@ amybh33
I can give you advice from my personal experience even though I'm only 18 myself. I turned 18 last August. But beforehand, I had moved out in May while I was still 17. I moved in with a friend who soon turned into a boyfriend and now is my daughter's father. We aren't together anymore but we're still friends. If I had to choose all over again, I wouldn't have moved out so young. However my living situations at home weren't the greatest because my dad was an alcoholic and a drug addict. He'd abuse me, especially when he was messed up on all that crap. That was my reason for leaving. I live in Michigan and when you hit 17 in most cities here you are no longer considered a minor, but not yet an adult. You can legally leave your house without your parents permission and they can't call the cops on you and consider you a runaway because a runaway is a minor, which a 17 year old here, is not. My parents used to threaten to call the cops every time I'd threaten to leave. But for me, it was either leave or end up in jail for blowing up on my dad. So, I left. Parents couldn't do anything about it.
I'm not sure about the laws where you live, but it might be the same. You seem like a respectable parent, not into drugs or anything and seem to have a good home life. Your daughter seems very responsible as well. I suggest sitting down and having a talk with her about the situation. Let her know that you'd rather her wait until she is of age to move out on her own, and that you don't want her moving in with her boyfriend so young. Believe me, moving in with mine-at-the-time was a huge mistake. The only good thing out of that whole situation, was my daughter. But all and all, let her know how you really feel. Try to keep as calm as possible. Let her know that being on her own is hard, especially that young.
Hope this helped you out a bit!
I can give you advice from my personal experience even though I'm only 18 myself. I turned 18 last August. But beforehand, I had moved out in May while I was still 17. I moved in with a friend who soon turned into a boyfriend and now is my daughter's father. We aren't together anymore but we're still friends. If I had to choose all over again, I wouldn't have moved out so young. However my living situations at home weren't the greatest because my dad was an alcoholic and a drug addict. He'd abuse me, especially when he was messed up on all that crap. That was my reason for leaving. I live in Michigan and when you hit 17 in most cities here you are no longer considered a minor, but not yet an adult. You can legally leave your house without your parents permission and they can't call the cops on you and consider you a runaway because a runaway is a minor, which a 17 year old here, is not. My parents used to threaten to call the cops every time I'd threaten to leave. But for me, it was either leave or end up in jail for blowing up on my dad. So, I left. Parents couldn't do anything about it.
I'm not sure about the laws where you live, but it might be the same. You seem like a respectable parent, not into drugs or anything and seem to have a good home life. Your daughter seems very responsible as well. I suggest sitting down and having a talk with her about the situation. Let her know that you'd rather her wait until she is of age to move out on her own, and that you don't want her moving in with her boyfriend so young. Believe me, moving in with mine-at-the-time was a huge mistake. The only good thing out of that whole situation, was my daughter. But all and all, let her know how you really feel. Try to keep as calm as possible. Let her know that being on her own is hard, especially that young.
Hope this helped you out a bit!
April 19th, 2013 at 08:18am