V For Virgin.

  • Static Age

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    I'm still a virgin. I'm not ashamed of it.

    A couple of my friends have had sex and they've told me how much 'fun' it is, but I'm sorry, I don't consider having sex with a guy I've known for a week fun. And when one of my friends had sex for the first time she was afraid she was pregnant. She wasn't, but that hasn't stopped her from having sex with every boyfriend since.

    I'm not going to lose my virginity until I know it's with the right guy. I may even wait until I'm married.:file:
    June 25th, 2008 at 02:36am
  • TheTakeover.

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    I'm a virgin, but I'm 15.

    Probably about half of my grade, at least, has had sex already. Half of those have STDs or have gotten abortions. I think it's completely insane.

    The thing that comes to mind is: Have you no self-respect?

    I mean, I believe no one can know the meaning of love until you are mature enough to handle it. And love is an important factor in having sex.

    I'm not planning on having sex until I'm married. I know that most people are waiting until they are in love, but that's not enough for me. I want the person to love me back and know it for sure. Know that they won't leave me the next day.

    I've grown up a Christian, so that's a big reason behind my decision. But there is also, that my sister got pregnant this year (17 going on 18), her senior year. I couldn't help, but realize I didn't want to deal with anything related to what she went through until I was completely ready (and happily married) to do so.

    Just my opinion.
    June 25th, 2008 at 05:51am
  • TheTakeover.

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    going on 18 , I meant
    June 25th, 2008 at 05:52am
  • TheTakeover.

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    And, for the younger kids,
    they say 'I don't understand why everyone is having sex. I'm waiting until I'm at least 16.'

    16 is still not old! It's still very young and you think it'd be amazing to wait until then, at least?

    It's sad how teenagers do not have a clue, honestly!
    and i know im a teenager too, but its true.
    June 25th, 2008 at 06:00am
  • FueledByAmy

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    I'm still a virgin, and I plan to be for a while longer :)
    Most of my friends have had sex, or done a lot of other sexual things, but I'm happy with how I am :)
    June 25th, 2008 at 09:20am
  • tyler joseph.

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    I turn 17 in 3 1/2 months, and I'm still a virgin, and I have no problem with that. Around my town, every guy does not want a relationship. They want a one-night-stand, and I've been rejected many times because I don't fuck on the first date (my exact words), and I get written off as a "prude." And I always tell them it's because I'm not going to lose my virginity to a person who doesn't even care about me. I haven't even had a real boyfriend or girlfriend yet. I want to lose the big "v" to a person I love, and who loves me back. Because to me, love should be making love. In my opinion, sex without emotion is a really bad thing. And it's sad, because there are kids my age and younger than me who have had too many one-night-stands to count. I know one girl who's 17 and has already had two abortions. It's ridiculous.

    My mom told me that even if I'm still a virgin by the time I'm 21 or something, guys will respect that, and I believe her. So I'm very willing to wait. :)
    June 25th, 2008 at 12:12pm
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    I reckon when I do eventually lose my virginity I don't want to lose it to that 'someone special'.

    I would rather lose it to a guy friend or something. Because if I lost it to a boyfriend and he betrayed me or something I would be even more hurt as he would have been 'my first'.

    My opinion may change if I do find someone who I'd be willing to lose it to, but that's my opinion at the present moment. xD
    June 25th, 2008 at 12:17pm
  • Kristen Stewart

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    I don't see the big deal in the whole "virginity" thing.
    I can understand why some people do. But for me, sex is a pleasure or fun thing, not a loving act.
    June 25th, 2008 at 12:56pm
  • Feeling Failure

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    Well, I personallythink it's cool that yu're a virgin, and I plan on being a virgin until marriage.

    Because, you know, you're going to marry a cool guy, Lord willing, that loves youand wants you and only you, so doesn't it just seems right to give that person your virginity?

    I know that whenI get married, I'll want my husband to be a virgin. I'll return the favor~
    June 25th, 2008 at 03:30pm
  • It's In The Blood.

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    I'm a virgin, in the sense that I haven't had sex with a man...

    But if that sense doesn't count, then I was fifteen, nearly sixteen. I trusted my ex very very much though, and we were together for twenty-two months.

