 at 05:31am
  • folie a dru.

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    I didn't have Facebook until I was an adult, but I did have a MySpace and an email and my parents had to have the password to both. (We did have some issues in my house with me and the internet, I will admit.)

    My mom didn't ask for my passwords, but she walked around in the background and would come up to me on the computer. The computer was in the living room. She said she knew we could do bad things on the computer, but she wanted to assume we weren't watching porn while she was in the living room with us. And my mom knows how to check computers for shit, so if you watched porn she'd privately confront you about it later. XD

    Now that I'm 25 I still block my stepmom from seeing a lot of what I post (don't like her), but my dad and stepmom see almost everything. We're a really cool, close family and I don't post shit on my Facebook that's ridiculously inappropriate.
    February 6th, 2013 at 04:48pm
  • Spooky Kim Taehyung

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    I once got into serious trouble because of a stupid Facebook post. I had a teacher fucking try to get me suspended!

    All I said was, word for word, I can't believe someone who can barely speak English scored a higher mark than I did.
    February 15th, 2013 at 02:38pm
  • ella vator.

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    I have friends and family on my facebook who can read my posts. I figure if there's something I want to post that I don't want family to be reading, I shouldn't be posting it to begin with. Has kept me out of trouble.
    February 16th, 2013 at 06:49pm
  • folie a dru.

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    @ ella vator.
    My problem is less with 'getting in trouble'; it's more trying not to get conservative relatives riled up with all the liberal political stuff i post. Therefore, I block them from seeing a lot of my posts.
    February 20th, 2013 at 12:46am
  • Selling dreams

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    My mums started adding people off of my friends list and commenting on nearly all their statuses.
    Its slightly pathetic, I don't have her on facebook, mainly because I can't stand her but I do have my boyfriends family on their which is equally as limiting.
    February 24th, 2013 at 04:40pm
  • Name Of Misery.

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    My parents' condition to me getting a facebook was adding them as friends so they could see my wall/timeline from a facebook friend's view. At the time I was kind of annoyed about it, because I was thinking of all of the inappropriate and explicit things I could potentially post, but now I honestly don't care. I only post really weird witty things and the worst word I say is 'shit' once in a while.

    I've added other family members, and I know they once in a while ask me stupid questions on pictures or statuses that don't pertain to the subject... like, I posted a picture of my lunch, and my aunt's sister (not related, though marriage) asked me "Why are you staying in town for school????"

    I sometimes will block posts from people who share too many photos, or, like my aunt, people who only post and repost and share political pictures and websites. It's not that I don't like her, or her political beliefs, but it gets mighty annoying when I'm always seeing the same kind of thing twenty times a day. Blocking posts is nice, too, because you don't have to actually delete a person as a friend, and it's reversible more than blocking/deleting an entire person's profile.
    April 17th, 2013 at 10:30pm
  • folie a dru.

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    I used to block some conservative relatives from seeing my posts. I stopped doing that this weekend. If they don't like my posts, they can block them. I'm only preventing them from seeing the ones where I use excessive amounts of language.

    (My boyfriend's mother I block still because I actually respect her opinion a lot more and I don't want her to get the wrong idea. We actually agree on a lot of the same things when we discuss them, but the Facebook condensing of issues would throw her a bit for a loop, I think.)
    May 20th, 2013 at 06:58pm
  • psychotic secrets;

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    I actually deleted all my family off Facebook and blocked everyone. I got tired of the post blocking and such. If they want to talk to me, they can contact my mother. I'm not dealing with it.
    May 22nd, 2013 at 10:47pm
  • I feel insane

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    I think the biggest issue I have with Facebook privacy is that if I comment on someone's status, or on a page that I like, my comment will appear in everybody else's newsfeed, which I think is utter bullshit.
    June 1st, 2013 at 10:38pm
  • The Real Mitt Romney

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    Ugh, fucking family and Facebook don't mix. I refuse to add my dad because he Googles me ALL THE TIME and tries to stalk me online. Like, what do you think I do online? Strip?

    And I once posted lyrics to a song ("it's just tequila and the beach that's why it's salty when we kiss") and my cousin, WHO I'VE MET ABOUT TWICE, freaked out on me and was all "you shouldn't be drinking. why are you drinking? who are you with? where are you?" and all that shit. Like, are you fucking kidding me? And he kept trying to act like my dad or something. Fuck outta there, I don't even know you.

    And if I dare to post anything with a curse word in it my fucking good for nothing cousins on my moms side (can I just say I don't fucking like them Cute non of them Cute) tell my mom. I mean, what the hell? I'm fucking 16 and I swear in front of my parents. No need to baby sit me.

    So, yeah. I've blocked nearly all of them.

    Holy shit I am so mad now. I'd like to yell at them all to leave me the fuck alone and stop worrying about me. They don't even know me or like me. Fuck off.

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    June 21st, 2013 at 09:26pm
  • olobersyko;

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    My mom used to have me sign into my facebook because I wouldn't add her as a friend, then she'd go through everything! My posts, my friends stuff, my messages, etc.. I'm like.. come on mom, seriously.. I'm sixteen, you don't have to treat me like I'm ten. ;/ Then, later on, she threatened to make me delete my facebook account unless I added her as a friend, so I added her so she would just stop. Now she goes through everything of mine, and tells me when she doesn't like something I post and makes me delete it. I'm seventeen, like really?

    So annoying how she treats me like a child.
    July 23rd, 2013 at 12:41am
  • folie a dru.

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    @ Jittsu Chan
    Well, to be fair, you are a child. I want passwords when my is agent Facebook. I met an online predator as a teen. I'd rather annoy my kud and keep them safe.
    July 23rd, 2013 at 02:51am
  • olobersyko;

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    @ dru's sick and tired
    Hm. I suppose that's true. Guess I'm just being a whiny teenager, haha.
    July 23rd, 2013 at 02:54am
  • folie a dru.

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    @ Jittsu Chan
    *when my child has Facebook. Sorry still getting used to auto correct.

    I'm sure it feels very heavy handed and like she doesn't trust you, but at least in a year you'll b done and she'll know she did her job.
    July 23rd, 2013 at 03:13am