Gay Couples Adopting

I agree with the users that are saying that it shouldn't matter what your orientation is, but whether a couple will make good parents with morals, character, and etc. Your orientation should not determine if you are a "good" or "bad" person, but it should be your character.

Blinded_Ryter:

I agree with the users that are saying that it shouldn't matter what your orientation is, but whether a couple will make good parents with morals, character, and etc. Your orientation should not determine if you are a "good" or "bad" person, but it should be your character.

amen.

I think it's a wonderful thing.
Would you rather have a child have a two fathers or mothers than have none?
I was a helper of my countie's NJ GSA Forum (Our school was the host). I'm adopted and this very nice gay couple asked me about me beind adopted because they wanted to adopt a child. I felt honored that they wanted my opinion. It's very considerate that people consider adoption.

There is my mind.:

I know a lot of people have strong views against gays being aloud to get married or adopt children, and it is part of their religion. Honestly that is fine with me, I respect all religions.

But I also know there are other religions where it is sinful to drink alcohol. So just because one religion says it is against the law to drink alcohol should we ban it for everybody? NO! What is right for you is not necessarily what is right for everybody else.

The gender of two parents has nothing to with how much love or care they are capable of giving to a child.

And as far as needing a male and female role model. Um, give me a break! How many single parents do we have out there that do just fine. Nobody seems to care about those parents as long as they're going to church every Sunday.

The adoption agency should look at the overall circumstances of the parents who want to adopt, and try to give the children the best possible home they can. Regardless of the couples genders!

EXACTLY. I'm a Christian, and I think gay adoption should be allowed for the exact reasons that you specified.

Some people say gay adoption shouldn't be allowed because children raised in those homes grow up thinking that homosexuality is okay. That's basically saying nobody can adopt unless they live a specifically Judeo-Christian lifestyle in that respect. Why not prevent atheists and Muslims from adopting, too? It's the exact same logic.</self-righteous rant>

Being bisexual I am all for it. I would happily marry a woman and I do not see why we should not be able to adopt if me and my wife could supply the love, affection and care a child needs.

I'm all for it. I think that anyone who can give love and care for a child should be able to do it. Regardless of their sexual preference. I mean really, what does their sexuality have to do with it?

I'm for Gay Adoption. I don't think that there is anything wrong with a couple wanting a child. For me, it's the same as if a heterosexual couple wanted a child and couldn't. They would want to adopt. So, for me anyway, reguardless of what the couple is, gay or not, I think they should still have their rights to raising a child.

druscilla cheap sex.:

I think that people who will make good parents [responsible, financially able, etc.] should be able to adopt.

Sexuality shouldn't be important.

I concur. ~~

^That is my point of view. If the parents can support and take care of the child, I'm all for it.

shinygravimcr:

druscilla cheap sex.:

I think that people who will make good parents [responsible, financially able, etc.] should be able to adopt.

Sexuality shouldn't be important.

I concur. ~~

Totally agree. It doesn't affect my life to as to whther or not a child has parents of the same sex or parents of the opposite sex. Sexuality doesn't determine how good a parent is going to be in my opinion.

sasnak:

No , no , no!
I know my opinion won't change anything but uh, that's weird to have people that are gay adopt babies. But it's the person who has the baby's choice.
Eek!

Weird? How the hell is it weird?
I think a lot of people are weird, but they can adopt. Why is there a difference? I've never understood why homosexual people are "weird." If they're weird, then I'm a crazy fucking looney bin, and I'm straight!
We all have our "strange" qualities. Some people don't think being homosexual is weird. Why are their opinions dimished? Just because a few religions say that it's wrong does not make it wrong. I'm a Christian and I fully support it, but I guess that makes me weird, right?

Please. Someone explain to me 1) why homosexuals are "weird" and 2) why the parent's sexuality matters. Because I don't understand the logic behind either of those. It doesn't matter, they're not weird.

