@ CallusedSilk
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
The only name I see listed in your entire post is Anita S. Maybe I missed the other women you didn't actually specifically name, and I apologize if that happened. Although I will say there is no 'not fairly sure', and it's just that the last sentence in this part I quoted just makes no sense. It's incredibly odd wording. Are you trying to say that anyone trying to self-proclaim as a feminist and saying one gender has it worse than the other is always false?
Then you didn't actually read all of my post. I brought up Jaclyn (No idea if I am spelling her name right) , the one who accused the college frat house of gang rapping her. But even if you see one name, if you correctly read, you will see I am not aligning everything in ym post under Anita's name, rather an example, because well, she is a well known name.
The last sentences makes sense in my eyes. I am saying that using such a banner name and acting like only women are oppressed and men are not is irrational. I hope that makes more sense.
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
Really? You posted specifically the opinions of one feminist as if it reflects all feminists, yet my bringing up Rush Limbaugh is out of line? I never said he was an example of feminism. I said he was showing that you can always take the worst of any group and make them look bad. It is an appropriate analogy. If Rush Limbaugh doesn't make men look bad then Anita Sarkeesin doesn't make feminists look bad just because of her views since it's not representative. I mean, as a man, do you honestly believe that women want to be sexually harassed? Because Rush Limbaugh thinks they do.
Me using Anita is not me at all using "Anita is a militant, therefor I hate feminist and all feminist are this way!"
But not only is that why your analogy is such a fallacy, but because a movement brand name is not the same of a gender one can not help being. Feminism is a distinct movement, comparing Rush to all men are bad is like saying Joseph Stalin proves atheist are bad when anyone rationally thinking will know why that does not work. As for feminism, unlike Atheism and Gender classification (or use race if you want) people band together under a philosophy they have in their mind, like "Let us work to make the equity for all genders". That is more lump-able than men. As I said, you can us Rush as an example of lumping Republican Conservatives, and that would be a good analogy, because it's an ideology/philosophy people use the name to show their view side.
I know what you are saying, and I agree, but I am saying the analogy doesn't work. that is why I said it would make more sense if you used Rush this way: "Using Anita to say feminism is bad is like saying Rush is why Republicans are bad".
You can choose to be a republican or a feminist, it's a branch name and that is all it is. It is a battle horn and a banner flag. People are not called feminist because they say they believe in equality, they say you are a feminist if you meet the definition or you bellow "I am a feminist".
The issue with people like Anita is she is, in a sense, brainwashing and ruining many male lives, namely with her pseudo march on games and gamers. Trying to even ban games like GTA V because the game allows you to kill a hooker for you money. It is actually representative, only for the extremist side though. Like I already said, not all women or feminist are this way. I am dating a feminist. I have been fairly clear on this, and to be frank you have missed quite a few points like that to which I have stated. It's not a big deal though.
But no, I never specifically said anything remotely connected that there is Anita and therefor this and that. I used her to explain some of the outlandish ideologies the philosophy of feminism brings. It can stem one notion and it still follows to the philosophy. I said people LIKE Anita. Meaning that the banner to which this thread is about allows nut cased to grow. Just as you have Muslims who are perfectly fine, the philosophy allows people like ISIS, or the Middle Age version of the Catholic Church for Christianity. Not ones, nor will you be successful in finding me lumping feminist or feminism being bad because Anita, rather that it spores such views, and worst of all people like that have audiences who do not think and see how irrational their views are.
AS I stated, I find making women equal to men irrational, not men and women being equal, to which how and what I mean by this was already explained. Anita is an example and was used as such of how the banner name allows things too happen, but this does not mean all, as I said and nothing I said even remotely supports your claiming me doing what you think I was.
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
Then why use her quotes to define an entire movement? Also, please never identify anything I say as 'rambling on'. Also, if it's a minute issue then why write 1000+ word responses to every single person that posts in a feminism thread in a forum? This is literally a feminism forum. And you could care less to lump a group over said number is also irrational? What are you talking about?
I didn't. You used my post to think I did. I never ones said feminism is bad, here is why. Before I even went into feminism in regards to
people like Anita, I explained a small bit why I do not like the name. Not once did I use her quotes to justify an entire movement, not once.
I can and I will, because rambling on isn't a bad thing. You are not even reading my post, you are just cherry picking words or statements. Because you did, in the begging, bring things up that had no coloration to what I said,m be it misread or whatever the case, I said that if you ARE. Meaning, if you are just bringing that stuff up that is completely irrelevant to what I said. Which, in short is and would be you rambling on. I am not goign to not use an idiom like that because someone doesn't like that. If the phrase fits than I will use it. I didn't say you did, I do not know if you did because you can tell I was confused by what you were even bringing up, it had no relation to what I was saying. If what you do is 'rambling on', than tagging it as so is justifiable.
