"Coming Out" to Family About Sexuality

  • Bella Goes Away.

    Bella Goes Away. (860)

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    I don't even feel like I need to tell my parents.
    Like, my step-dads daughter is in a relationship with a girl and they're living together...
    I'm preeeeeetty sure they'll be okay with me being bi...

    But I just don't feel like standing up and being like "mum, I'm bi" or anything. I'm just taking everything as it comes, and if I do come home with a girlfriend I'll just be like "Hi mum, this is my girlfriend" and that'll be that.

    No worries at all!
    June 28th, 2008 at 05:30pm
  • Darn It Kelly.

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    I really didn't have to come out my mom was rushing me off the computer one day and I forgot to sign out of buzznet and she clicked the page and read it. She wasn't mad about it she just questioned it for a while and then stated that she'd rather me be with someone I love then have to marry someone who I have no interest in.
    June 29th, 2008 at 10:56am
  • The Master

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    I think I would severely disturb my mother if I said I would go with any intelligent being with a pulse and a postcode.

    :lmfao

    But she's not too bothered but she's prefer me to be with a guy.
    July 1st, 2008 at 05:18pm
  • Yelloh

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    My mom wouldn't care, but my dad said that bisexual people are just too ugly to find any love and therefore they accept anything.

    And he said it to my face, which made me sad.
    July 2nd, 2008 at 04:35am
  • mia bell.

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    I told my Mum - who is a lesbian - that I thought I might be bi. She laughed at me.

    She said that if I still felt the same in a year's time then she'll take me completely seriously. :lmfao
    Talk about cruel. xD
    July 2nd, 2008 at 11:09am
  • SpootyEh

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    I've been out just short of 2 years now.
    I started by telling my German sister, who at the time just found out she was bi-sexual.
    And she took it really well. So I became more confident.
    After that, I told my best friend, I think she was a bit shocked, but she accepted me none the less and even started asking me what girls I liked :XD
    But I couldn't tell her because at the time I liked her Whistle

    And well, that all went down well so I decided to tell the rest of my friends. They all took it really well, and we're happy that I'd come out. And one of my other friends came out also, it made me happy :cute:

    And after that the whole school gradually started finding out. It started off okay, like people would ask me if I were a lesbian, and I'd correct them, telling them I was bi-sexual. And most of the guys started asking me to make out with other girls. Disgust

    Then while I was in maths, someone asked me, and I replied with a simple 'yes' then the girl next to me asked if I were joking, and I said no, then she moved her desk away from mine. I was kind of disgusted in her, but hey, everyone can have their own opinion.

    After this, I decided that it was time to tell my parents. I sat down with my mum and asked her if she'd think any differently about me if I were gay. She said she'd still love me because I'm her daughter and she only wants me to be happy (cliche I know).

    So I told her and she stuck to her word, and she's completely fine with it.
    Then I asked my dad, and he said that I was 'too young' to know anything (that seems to be the only argument they have, doesn't it?)
    So I just left it at that, I didn't want to aggravate him.

    To this day, he still doesn't believe me, he thinks I'll grow out of it soon.
    But my mum takes me to a gay youth meeting every second Tuesday, which really makes me happy because it really shows that she doesn't care that I'm 'not normal' :con:

    Sorry it's so long...
    July 6th, 2008 at 03:27am
  • ChemicallyImbalanced

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    FrankieMonster:
    I don't even feel like I need to tell my parents.
    Like, my step-dads daughter is in a relationship with a girl and they're living together...
    I'm preeeeeetty sure they'll be okay with me being bi...

    But I just don't feel like standing up and being like "mum, I'm bi" or anything. I'm just taking everything as it comes, and if I do come home with a girlfriend I'll just be like "Hi mum, this is my girlfriend" and that'll be that.

    No worries at all!
    That's kind of the same with me. I don't feel the need to tell my parents. I think I'll just mention it when the time comes.
    July 6th, 2008 at 04:01am
  • Heartstrings.

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    I sort of came out to my friend.
    We were eating lunch and then we were just talking about sexual stuff and then she turns to me and goes "Wait, who's gay?"
    So I just said "me"
    It's a bit sad that her response was to be "That's a bit extreme."
    So I had to explain to her that I'm not gay. But I'm not straight either.
    And I definitely don't like the word bisexual.
    But yeah, it sort of like Lena's thing. I try not to define myself.
    I'm too young to start worrying about stuff.

    But I did want to tell my mother I wanted to get married in California at my cousin's wedding today.
    July 6th, 2008 at 03:04pm
  • vagina.