And sorry about the rant. :shifty I'm just not in a good mood today at all, and reading that pushed me over the edge. :grr:

sasnak:

No , no , no!
I know my opinion won't change anything but uh, that's weird to have people that are gay adopt babies. But it's the person who has the baby's choice.
Eek!

May I ask how it's "weird"? :shifty
Sexuality should have nothing to do with adopting children. It is the character. Do the parents have good morals? Are they stable? If the two women/men are financially and emotionally ready to adopt children, who is anyone to stop them?

I find it interesting that people defend their position against gay adoption by reasoning that "a child needs both a female/mother figure and a male/father figure in its life", but seem to have no issue with the concept of a single parent raising a child. It may also be worth pointing out that just because a gay couple are raising a child, that doesn't necessarily mean that that child will never have any kind of contact with a family member/friend of the opposite sex to its parents. E.g. a male couple whose mother(s)/sister(s)/female cousin(s)/female friend(s) are also a part of the child's life, or a female couple whose father(s)/brother(s)/male cousin(s)/male friend(s) are part of the child's life.

@ Alex; periphery.
To be fair, I know several people who don't think a single parent family is ideal. My mom thinks a two parent household is ideal and she gets so upset about the thought of me having two partners and raising a child. She's accepting, but statistically it is healthiest for a child to be in a two parent home, though I don't think it matters as long as the parent(s) are good parent(s).

And I agree with the whole other gender role model thing. A child will bond with adults they find to be trustworthy and those adults will most likely be of different genders. Not to mention I think a single gender parent group would be aware that their child should be exposed to role models of other genders.

@ dru's hammer.
Statistics usually analyze children from broken homes, ie, when there was two parents and they split up/got divorced/one parent flaked. They rarely acknowledge, say, a single, successful woman who chooses in vitro fertilization because she isn't married and wants to have a child while she biologically can. I think a single parent home where one parent was unprepared to be the sole provider is different than when it was planned to be a single parent home.

So I think your opinion that a good parent is a good parent is more valid than statistics in this case, because they're presented in a misleading way and manipulated to say a certain thing.

Alex; periphery.:

I find it interesting that people defend their position against gay adoption by reasoning that "a child needs both a female/mother figure and a male/father figure in its life", but seem to have no issue with the concept of a single parent raising a child. It may also be worth pointing out that just because a gay couple are raising a child, that doesn't necessarily mean that that child will never have any kind of contact with a family member/friend of the opposite sex to its parents. E.g. a male couple whose mother(s)/sister(s)/female cousin(s)/female friend(s) are also a part of the child's life, or a female couple whose father(s)/brother(s)/male cousin(s)/male friend(s) are part of the child's life.

It's actually quite hard to adopt as a single parent, especially if you're not female. The NHS also doesn't provide free IVF for single women.

@ kafka.
You can get treatment with a sperm donor for £850 though, so it doesn't exactly break the bank.

kafka.:

It's actually quite hard to adopt as a single parent, especially if you're not female. The NHS also doesn't provide free IVF for single women.

That's true. But all kinds of 'single parent' can fit into my statement, e.g. a mother whose partner died or ran off while she was pregnant or while the child was an infant, a father whose partner died in childbirth, etc.

@The Rumor, is that all? I was thinking it would be thousands of pounds to get a sperm donor. My fiancee and I want children in the future and we were thinking we would have to save up loads and loads of money to be able to do it.

Also, I'm all for gay adoption. If a gay couple can provide the love, support and nurture a child needs then let it be. Gay/bisexual couples can bring up children just as well as straight people can.

@ Fall To Pieces
Some couples need more than one treatment, which is where it gets expensive. Sperm donor treatments don't directly fertilize the egg. It involves almost as much chance as having sex, where as with in vitro you have the assurance that there is an embryo, it just has to attach properly. And, there are different kinds of artificial insemination, and cervical insemination would be cheaper than intrauterine insemination... but intrauterine insemination is more effective.

If malpractice insurance wasn't so crazy, I wouldn't mind being a nurse at fertility clinic. I think it's so interesting.