What are you talking about? I wrote one +1000 word reply to a person who asked, because I was going into detail, something I do, when I write, as a bad habit and rather... Curse if you will. I never did it too you when you first asked me nor did I even do it to ever other person. In fact that was my first response. Where are you pulling that notion from? That is false on ever level. I am noticing you are not completely comprehending what I have typed out, like the whole "I notice you bring up science and scientific field yet what you do is not scientific." On things, that first off all are not even science to begin with, but not actually understanding what I even said. You just saw the word science and replied too it without comprehending what the entire statement was.
For example, on your last part on the second to last post, you brought up science. If you go back you will see I am saying that I care not about events like "Oh I need to sign up for the draft, that is sexist!" (I wouldn't anyways) but I wouldn't care about fighting something as small as that because I find the advancement of my self and my intellect and knowledge and science more important in my life THAN complaining about something so stupid. People who find an issue will do that, the Men's Right will do that as the feminist do their thing. People will handle the issues, I could not care about signing up for the draft. THAT is where I brought up science. Just as I would or anyone else, say that college is more important to me than fighting abortion laws. So your whole statement on even bringing up what I said was false and misunderstood. You didn't even understand why it was brought up. I only brought it up to say that I have other things in my life more important than protesting on the street. I wont protest against cops or with cops as some are doing because of the things in my life I find far more important.
To the number lumping you seem to not understand.
"It is a minute issue in my view and I could careless because to lump a group over said number is also irrational."
That makes plenty of sense, not hard to understand. I am saying that I could careless about one or five people that I would even attempt to say it equals all. I was addressing you assuming I assumed and or lumped when I didn't.
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
I am talking about actual data. My personal experience is not actually evidence. Anecdotal evidence helps give things context, but it's not evidence, scientifically speaking. Women talking about rape is not why it's an issue. Also, please, if you're going to have an actual discussion? Refrain from belittling rape victims by calling it 'woe is us women'. There is actual data to show that females are more likely to be sexually assaulted then men and they are almost always sexually assaulted by men. Those numbers are what make it a gender issue.
Well this isn't really science anyways. So bringing up personal experience in here in regards to being rapes or assaulted is not the same as bringing up personal experience in a scientific discussion on why Ghost are real or likely false. Saying it is would be like saying mathematics is English. This is more of a political, civil rights and equality, philosophical issue, not a scientific one.
I know personal experience is not evidence to say something is real, I know when I said something I have the burden of proof. But I was explaining, I was not trying too prove, I had no need too. Someone asked me a question and I explained. Nothing in here and no one as of yet asked me to prove something. You can not come up to someone when they are explaining their few when asked and say "That isn't evidence you need to prove it with evidence scientifically!" When I have to first be asked. If I said you guys are wrong because of this and that, then that is one thing. But I said I find said ting irrational, like you, it came off confusing until I explained it in a reply. Nothing here was stated to say I am right and you are wrong, I only explained my view.
As I said, I CAN provide examples. This is a discussion and I was asked a question, I am not debating to prove you or anyone wrong. At least not yet, but likely I wouldn't do it because I do not think it is worth my time to argue on such a minute issue in my life. And by minute I mean it is not a huge priority for me to debate such a topic vs "IS GMO bad or Good?" I'll leave that too you and anyone else wanting to have such a talk.
Belittling? I didn't belittle any rape victim. If you read my post I am saying and talking about the one where you get women (again, the irrational and or extremist) who get raped or claim they are or have or use the argument when get raped and not bring men up and say and use that as an excuse why women are so oppressed. And honestly, I will not take statistical numbers on rape and who gets raped because you get women and men who never come forward and it becomes an assumption from what we can get. There are plenty of men who get rapped by both genders as there are women and both genders do not all come forward. This is a common knowledge we should all know and accept. This is why when someone presents said statistics on who gets rapped in numbers, I do not take it because I question it as I explained, you have people who do not all come out. I take it as information, but I also give little credit to it.
I am not belittle rape victims, if anything, which I am not, I would belittling or showing the irrational view of people who argue "We get raped, women have and get raped, you should feel bad for us because women are lower than men!" It the extremest who use anything they can to try to topple things without doing it rationally. This is not too the victims, it is to people who will hear women get rapped more and march out yelling at men, men who want equality, and yell how they are wrong and they should feel bad for women. NOT all victims, not even close.
So to recap, it is too the extremist. People who use the "Women are paid less" based off only a few people who actually got that and use it to say ALL women are paid less and men are money hogs. Those type of people.