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    I'm basically positive I'm Bi-Sexual.... But I'm almost scared about it.. Because I'm a Christian, and I feel like 'If I like this girl, and we want to physically act on our feelings (especially, like, actually having sex) I'll be some sort of abomination unto the Lord.' And thats pretty huge. And repeatedly asking for forgiveness after something like that, but then doing it again and again, is like using Him as a Get Out of Jail Free card, ya know? I don't really know what to do about it..... I want to keep my faith, but these feelings arent going to just go away... I've always had this type of conflict with myself though... Wanting to be the wild, often destructive, preson I am, and keep God in my life, and not dissapoint Him... Its hard.
    July 15th, 2008 at 01:24pm
  • XxXBroken_LifeXxX

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    It's horrible how parents can't understand their childrens sexuality. People are people and as I quote my favorite line "A persons a person no matter how small" (horton Hears a Who) I doesn't really matter WHAT you are
    July 20th, 2008 at 03:56pm
  • the major key

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    I'm actually pretty worried about telling my parents

    I'm absolutely certain they're not homophobic, but it's whether they'd take me seriously or not

    I've got myself pretty worked up, stupidly :coffee:
    July 22nd, 2008 at 09:06pm
  • FueledByAmy

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    ^ Same.
    I'm scared. Although, my parents are fine with gay people.
    They just don't like bi people.
    Which I find really odd.
    And I'm bi...
    So it does worry me a bit...
    July 23rd, 2008 at 11:19am
  • Bella Goes Away.

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    I kinda did mention it to my mum, because we were having some bonding time and we were talking about sex and stuff (it was actually quite amusing).
    And after I told her I was bi she said "Hah, you're not more gay than I am!"

    So, she just doesn't believe me, but that's OK.
    She's just one of those people who thinks she knows me better than I know myself.
    July 23rd, 2008 at 12:13pm
  • PerfectSin

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    No one knows in my family. It's looked down upon. Sometimes they make gay jokes, and they don't know how bad it makes me feel. So many of the things they say aren't even real.

    They stopped making jokes recently, though, when my brother said he was gay. Or at least my dad's side of the family since he's my half'-brother from my dad's second marriage. My family tries to hide it from other people that he's gay; pretending that he's straight and all.

    I am terrified to say anything. I mean, I'm bi, but I lean way more towards girls. I had a few boyfriends in my past, and they all didn't turn out good. I even went out with some of my guy friends, and it still didn't feel right. Who knows? I might turn fully lesbian soon, but my family won't find out for a while.

    I should tell my gay brother though, but I haven't seen him in a while. I've been meaning to the next time I see him.
    July 25th, 2008 at 05:44am
  • Yelloh

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    All these stories are making me worry more about telling my family. I actually don't mind being disowned, but what if I'm beaten for it?
    July 26th, 2008 at 06:05am
  • flea haim.

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    it was so sudden for me telling my mom
    she was bitching about something and I just yelled it

    with my dad the same thing happened
    but i dont think he believed me
    and i think he was too drunk to remember.
    July 27th, 2008 at 01:33am
  • Bells.

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    I had this poster on my wall in A1 (I think?) and my mother automatically presumed that I was a lesbian. She tried not to touch me and in the morning, she woke me up over my intercom and yelled "get up, lesbian!" and tried to stay away from me the whole day. I gave the poster to my friend, whose mum is actually normal.

    It's hard, because I'm bi and my mother would not accept me for it. Cry

    I've posted here before, but I just wanted to point out that event.
    July 27th, 2008 at 07:26am
  • ChemicallyImbalanced

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    To be honest, I'm not sure what my parents would say if I told them about myself.

    I think my Mum would be pretty okay with it, but my Dad would be less than pleased.
    July 27th, 2008 at 12:15pm
  • Kmart.

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    I'm bisexual. I haven't told my family. It's not that their homophobes, but their the type of people that are like "Homosexuality and Bisexual is fine, but our kids can't be either."

    that type of thing.
    July 29th, 2008 at 07:15pm
  • cyanide cola.

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    When I told my mum about my sexuality, pansexual, she totally accepted it.
    But my dad was a different story. Cry
    He totally cut off all sort of communication with me, and ignored me whenever I tried to say hello and whatnot.
    It was really idiotic and childish.
    I had to give him time to calm down, as it can be shocking, but meh, he took it a bit too far.
    I love him and all, but, he shouldn't have done that.
    My grandparents disowned me cause of my sexuality, and I just found it pathetic.
    I love my mum though as she totally accepted it. In Love
    July 30th, 2008 at 11:59pm