    I remember being in school, and how everyone wanted to lose their virginity before it was legal because it was 'more fun' like that, and I suppose it was the rock 'n' roll thing to do. I sort of went along with the crowd, which is damn weird for me, because I tend to avoid doing that.

    On hindsight, sex is worth waiting for. Simply because it isn't all that amazing.

    *giggle*
    June 25th, 2008 at 04:40pm
  • pulmonary archery.

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    I'm 17 and a virgin, though I could quite easily not be. I mean, my ex would have gone for it if I had even bought it up in casual conversation, but I just really didn't go there. Probably why we didn't last longer than two months... He was very sex orientated
    -rolls eyes-

    Anyway, I don't know, I guess sex just doesn't interest me. Sure there's the element of doing it for fun or pleasure or whatever... But seriously, it's not like it's a necessity, I'm doing fine without it. I just havn't got to that moment yet when I want to do it, you know?

    Hmm... But I doubt I'll lose it before I go to uni either (which is just over two years). There's very little chance between now and then of me finding a guy I care that much about anyway. I'm not in a rush, anyway.

    Although I do think sometimes... because I only really know a couple of other virgins. Sometimes it's like... Should I be having sex? But then I'll be like, no I don't actually want to right now. I do question myself a lot. :X
    June 25th, 2008 at 05:27pm
  • HerFamousLastWords

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    I'm a virgin and I'm proud. My boyfriend is 19 and sometimes wishes that I wasn't one, but I'm lucky enough that I found a really sweet guy who is willing to wait until I'm ready.

    I think that one should wait to have sex until they know they are ready for it; emotionally and physically. Personally, I plan to wait until marriage, just because I don't want to end up doing something I'll regret later on in life.
    June 25th, 2008 at 05:41pm
  • ghosthorse

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    V

    In a somewhat little town south of my county, this twelve year old girl
    got off the bus after school and went into her house, she was home alone.
    The door bell rings, she answers the door and one of her classmates is at the door
    and wants to come in, she doesn't let him in, closes the door and goes about her
    business. She must have forgot to lock the door because she came back through
    the house and her classmate was in her house. He told her he wanted to have
    sex with her. She said no and tried to get him out of the house, he stabbed her
    with a kitchen knife and ran away.

    The kid was twelve years old and pretty much trying to rape a classmate in her
    own home. How sick is that. This was on the news in a rather well known town.
    Goes to show that even in small towns virginity is not safe for the youngsters.

    Having babies at fourteen, wanting sex at twelve. The media has infected the people
    and the parents are just as bad. I know I'm waiting. I would never do anything
    in high school for fear of going as low as my other classmates can on the skank board.
    There are at least five pregnant girls coming in from the summer between the
    ages 15-17. By the end of the year there are at least four more between the
    ages 15-18.

    There is nothing wrong with staying a virgin. I know I would be completely embarrassed
    if I got pregnant and everyone in school knew about it. Even if I was with someone
    I felt comfortable with, someone who cared if I was hurt, I couldn't face myself
    with even the slightest chance of becoming a teenage mom.

    Sex isn't that rock and roll anymore.
    June 25th, 2008 at 10:53pm
  • evencrayonslaughatme

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    When I was a freshman I just moved to a new school district and before school started I met this boy. I had pretty much only dated girls before, only having one or two boyfrieds before hand so I really didn't know what guys liked. He told me if I had sex wiht him we would get super close and be togehre for ever...so at 13 I had sex with him...2 days later he went to jail because of drugs...I have only seen him 2 times since and I'm now a senior...

    I think it is because of some many reasons...peer pressure from teh people around you and the media...people just want to fit in and have people like you...its a horrible thing...
    June 26th, 2008 at 03:31am
  • Sabrina.Rainbow

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    I think alot of the reasons behind people losing it early are mostly the media. it's no big deal any more, so virignity is counted as more of a dishonor than the honor it used to be. Apparently having sex is like the new way to prove social status.

    I'm a Christian, but that's not the only reason I'm waiting for marriage. I mean, completly dicounting all the horrible dieses and the risk of pregnancy, I really feel there is something special in virginity.

    To me, having sex is like giving away a peice of yourself. I know that sounds retarded, but that's just how I feel. Besides, there's only a first time once, and I want to share it with someone I know will care about me.

