Adoption and Foster Care

I'm adopted and I lived in foster care for 2 years. I was lucky enough to stay in one home the entire time, because the fact that my mom had abandoned me and my little brother one day I had a bad attachment disorder.
I'm happy with my adopted family but I just found my birth cousins on myspace. Funny how wonderful that site is.

But I know not everyone has such a 'good' experience as I did. What are your feelings, stories or anything else?

My younger cousin was adopted, because her biological parents couldn't afford her. It's really weird though, because you'd swear that she was actually a part of my family. She's got the eyelash trait [haha, everyone in my family has the darkest and thickest eyelashes ever. I never need mascara], and she even has the same eyes as me. Heck, before I dyed my hair we had the same hair color. It's really freaky.

They ended up adopting another kid, who is about five or so. My Aunt isn't able to have children, so that's why they adopt. I really think adoption is a wonderful thing. I love my cousins dearly.

I was adopted at birth...
My parents refuse to tell me anything other than that. It's complete hell. They even lied to me on where I was born. =/

Does anyone else (who is adopted) ever feel... like they havn't found themselves? I don't know, maybe that's just me because I've known my entire life and still don't know anything about my bio parents.

I agree!

Except my parents never tried to make me ashamed. =]
They celebrated my adoption day.
But I know how you feel, it's like a hole in the back of your mind.

"Who do I look like?" "Do they ever think of me?"
"Why?"

"Did I do something?"

But I understand my dear.

I plan on adopting, and I have members who are adopted and its sad because of their stories, my aunt adopted a Asian boy or man now, is name is hunter, and they gave him a birthday. They guessed his birth year. He was found on a street I think, they don't go into much detail.

But Adoption is a beautiful, yet sad because of where these kids have come from.

yeah, anyone who thinks otherwise doesn't understand how it really is.

If you ever adopt with an agency or somewhere legit and real, pleeeease tell your kid about their bio parents!
If you never tell them, they'll hate you when you find out.
And if you tell them but spare the details, they'll just grow up thinking abou their parents every fucking second of the day. (of course, they'll probably do that anyways. but it's better to tell them so they don't cry as much at night.)

It can also be a stressful thing, though. Adopted kids, from expirience, feel a lot less connected to their family than most other kids. Especialy when they hit their teen years. Any argument can end with the kid thinking, "I'm really not like them at all."

But of course, it's just a touchy subject for me. My [adoptive] mom couldn't have babies, so she adopted my little sister and I. My sister barely talks about it or even remembers at times, while for me it seems like it's always been on my mind since I was around 4.

And to Lady.Jane, I don't know how many times i've thought 'Do they ever think about me." It's countless.
Do they celebrate my birthday? Do they somehow know what I look like? Do they want to meet me? Do they miss me? Do they look me, act like me?\

Ah.

I think it's amazing how people can take other children in.
I'm sort of used to it, seeing as my mums a foster carer.
So I think its great. :cute:

One day, I want to adopt kids instead of just having my home. It just seems like the right thing to do, versus having children when there's already kids that don't have a family.

My family used to foster kids for a weeked a month for a few years but had to stop because the organisation was shut down. My parents thought of it as a way to help other chiclren who weren't as well off as we were.

It was actually pretty fun. We had 3 kids for a year, a 3 year old boy, a 9 year old girl and a girl the same as age as me. We had those for a year. They lived in a pretty fucked up family, their step-dad had burned their house down a few months back.

Then we had just one girl Alicia. Her dad had stomach cancer and she had about 7 brothers and sisters, most with disabilities. She was just like a friend staying over. :tehe:

I think fostering and adoption is a really good way to help people.

I know a girl who's adopted.

I helped her look up her birth parents, because all she had was a name.
It turns out her mother was 14 when she had her, so gave her up because she didn't feel she could look after her.
She still sees her bio parents a bit, but she's happy with her adopted parents.

My aunt has 9 kids. And she's adopting 2 more....
:shock: she's always wanted a huge family.

Adoption gives some a second chance. I'm all for it.

One of my best friends is adopted.
She knows who her real parents are and everything
but she doesn't want to get in contact because she loves how her life is right now.
I think it's great.

I'm not having any kids if my own because I'm going to adopt from Russia.
Ever since I was like 8 that has been my dream :cute:

And even my psychology teacher thinks what I'm going to do.
She wrote this in my yearbook:
"I can see you in this beautiful blueberry farm in Oregon, a big house with a big cozy kitchen, and a garden for the lucky kids to play."

My aunt wants to adopt but the one she wanted was sexualy abused and runs away and starts fire.
She would get her because she wants to make her feel at ease but she has her own two kids and she does not want them hurt.

When I was 6 or what ever I was taken from my mom and put in a foster house for one day and one night.
My nan came and got me and my bro and sis because she loved us not like my mom does not love us but she is sick with drugs. She is in prison for the 4th time right now.
When I was there they were really nice but I felt so weird and I cried the whole time.
Would't you?

I want to adopt a kid when I'm older...
My best friend is adopted and her family made the best out of her...
I want to give a kid the chance to see what a family is like and not miss out on it..

I have two cousins who are adopted. One, a girl, is six. And the boy is almost one.
If this little boy hadn't been adopted, he would surely be dead. As he grew he developed a problem swallowing. When he would swallow, it would go into his lungs.
He's had many surgeries, but nothing seems to work. He still has to be fed through a hole in his stomach (Much like the plug on an inflatable pool toy).
Him and his sister are both photographed for ProLife campaignes.

All I can say is, adoption is amazing.

My mother and my aunt were adopted.
My best friend from high school was adopted and lived in foster care.
I think adoption and foster care are both very good things, even though there can be bad adoptive parents and bad foster parents.
There are also bad parents who give birth to and keep their children.

My little sister was taken away by Child Services and put into foster care for about a year.

I remember we used to go to this place to visit her, I was only like eleven. My dad and my aunt were always talking about bruises and scratches on her, but I never understood. (She still has a scar on her chin.)

My aunt eventually adopted her and I was to young at the time to hear about this, but my little sister always wanted my aunt to touch her in the 'wrong places' if you get what I mean.

She was beaten and molested.

The thing I always think about is the fact that that lady had a whole bunch of other kids, too. What’s happening/happened to them?

My friend was adopted. Her mother couldn't look after her, because she could not afford it. She seemed quite happy with her foster parents. She even had an exchange student living with her for a bit. She lives with her mum again now. I think she has a job...