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  • peaceforeber

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    Well, first of all, I started this topic because I needed some advice from people my age and things like that. Anywho I have never been one for peoples opinions but as I started to get older I started to wonder exactly whatpeople thought of me.

    And i neverused to think certain things about myslf or worry about how light or dark I am according to peoples standards until people started talking and I started listening. Then I saw myself in a different and new point of view.
    January 24th, 2013 at 05:18pm
  • ashleeinwonderland

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    I never used to care what people thought of me until I was like 15/16, then I cared way too much for a couple of years and I still care more than I'd like, but I think it was kind of a phase of caring too much because I feel like that's the age that most people start to change their styles and stuff.
    January 24th, 2013 at 11:43pm
  • Sansa Stark

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    Well, I do care. If someone says these pants don't look good on me, I'll look in the mirror and think

    Do I look good?

    Some times, I realize that the person was right and try to not wear those pants as often.

    Other times, I disagree with the person and realize that they were probably just jealous of my ass :p
    February 11th, 2013 at 08:03pm
  • folie a dru.

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    I didn't care what people thought about me until I was 12 and someone said something really rude about my looks. Then I cared too much, then I rebelled against caring. At this point I really don't care what people think of me. I think sometimes time is what makes you most comfortable.
    February 11th, 2013 at 08:06pm
  • ella vator.

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    This probably sounds lame but I honestly think to a certain point you will grow out of caring what people think of you. I used to care tons what people thought of me when I was in high school. Now that I'm older I just don't care anymore.

    You kind of realize that most people really aren't paying any attention to what you're doing anyway. Most people are too busy worrying about themselves to worry about what someone else is doing/talking about/dressing.
    February 11th, 2013 at 08:09pm
  • swell

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    @ ella vator.
    I agree. I used to care up until I was 13/14 and then from there when I moved campuses I kind of just, let go. I stopped caring about what others thought of me.

    At my first campus our ninth grade class was 30 girls, so it was hard to brush off what someone said about you when we all knew each other quite well. But then in tenth grade, moving to the biggest campus of our school, you make so many friends from different groups that say, when someone popular makes a comment about you, I just never cared because I wasn't interested in being friends with them. In high school it was funny to see how the majority of girls in my year cared so much about being invited to the coolest parties and being accepted by the popular girls, but my best friends never cared about that type of stuff. We were content in our own group.

    Then again, when moving to a different school, the comments about me died down a shitload and so I never really got comments (that I knew about) about me, so in that aspect it was easier to brush off what others said because they weren't really saying anything. Which was weird, because if someone else did what I did, they got hate for it. But I didn't, so ~
    February 12th, 2013 at 05:27am
  • paralumana

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    All the time, and it's suffocating me, actually. I can't go on the bus without suspecting people of laughing and talking about me and I can't walk through the school hallways without knowing people are judging me even with just one glance; things like that. I hate it because I always feel so embarrassed all the time and I get these hot flashes and ugh.
    April 6th, 2013 at 10:05pm
  • KittyOpal

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    Yeah I care, I think we do care to a degree, like several people on here, I cared a ridiculous about, then after a while, because I simply couldn't take it anymore, and I somehow found a new wave of confidence I stopped caring half as much. I still worry a little, but I don't let it rule my life anymore. (Well....apart from the fact I am trying to lose weight ready for when I got Ibiza - but that's also so I can give myself a little health kick that I know I need!)
    April 7th, 2013 at 12:23pm
  • Juliet16

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    I care about a person's opinion if they're close to me, but just people that I'm 'Friends' with, no. When I was younger I did and I tried hard all the time to please people but, as I got older it turned into 'screw you' thing, now if people criticize me I usually compliment them, seeing as how it makes them madder Very Happy So if you're in my very small trust bubble then, to an extent I care what you think, if you're not then you should really bother trying...
    April 16th, 2013 at 05:11pm
  • Sour Dime

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    I've probably always cared however if I were to pinpoint an age I would say about 11. I've always been self concious of my weight and how I looked and if boys liked me or if anybody wanted to talk to me. I usually came up with a no answer. When I went into high school as a sophomore (freshmen was at the jr high) I realized I had 1 friend he was alright I only saw him on tuesdays for lunch since that was the only thing our schedule had in common. I transferred to an online school at the end of the semester and never went back. I became more antisocial than I was before. I still care what people think just a bit less but not by much. I guess in hindsight if I were to do it over I would but I would rewind to elementary I think where I went wrong is my education and I never paid attention so I thought I was stupid so I became depressed so I didn't dress nice or care how I looked so people didn't want to be with me which in turn I guess that made me self conscious as well.
    April 16th, 2013 at 08:09pm
  • The Real Mitt Romney

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    I never used to care. I mean, last year I couldn't have cared. But I do get my moments when someone will mention things about me and it'll upset me. Like the fact that my friend as referred to the gap between my two front teeth as a "ghetto gap" that I am getting Veneers this summer. Veneers as in fake teeth, basically. I am getting my gums cut because my teeth look small because they're low and I am getting Veneers on my top front four teeth. I dyed my hair blonde because people I've been called ginger a few times and I was less than pleased. I am somewhat bulimic at times (I don't have it but apparently I do because I do it occasionally) and I am literally only losing weight so the few people have ever called me fat to my face will shove it. I'm afraid to wear winger eyeliner because of the same "friend" that refers to my gap as a "ghetto gap". I've thought about getting plastic surgery on my chin because the same friend and a another friend have made fun of my "buttchin" before and still do.

