Your Mom's Boyfriend/Your Dad's Girlfriend

For those of us whose parents are divorced and in relationships, let's discuss this new dynamic of "the Boyfriend" or "the Girlfriend".

-What are they like?
-Do you approve of them?
-Do you get along?
-Is it awkward for you?
-What has the experience been like?

Well my parents have been divorced since i was fifteen. My mom had the same boyfriend until I was about twenty, he suddenly died. At first I didn't like him much, i felt he was the cause of the divorce in the first place. Then he sort of grew on me because he did more than my own father did. Then I moved out and live with my boyfriend now. He died about a year or two later from unknown causes. Though a few months after he died, my mom met someone else. He was a mutal friend and they really seemed to hit it off. They wound getting married in 2012 but I wasn't there for the wedding, made me a little mad. I think they got married at the court house.

I like him as long as he's what makes my mom happy. I hate to see her sad and upset. I suppose it's a little awkward for the fact that I don't know him that well. Even before the divorce when my mom was with the other boyfriend, i had known him for years. With my stepfather, i barely know him that well since i live a few towns away. He seems to really like me because I seem to be not as rambunctious as my brother, if that's the word to use. I hope that he lives longer for my mom because she really loves him now and I hope they have a good life together. She deserves all the happiness she can get.

My moms boyfriend of 7 years is her biggest mistake. rude, selfish, and really immature for being 34 years old. Mental issues is his speciality. I hate to admit that he's the only person I really have a bad feeling about. We bicker constantly cause he just thinks he knows it all and always right, yet you can never point out his flaws. I've watched him manipulate my mom for years and she seriously thinks she's soooo happy. Give me a break. They've had physical and emotional altercations practically every year of my life. Just recently he picked a fight with my boyfriend who was living with me at my moms house. Needless to say, my mom takes his side over everything and ganged up on him too, which made me furious that I packed up my shit and moved back to my boyfriends grandparents house back where I went to beauty school.

I gave up trying to get my mom to find someone else. I mean his OWN family can't even stand him. What person threatens women, but won't actually carry it out if it comes to a man. As long as alive, we will never get along.

Out of only two comments, the experiences are incredibly dissimilar.

My parents separated when I was twelve. My mom was meeting up with her ex-husband for a while (she married him before she met my dad), but nothing much happened. I like him; he's nice and understanding. My dad has been dating a girl he knew from high school for around a year(?). I like her, too; we get along pretty well. In fact, I'll probably have a step brother in a few months (the kid is terrified of me). It's not really awkward for me, no.

@ moreau
Haha, your possible-future step-brother is terrified of you? Why is that?

@ Rave on Spaceboy
He's like five years old and I'm not entirely sure. Whenever I talk to him, he gives me this big-eyed gawking stare and slowly shuffles away.

I just don't think he knows me that well.

@ moreau
Ha, he sounds cute.

I just met my dad's girlfriend, so I don't know her very well yet. But her name's Heidi, he met her at a church function i believe.

She's little and blonde and cute, and friendly enough, but it's still kinda awkward around her because she's only the second person my dad's dated since he and my mom split 4 years ago. the first person was, uh...really bad... so it's kinda hard to trust her, even though I'm sure she's fine.

but she lives in the same condo complex area as my dad so they're around each other a lot, it's cute. I'm sure I'll get used to her soon enough. she also has a son that's a couple years older than me who's really nice, so that's good. :)

Both of my parents are with someone else now, and I approve of everyone and the whole situation. My Mom's boyfriend is my favorite because I feel like he's easier to relate to. He's just a really nice guy. My Dad's new wife is cool, too though, I guess. She's just got a different personality that I find harder to approach. Plus, my relationship with my Dad has always been either bad or good but weird (currently it's good but weird) so there's that.
But for the most part, it's not at all awkward. I'm glad my parents have found the happiness with others that so eluded them for their entire marriage as I knew it. Literally everyone involved is happier, and I couldn't ask for more than that.

I don't have divorced parents, but I have divorced grandparents. I'm the step grandchild. My grandfather's wife, she used to be so kind. I would sleep over at their house with my siblings on weekends. She would always make us these cookie cutter toast for breakfast. She would take cookie cutters and create fun shapes out of the toast. It was always a blast picking out the cookie cutters to use. We had a lot of activities like this, and then her own children had kids. My step cousins, I guess. Suddenly we became the black sheep. My siblings and I would stop being invited over. She became passive aggressive in the most extreme measures. My grandpa didn't catch on for a long time. The worst I can ever remember- I have always been a huge disney fan. I remember learning about the fact that their was a disney cruise and I brought it up with my step- grandma because she always planned the vacation. She was like "hell yah! Let's do it." I found out a few months later, she took my cousins and not me. I confronted her about it and she said she was planning another trip with just me and my siblings. A few months later, my cousins went on a second disney cruise. I still haven't gone. I gave up having a relationship with her long ago. I've stopped letting her scheming bother me. I don't cry when she pulls this crap on me because I expect it now. My grandfather recently just started to see who she was, but he's terrified that she will leave him. I think he's scared to be alone, so he doesn't press it as much as he should. My cousins and my aunts and uncles, they just assume we get the same treatment they do. It doesn't even cross their mind to second guess her.
My "Nana" who divorced my grandfather long ago, remarried a man who doesn't know how to act around me. He doesn't treat me poorly, he just never wanted kids and doesn't know how to talk to me. As I've grown older and am now in college, we are starting to have a dialogue. He can be a bit selfish, which bothers me. But I think he really loves her and they seem to be happy together. So I'm okay with him.

My dad is dating a girl and it's hilarious to even think about it. My dad is 42, and his girlfriend is 22, almost 23. She's 3 years older than me and treats me like she's my mother whenever I'm around her. At the time I was living with her and my dad so I understood there were rules to be followed, but we were down each others throats all the time because I didn't agree with half the shit she tried getting me to do, and my dad doesn't say shit to me, he would let me get away with murder honestly but she always tries bossing me around and I wasn't having it, there were days when she wanted to act like my best friend and than the next day she would talk shit behind my back, so she may be older but she surely acts 5. Therefore I just don't like her, in the last 4 months things got even worse and I have no respect for her whatsoever anymore, I only put up with her because her and my dad had a daughter (my sister), and she's the most important person to me, otherwise I'd never look at her again.

As for my mom's boyfriend, he's okay, lately he's been kind of distant from me, but he had treated me more like a daughter than my dad has ever treated me. He welcomed me into his home, knowing I had nowhere else to live, I don't have a job and cant pay bills, but still hasn't thrown me out because he sees more potential in me than my real dad, so I approve of him.

My mom passed away a week before my 17th birthday. The complicated bit is that I have two dads. My biological father has been with my step mom for longer than I can remember - my parents split not long after I was born so it's all I've known. When I was 4 she got remarried to a man named Dave who adopted my 3 brothers and I.

It's been almost 6 years since my mom passed away and Dave is getting married this coming June. Kathy is super sweet, I think she and my mom would've gotten along great. She isn't the problem - he is. Dave is the man who has raised me and been my father for the last 20 years of my life, and considering I'm turning 23 that's a big chunk of time. But lately... for the past 2 years it just seems like he isn't interested in being our father - he doesn't ever call to check in with any of us, not even his own biological children, he makes plans with us and then just cancels last minute. He hasn't filed his taxes in years so I can go to college (long story)..... he's just checked out. It seems like all he cares about is his new wife and her three young children. I feel like my mother didn't exist to him... Like he just completely wrote her and her children out of his life.

Sometimes it’s awkward, especially at first, but if they make your parent happy, it can be worth giving them a chance. smm followers