"Coming Out" to Family About Sexuality

^ LOL, fair enough. I took my mom and my nanny (not a biological relative, it's a long story, but she's basically my virulently homophobic parental figure) to a party last November, and my mom said, out of the blue, "this would be a nice place for a wedding." The two of them are both over 40, so it kind of sounded like she was nudging me, specifically, and I couldn't say anything about it not being legal yet for me (my mom knows I'm gay, but my nanny is happily in denial), so I just kind of laughed awkwardly and went "I'll keep that in mind." :XD

Rydon Addict.:

My gay friend is accepted by everyone, which I think is awesome.

I agree. It`s also pretty much accepted in my school. [it`s all girls]
Everyone there is guilty of liking the same sex.

I'm bi, but only one person I know of in real life is okay with homosexuals. My best friends obsessed with gay people. xD I need to get her into slash.

But my other best friend is "EWW!"

I might wait a few years to come out.

I don't know yet. I think my dad would be accepting of it. My mum claims she would be but I don't think she would be. She read a text out to me from my phone whilst I was cooking once and it was my cousin, joking that my brother was kissing his best friend and she went mental. She didn't get angry but you could tell she was like "Oh, hell no."
She started going "Oh that's it then! He's gay!"
My cousin claims she'd disown me so I don't think I'd tell her. I don't know how my brother'd react, we're really close so I think he'd accept it. I have a theory he's bi though. Sorry if I sound homophobic or anything, I'm not.
My dad's dad would disown me. He hates bi's and gay people. Don't know about the rest.

I've not come out to my family, if they asked me directly I wouldn't lie about it. I don't think they'd deny my sexuality I'm quite sure they'd consider it none of their business. As for morally wrong or morally neutral who is to say? I've got no idea.

If/when I ever become a parent, I don't think I'd want them to be gay (my child or children) because I'd want what's best for them, anything for an easy life y'know? Don't get me wrong though. I'd definitely support them.

I shared with my mom that I didn't want to really say I'm anything yet until I'm at least seventeen or eighteen. -shrug-

She went through that whole stage, too. She said that sh got so confused as a teenager that she forgot her gender. She dated a lot of my godmothers. :shifty It was kinda weird when I found out.

I'm not sure what I am. Probably bisexual; I've liked boys and I sometimes find girls attractive. I don't feel the need to ever "come out", maybe just if I'm dating a girl. I don't think people around me would be overally okay with it, though. One of my teachers makes it her duty to preach us about whatever she thinks is right, and one time she just started going on about how "all celebrities seemed to be bisexual now, and they were all doing it for fame. That they needed to figure out what their sexuality was because it was impossible to be bisexual." Basically everyone in my class agreed. I was in pure shock at their close-mindedness.
A few of my friends and my parents aren't homophobic but I don't think they'd like to 'interact' with a bisexual person. Like, it's almost as if they wave this flag of tolerance but I'm pretty sure they'd all change towards me and act awkwardly. Maybe my parents not so much, thank god, but I have this strange paranoia that my female friends would stop talking to me in fear that I liked them. It's strange.

^^ My situation.
I'm confused. I don't know. I've had a crush on a girl once, and also ^ I have found a girl attractive. I haven't thought about actually dating a girl though, and I still love the guys. I'm young so I don't know but I'm just so confused and I don't want to be anymore and I don't know who would react to what. I felt the need to tell someone. Y'know when you get really emotional 'cause you have stuff on your mind... I feel better now.

^ Don't worry, it'll come to you in time. Yeah, how hypocritical of me to say it, but I'm not really all that worried about what I am. I'm worried that if I turn out to love a girl, my family and friends will think differently of me, but I don't plan on hiding my feelings to myself. If you fall in love, then you fell in love. It's good to let it all out. Don't doubt us Mibbians, we won't judge. :XD

I am only 15, I don't know what I want. But, it is unlikely that I will tell anyone but my sisters if I turn out to be Bi-Sexual or Lesbian. My family, both immediate and extended, has some homophobic tendencies. I learned this from my sister, who got a lot of grief from everyone when she came out.

But other than that, I am not worried. Almost all of my friends are Bi, or Lesbians so it would not bother them.

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I'm still confused about my sexuality. :shifty Never experienced anything with either sex, but if I ever find out that my fun parts like other women's fun parts rather than a mans, or likes both, I won't tell my family :tehe: they would be fine with it, I'm sure, but I wouldn't tell them unless they asked me. :|

Put them in an awkward situation :shifty

I'm quite sure I know now, or i've come to a conclusion at least!
95% Straight.
5% Bisexual!
I'm happy. ^_^

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Syck:

Have you come out to your family (if you are gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transsexual)? How did your family react? Did they accept your sexuality? Did they deny your sexuality? Do you think it is important to even come out to your family? Perhaps a sibling of yours came out, how did you react? Do you think it is morally wrong to not be straight? Or is it morally neutral?

I came out to my mom, who told everyone else in the household, on July 26, 2008 for being bisexual. My 15th birthday, come to think of it. But it was something I had been giving serious though since about the the 6th grade. Yeah I know how bad that sounds. But just trust me on that.

My mom was very accepting. I was scared she would be one of those people ho liked gay people, but her daughter couldn't be one of them. But she was very cool with it and supports me. Then my step dad sat me down and told me he was proud of me for coming out. My step mom told me she was open to it and would love me no matter what. My dad kinda didn't say anything.

My grandma found out through my aunt, via myspace. She called me and got really mad. I told her that if she couldn't accept me for who I was, then she didn't have the accept me at all. She shunned me and we didn't talk for well over a month. But my phone broke and she pays my bill (wince it's a family plan) so I had to call her.

I do believe that parents, as well at the rest of the family, should be accepting. It's not as if you choose to be gay, or bi, or transsexual, you just are. And you can't explain it. My best explanation was to my friends mom. "I know I like girls that same way your daughter knows she likes boys." And that was the end of it.

I have a very open family, and I happy with that. My mom is now free to crack all the jokes she wants, and I crack some back. And we giggle. I guess I'm one of the lucky people who didn't get the bad side of coming out.

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I've managed to come out to some of my second family (not actually blood related) and they're heavily religious so it was really had to endure.
It was mostly ignored, being told that I wasn't and that its wrong for people to think that way. Though one member of their family told me it was okay but asn't touched the subject much after.
It makes me feel sad but its okay because I know they still love me.
As for my real family, I'd be shunned and cut out so I'm waiting to tell them once I can support myself. I wish they understood me and not their religion.

(I'm not religious, so this really doesn't help my situation either...)

But coming out I think is needed, it means accepting yourself even if others can't. But do it at your own pace.

I never felt the need to 'come out' with this huge deal. I just randomly mentioned it to my mum in casual conversation. She didn't even raise an eyebrow.

I do the same with my friends, I randomly mention it if we're talking about it. No one cares, and no one looks down on me. I accept myself and I've done so since I first felt that I wasn't completely straight.

I also think that kids (oh yes, I used the k word) at 12-13 shouldn't come out to anyone about anything. It'll just be awkward if they a few years later have to 'come in' again.
I don't think at that age you know for sure what you are in one way or the other.

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FrankieMonster.:

I don't think at that age you know for sure what you are in one way or the other.

I couldn't agree more with you.
I mean, hell, I'm almost nineteen and I still have no clue.
Though I'm not saying everyone has to be old to know, but to let growing up happen for a bit and see where that takes you.