Gay Couples Adopting

  • January Rose

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    September 4th, 2014 at 03:57am
  • Airi.

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    @ January Rose
    It wouldn't be all that less likely actually. You seem to be ignoring outside factors and only paying attention to the idea that only a mother and father could raise a child well, which is completely untrue. A child who has same-sex parents is no more less likely to have a strong and important figure of the opposite gender than a child being raised by a single parent nor a child being raised by heterosexual parents. No child is "less likely" to have a strong and important figure of each gender in their lives regardless of what type of parents they are being raised by. Throughout our lives, there are multiple opportunities for us to grow strong relationships with adults and see them as parental/guidance figures. From teachers to coaches to counselors to even friends' parents, any of these people can become an important character in a person's life. I was raised by heterosexual parents. When my dad died, my mother raised me on her own. Even when my dad was alive and I was being raised by a heterosexual couple, I still found an outside figure who became like a guidance/parental figure. My best friend's father became like a second father to me. I spent so much time at her house and around her that her father had begun considering me like another child to him.

    That same thing could happen for a child being raised by a single parent or a child being raised by a same-sex couple. Nothing is stopping the child from forming strong parental-like relationships with an outside figure in their daily lives. The idea that a child being raised by a same-sex parent would be less likely to have a figure of the opposite gender in their lives is perpetuating propaganda against gay parenting. With that said, studies have been done on same-sex parents in comparison to heterosexual parents. All of the studies found that children being raised by same-sex parents were doing just as well as their peers that were being raised by heterosexual parents. They weren't at a disadvantage and they weren't missing anything a child with heterosexual parents had. There wasn't a difference; the only difference was the gender of the parents.
    September 5th, 2014 at 11:18am
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    They can adopt all they want! It's so mind-boggling that this is an issue for some people, because you would think that they would be glad that children are getting adopted from homes? It shouldn't matter the gender of the parents so long as they're loving to the children that they adopt. That's all that matters to me.
    September 6th, 2014 at 08:31pm
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    January Rose:
    Males and females are different. That's why opposites attract.
    But in what way does that affect parenting? And clearly attraction happens between members of the same sex too.
    September 16th, 2014 at 07:10pm
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    @ January Rose
    Basically all your arguments have already been deconstructed already, so I'm not going to bother repeating to you why your arguments are flawed. So, I am going to ask you if you have any other reasons to be not 100% supportive of kids being adopted into loving homes?
    September 16th, 2014 at 10:53pm
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    Despite the amount of research that has been conducted, it hasn't been determined whether or not children develop differently if they are raised by gay parents. We as a society have overrated the role of gender in parenting. I think that there are less gay parents who take their children for granted because starting a family when you're gay is almost always costly and time consuming.
    September 19th, 2014 at 03:32am
  • January Rose

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    They should be allowed to adopt. After watching the show The Fosters and really thinking about was best for the child, I think if 2 gay/lesbian people are committed to themselves and the child, they should get the child. Of course the same rules apply, they must have a stable income, cannot abuse the child, etc.
    If the only reason people aren't letting them adopt is because of their sexual orientation, that's sad. Thankfully in Canada, gays have the same rights as heterosexuals.
    October 24th, 2014 at 08:09pm
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    @ January Rose
    But they shouldn't get married just yet, right?
    October 25th, 2014 at 05:30pm
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    @ dru is beautiful.
    No, they should get married or be married. I'm a little confused of what your asking...?
    October 25th, 2014 at 05:53pm
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    @ January Rose
    I'm referring to your post in another thread when you said there were more important things than gay marriage. I find it odd, wih your religious beliefs, you think a couple should be able to have kids before you think they should have the right to marry.
    October 25th, 2014 at 05:56pm
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    @ dru is beautiful.
    No, I think they should be allowed to marry and then be able to adopt the kid. I live in Canada, were being married to the same sex is legal by law. And about the California law, I think they should address the issue, but isn't California broke right now?? Don't you believe that is a bigger issue, considering it effects everyone???
    October 25th, 2014 at 07:48pm
  • CallusedSilk

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    @ January Rose
    California's budgetary problems have literally nothing to do with gay marriage and are nowhere near being part of the equation.
    October 25th, 2014 at 10:56pm
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    @ January Rose
    Actually, California's economy has been slowly improving since we legalized same-sex marriage - since we fought for the civil rights of all our citizens. California still struggles with our budget and our economy but we're slowly recovering. Schwarzenegger truly destroyed us and ran us into the ground financially. It's going to take years to fix and redo the damage Schwarzenegger did. And same-sex marriage is helping with that. It is helping in the fact that it creates more revenue for the State. Now that all citizens in California are equals, more people are getting married and thus creating more money.

    With that said, our budget should not be put over the rights of our citizens. Civil rights always effect everyone even if it is not a direct effect. The LGBTQ rights movement is fighting for the civil rights of LGBTQ individuals and civil rights should always be a top priority. Our budget is a top priority but the rights of our citizens were also a top priority. Now that we have equality, it no longer is a top priority because we've already gotten it. But it should have been a top priority before and I for one am thankful to my government for making the fight for LGBTQ rights a top priority in California.
    October 25th, 2014 at 11:40pm
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    I think anybody who's willing to love a child should be able to adopt regardless of gender preferences. I mean do you know how many stories there is each and every day of parents abusing their children? And how often do you hear about the parents being a gay couple? I find it so disheartening that as much as children are constantly let down, abused, tortured, etc, we'd rather further kill any opportunities for them to receive love. I know so many passionate people who would love to be parents, it's sickening they can't have a simple right that any normal person should have.
    October 27th, 2014 at 03:53am
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    @ CallusedSilk
    I know, I was just responding to "Airi"'s question.
    October 28th, 2014 at 05:07pm
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    @ January Rose
    Well, there was a repost where you'd posted something else and either hadn't specified who you had replied to or you had replied to me, but it seems you've erased the content of your post since then.
    October 28th, 2014 at 09:04pm
  • Annothy

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    I think its amazing that same sex people can adopt. It shouldn't matter who your parents are as long as they love you and care for you then its perfectly fine. Its not like it affects the child, right? If anything it helps them not to discriminate.

    After all its all the same love.
    February 24th, 2015 at 07:55pm
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    Agreed
    February 25th, 2015 at 01:17am