    But now I don't care anymore. I wanted my hair brown anyway. I wanted to get my teeth fixed anyone. I, for once, believe I fucking rock my ass chin. I don't care if people think I'm a bum because I don't brush my hair. I don't like my hair flat ironed and I don't like it when it's brushed because it looks fizzy. I don't care that I wear sweatshirts everyday. I don't care that I don't try. I'm kind of fat and I don't want to show my fat off to the world. But when it come down to it I just don't care anymore. I have my moments where someone says something and I am severely upset and consider surgery, but in the end I like the way I look. All I need to do is get Veneers because my dentist told me braces won't give me the results I want. And I like my big forehead. I like my giant eyes. I like my buttchin. Snob I don't care anymore. It's my body and I'll do what I fucking please with it. There is no law that states I have to brush my hair and flat iron it. Finger Thus I don't feel the need to do so. I like my messy, curly, wavy rat's nest. Deal with it. Cute
    April 16th, 2013 at 09:16pm
  • schrodinger's cat.

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    I've never cared, it's an alien concept for me. I am me and to me caring about what people think about you is a way of defining yourself through someone else. The only opinions that should matter to you are those of the people that matter to you and those whose opinions you esteem. But I grew up alone, I've spent the majority of life alone or feeling lonely so I grew up without there being anyone to tell me their opinions and when there was they were outside and other to me so I never cared. Tbh, I guess it's because I view myself as an outsider so it's never bothered me.
    Do what you want, being yourself is a kind of bravery that is rare for people of this generation I feel. Well, I'm not a child anymore so I wouldn't really know.
    April 21st, 2013 at 12:47am
  • the god of thunder.

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    @ ella vator.
    I used to care up until I was 13/14 and then from there when I moved campuses I kind of just, let go. I stopped caring about what others thought of me.
    I feel the same way.
    For me, I think it has to do a lot with not feeling the need to prove or explain myself to people anymore. As a kid, and even a teenager, I've always had this innate voice telling me I needed to justify all of my actions so that others would understand. But now it's easy to take up hobbies, express myself, dress a certain way, and behave the way I'd like to, and not feel the need to rationalize it with anybody. I think this happens as your brain matures and is able to look at things in a bigger way, not necessarily seeking to win approval anymore. It becomes more about your happiness and your understanding of who you are.
    August 2nd, 2013 at 06:06am
  • swell

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    @ Varuo.
    YES.
    EXACTLY.
    I always felt like I had to justify everything but now I'm just like, you know what, I don't care. I find that the more I don't care, the more happier I am. My best friend, for example, disapproves sometimes of the clothes I wear because it's not up to her 'standard', but you know what, she can go get effed. She used to make me feel bad about what I wore (it's because of my body type that I'm not able to wear what I want to wear, but I'm working on it) but I do feel like my style has developed and yes, it's not to everyone's taste but that doesn't mean you have to make me feel shit about it. File I honestly do not care that much about how I look in public, but if she's so concerned (or others), then they don't have to be seen with you.

    It just annoys me sometimes, and when she gets back from her holiday and the situation comes up, I'm going to tell her where to shove it.
    August 2nd, 2013 at 06:11am
  • the god of thunder.

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    @ swell
    Cheese You get to dress however you want, and she should know that it's rude of her to suggest that you're not meeting the standards of her subjective opinion. I haven't had much trouble with critical friends, but I've always had a nagging sense about strangers' judgement that used to bother me a lot. I'd try to observe myself from their perspective, and it was way too much to handle. I also went through quite a lot of bullying in both elementary school and high school, so I think I was conditioned to feel hesitant about my appearance in public, because I was scared that it would make me a target.
    But now I just don't have any time for that. Rolling Eyes I don't need anybody to be pleased with me, and if they make a big commotion out of whatever they don't like about me, they're gonna have to deal with the repercussions.
    August 2nd, 2013 at 06:18am
  • swell

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    @ Varuo.
    It's because I dress for comfort or I like bright patterns or sometimes I just don't wear colour at all (I really like wearing monochrome) and she's more into bright colours or simple patterns. I mean, I don't like what she wears sometimes but do you hear me saying anything? File It's not just me, she bags my other friends too and it's just annoying. Oh she knows it's rude but she doesn't care XD Besides her tendency to judge what we wear, she doesn't judge anyone for anything else, so.

    When I was in middle school though, everyone used to care what you wore - we had uniforms, but once or twice a term, we would have 'free dress days' - days where you got to dress up in whatever clothes you wanted to. I was picked on a lot in my middle school days (so I've blocked them out as a result) and I would get picked on by this one girl who knew if I had worn a top twice. Like, seriously? SERIOUSLY.

    It's quite funny now because the girl whom I hated (and vice versa, though I have no idea why she didn't like me), we're okay now tehe
    August 2nd, 2013 at 07:40am
  • carpe diem;

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    Occasionally I'll have my moments but most of the time I don't care. I just remind myself that everyone is probably too busy thinking about what other people are thinking of them that they're not gonna pay much attention to me so. XD
    August 3rd, 2013 at 12:48am
  • Eunoic

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    I don't really care about what people think of me. I'm speaking as a girl who never wears makeup, and has shaved her head bald. I know people will and do talk about me behind my back, but I also know that the one's who are truly my friends don't give a damn what I look like.

    On the other hand, I do care about when people talk about the way I act. I hate being treated like I'm a joke, and when people treat me like I am a joke, with no respect, it really gets to me.
    August 4th, 2013 at 05:38am
  • wxyz

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    In some cases, it's advisable to care about people's opinions of you. In some cases, the opinions of other people are what will help you progress or get what you want. There are situations in which your coming off well will be beneficial to you.
    August 4th, 2013 at 01:22pm
  • folie a dru.

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    Right now I have the issue of knowing that people look down on women who stay with a man who has cheated, which I am right now.
    August 4th, 2013 at 09:05pm