If by trying to help you mean any kind of well meaning, unasked for condescension, then, yeah, it is offensive - the same way randomly grabbing a visually impaired person by the hand and crossing the street with them because, although they didn't ask for your help, you just assumed that they couldn't possibly cross the street on their own is offensive. I don't see how making do with the rhetoric of diseaseness and wrongness could make anyone less likely to seek help, so few people get help now because people are still afraid of being diagnosed with a mental or developmental disorder because that diagnosis brings with it huge cultural stigma. People who want to help need to focus on helping, not on telling the people they're supposed to help how horrible, unnatural and diseased they are - how could that ever help anyone in any significant way?
- The Master.:
- That really does imply that trying to help someone deal with the bad aspects of a developmental or mental health issue is an offensive act. Or hell, even seeking out help sounds like you're a self-hating neurodiverse person...which will be unhelpful to someone who is already hating themself.
I'm glad you said that's rude and wrong because that's exactly what our society tells to trans people when they start talking about their experiences - 'nope, doesn't matter, you're trans, so you don't get an opinion'. If you don't believe me, try to think of how many trans characters have been played by actual trans actors not by cis ones - yes, that's right, nearly none, although there are plenty of films specifically about being trans and countless films with just one/a few trans character. And our society is us, all the cis people, we are the reason why transprejudice exists and we are the ones who have been silencing trans people about their experiences for centuries - denying that we have that privilege just makes it stronger.
- the same dru.:
- No, all I'm saying is that if a cis person starts talking about something trans related that it's rude and wrong to slap a hand over their mouth and say 'nope, doesn't matter, you're cis, so you don't get an opinion'. Or, the equivalent, ignoring them because they 'don't matter'.
I don't ignore my boyfriend when he discusses abortion just 'cause he has a dick. That's rude and wrong.
I also have a no uterus, no opinion on whether people with uteruses should enjoy the basic human right of self-ownership and not be slaves to the male dominated government policy. My heart just breaks for all the men who are denied the privilege of owning women's bodies, it must be so hard on them.
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Edit: I will go in search of a more suitable thread to reply so we don't spam here.
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February 23rd, 2012 at 10:29pm