A study also shows when men are assaulted sexually, it is mostly by women. You know what I take of that? "It's a number to go by, I take it with a grain of salt." And let us be frank, rape and sexual abuse in any of the sense is bad and it happens to all genders by all genders and is something that needs to be looked at equally, not one sided. The article will be below.
To your statement, "Women are more likely to be assaulted than men" that does not mean it is like women 98% and men the remaining 2%. That could be 42 men and 58% women, showing that it is, regardless if women have it more, men are just as in need. Does it even matter who gets it more if both genders get it? Thinking about this I would personally say no. I rather help both men and women rather than just men or just women.
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
That first sentence makes no sense. What does that sentence even mean? The numbers we're talking about aren't just self-identified data. I am talking about convictions as well. That's not just 'personal experience'. That's beyond a reasonable doubt standard. You are talking in circles and belittling people in this conversation. What do you exactly qualify as data and evidence if multiple proven instances collected into an area isn't actually enough for you? I mean, I just want to know what exactly you're expecting when it comes to documentation of crime. I'm asking this as someone with a degree in criminology. I am not some random citizen that has no idea what they're talking about. I have looked at the data and the laws.
Oh, I do apologize. I thought it came out more clear. What I was saying is: I am not saying "Blah blah blah, therefor I am right" I am saying, blah blah blah.
I am not belittling anyone, that is a false accusation. I have not ones made something or someone seem unimportant except when it came to how I live my life. As in I would not do said thing because I have more important things. I am also not running circles around, I am explaining my view and defending and explaining when confronted. I do not appreciate being told I am doing something when I have not. Multiple times you have done this and multiple times you have been wrong.
What do I classify as evidence? Evidence is never something that is true, it is something to support your view. You have have evidence, but that does not mean you are right. Ken Ham has evidence he is right at the Creationist Museum, but that isn't a fact, it is simple evidence. A statistic is evidence, but not sound. I take it with a grain of salt because ti can be misleading and false based when it was done, the definition of it at that time and how ti was conducted. I wont take in a statistic about how many pigs learn to fly and say "Yep, that must mean it is true." That isn't me, sorry.
I do not take much of any document of crime in rape very much because it is normally a twp person issue. A she said he said problem that it becomes difficult to deal with. Some that is. Unless there are DNA test and recordings, you know, things that basically seal the deal, I leave it open to scrutiny. And even than I do not take what is sound proof and say this is it and this is so, because some things can not completely be proven true or false and something are never even reported.
Take for example, if a study showed Black people do more crime than white people by 50% more, I would look at it and say "OK, we have something to go by, but maybe it is something else? Living conditions, area of raise, type of parents, education, unreported crimes, money involved (to get the crime to be more successful) and so on. So in short I will take something as "We got something to go by" but I still question it. Criminal science isn't my field and something I do not know much about, you will so I will ask you, if I gave you a report that showed statistics based on available and applicable cases solved 100%, would you say, if it showed "Men raped by both genders, 20% women 80%" that is true and use it against people or would you want to conduct a study to make sure it is sound and would you question it? With your field and knowledge, what would you do? I truly want to know this.
Maybe you would or would not, but I can not, my brain does not allow that, to see that and not question it. Hell, I question the Big Bang and if time was created at the blast (as Dr. Hawkins will tell you), not because I lack knowledge, but because I think it is sufficient enough to be questioned. I find questioning fun and enlightening.It's not what you know but the questions you ask. I hope that makes sense because likely I am rambling on about nothing at this point. If so I do apologize.
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
You're the one that specifically stated that you could show how men are oppressed like women. The burden of proof is therefore on you.
I know, I am fully aware I said it, I in fact also said it to remind you or someone else that I would and or could. Difference is, as I stated, I have not been asked. I will ask you, do you want me to show you where men can and have been oppressed just as women can and have in some areas?
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
Where did I say 'I noticed this'?
It's a paraphrase.
You pointed out, basically noticing, I brought up the word science. And to show you, let me show you what I said when I said it.
- Collin Berend:
- And there are things men are not equal to women on and we have it worse in I could complain about like some extreme feminist, but I do not because it is a minute thing for me that I am more focused on my scientific field than if I can be equal in said part, because it hardly matters too me.
Here is where you got it. What I am saying is that there are issues men have it bad in compared to women in said area. I then proceed to state that I could indeed complain like some feminist, but I do not. Why is that? Well as you read on you will see that it is minute too me. Why? Because I rather focus on my life, my love life, my schooling (I will in my life have more than 10 years worth of schooling, so it's important too me), science and studying (outside of college also) reading my books to increase my knowledge and to broaden my horizon. So, as you can see where you choose to almost cherry pick, but I want to think it was misread due to being tired, because you said you were, that I did not simply brag "Oh I am in science!", I was saying that I rather focus on science vs civil rights unless it becomes a HUGE issue. Like Texans are murdering homosexuals because their legion allows it. Then I might do something about it. Think of my as Isaac Newton. Newton was a very reclusive person, focusing on studying the world around him, inventing and discovering things that helped shape the world we now live in. He didn't quarrel in affairs that was less important too him in his mind. Not because he didn't care, but he found science and alchemy and theology much more important. This here is what I was saying.
When you chose to tell me how I was not acting scientific because I assumed and used personal experience, it was harsh and you do not want too know what my initial thought was. Maybe I took it wrong, but it was a very odd thing to say when non of this is science related. I would not expect you to tell a Mathematical person that they, in talking about History or English, that for someone who works in math, they sure like to not use numbers and calculations. That is how it came off too me and I was dumbfounded by your statement. But I know you are not a rude person or an idiot (I do not think there really are any on this site anyways), so I was not fully sure what you meant, but I will say it made no sense too me personally. Hopefully here you now know what I meant when I stated science.
And no, I do not consider criminal study a science nor feminism, hence why I was not sure what you meant. I see it more as a philosophical and political issue. If this came to why someone rapes or abuses or whatever, that is one thing. Just like when it came to homosexuality studies explaining that it was natural and it can be explained biological and so on, that is one thing.
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
You responded with A, B, and C and then I disagreed with those things, because it's a discussion. I honestly have no idea if you've researched and I can't possibly know if you did or not. However, I do know that you didn't really talk about research. In fact, your most frequent argument is that this isn't science. That none of this is science.
Yea, it is a discussion.
As for talking about it, I did a bit. I brought up a study was done on gender abuse in the UK.
Most of my argument? Because you brought it up. You brought the whole notion up because, as above, I said I prefer this over worrying too much about that.
Remember?
You said: "Also, at the insane risk of coming across as offensive, for someone that spouts about science and the scientific field, you seem to be very interested in assuming things and anecdotal evidence. Neither of those things are very scientific. "
You brought this up, my reply to that was because this discussion is not a scientific discussion. Nothing I stated was related too science. You want me to just sit there and take that or something? Not sure what you are even doing at this point.
- CallusedSilk:
- @ Collin Berend
I am going to say this one more time and then no other. The analogy does work. Every single group has extreme people in it where you can take them and apply their views to the entire group. I am talking about the use of one person to generalize their values onto an entire group. Fred Phelps isn't representative of Christianity. Rush Limbaugh isn't representative of men. Okay, fair enough, you came to the conclusion that you don't agree with feminism on your own. However, if it really has nothing to do with the way people present themselves? Then why bring up 'militant' feminists at all? I mean, the way they present themselves has nothing to do with how you chose to believe feminism is bad, so why bring them up? Do you see the contradiction there?
No it doesn't. And you can say it "one more time", as if I said it didn't since you last said it was. Genders =/= philosophy and movements.
Actually Phelps is a representation of Christianity, he is indeed a representation of the religion, not the followers.
Rush is not equal to men being lumped because what he does it about politics and philosophy. What you said is like comparing Rush to all male scientist. Comparing an entire gender to a movement does not work. I said it would with the political party though.
I explained why I do not agree with it in a short amount, I than went on to list what it allows. I already stated a while ago it does not relate to all feminist or women.
No, there is no contradiction there, I disagree there being one.
@ dru is beautiful.
- dru is beautiful.:
- @ Collin Berend
I am a woman falsely accused of rape. I still do not believe that means that 2% of allegations being false is more important than 96% of rapists never spending a day in court. Being raped ruins your life, too. And it happens way more fucking often.
Women do not have the power to oppress men. Men have oppressed themselves successfully, however.
Where are you drawing numbers of 2% being false and that 96% is because it becomes a he said she said. When you have just one voice over the other, what do you expect? f you threw them in jail and all, that would apply to ever single falsely accused. Which I do not agree with that number.
Yea, I know being raped ruins you life. So because rape ruins lives we should automatically throw everyone accused in jail? No, that is crazy.
What, rape happens more then being accused? What numbers are you drawing on? We do not have anything showing the reality because we never really will.
What? Women do not have the power to oppress men? I would have to respectfully disagree say so implies women have no power. Let us say you are a girl, IDK, and you want to. Go into politics. Bam, from there you can start changing things. Women can change because your gender does not mean you can not change laws or how things work in America.
http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/04/male_rape_in_america_a_new_study_reveals_that_men_are_sexually_assaulted.html