    I hang out with straight edge kids, so I'm never pressured to have sex. In fact, it's almost the opposite.
    June 26th, 2008 at 06:16am
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    Sabrina.Rainbow:
    I think alot of the reasons behind people losing it early are mostly the media. it's no big deal any more, so virignity is counted as more of a dishonor than the honor it used to be. Apparently having sex is like the new way to prove social status.

    I'm a Christian, but that's not the only reason I'm waiting for marriage. I mean, completly dicounting all the horrible dieses and the risk of pregnancy, I really feel there is something special in virginity.

    To me, having sex is like giving away a peice of yourself. I know that sounds retarded, but that's just how I feel. Besides, there's only a first time once, and I want to share it with someone I know will care about me.

    I hang out with straight edge kids, so I'm never pressured to have sex. In fact, it's almost the opposite.
    Nah, it's not the media. It's the people around you and their views on it, and your ability to be swayed. Though you are right, most people don't find it a big deal. Sex is sex and nothing more to some people. The social status thing, that's kind of true. Sex can change a person's image.

    To me (my opinion), sex is something that feels good, and sharing it with someone you care about makes it feel better. I just turned fifteen last Thursday, and I lost my virginity in January. The guy cares about me only when it's beneficial, or just he gets on one of his random bouts of liking me.

    Having sex should be giving a piece of yourself to someone, someone who wants it and will treasure it, not someone who just wants to get off. But the thing about sex is, once you have it there's a possibility you want that again, because of how good it felt. People go after it more, and care less and less about who they're doing it with.

    Sex is a tricky thing.
    June 26th, 2008 at 07:33am
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    Sabrina.Rainbow:
    I'm a Christian, but that's not the only reason I'm waiting for marriage. I mean, completly dicounting all the horrible dieses and the risk of pregnancy, I really feel there is something special in virginity.
    I just remembered:
    Last school year the school called all of the former Juniors into an assembly to
    talk to them about something. No one else knew what it was about until later that day.

    A month or two before hand our school held a blood drive. They ended up throwing
    away half of the donations because of STDs. Over half of the combined Juniors
    and Seniors had STDs. One reason to stay away until I get to a 'cleaner' place.
    June 26th, 2008 at 04:52pm
  • midnight lover.

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    I'm a virgin and I plan on staying that way for awhile.
    Sure, I'm only fifteen but if you compare that to all the people way younger than me where I live that have already had sex (and some of them already pregnant) it's actually a bigger deal.
    There's little 7th graders running around my town pregnant and I'd say over 50% of 7-10 graders have an STD.
    June 26th, 2008 at 09:24pm
  • LoulittaE

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    Well I don't know if it's peer pressure or something else.
    Some people say it's just the generation of today.

    Anyway, one of my best friends lost it when she was 9. Shocking, huh?

    I still haven't lost mine and don't plan on doing it in some years.

    I guess the people that want to do it, just do it. And sometimes they don't think.

    Or they do... Haha
    June 27th, 2008 at 02:51am
  • Ewardahe

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    I'm waiting untill I fall in love to have sex with somebody. (Obviously, I am a virgin). A lot of girls in highschool have sex just because their friends do it. It's not a conscious thing, like they don't say "Oh, Marla fucked somebody so I have to". But when all of your friends have sex and you don't you tend to think that something is wrong with you. I felt that way too. Some of my friends are not virgins and so I think "is it because I'm ugly? Am I uncapable of getting a boyfriend?" The answer to both is no.

    I'm just incredibly shy but the more I've gotten to know guys my age the more I think "Wow. Why the hell would you want to give up your virginity to that?" I think it's best to wait untill you are more mature physically, mentally and emotionally.

    Most of my friends tell me that sex hurts for them because at the age of 15...they're tight (you know what I mean). They also tell me it's so easy when your hormones are raging and emotions come at a mile a minute to get strong feelings of depression about the situation. And for mentally, a lot of teens don't realize how reckless it is to be sexually active at such a young age. They think "oh I'll never get an STD. I'll never get pregnant. Not me. If I do, I'll just abort it." Which is wrong. Those kinds of things do happen. Even if you do use protection (I'm living proof!).

    I also knew a girl who was pregnant and who said earlier that if she ever was she'd get an abortion. When she actually found out she decided to keep it becaus the emotional effects of an abortion are something you'd live with for the rest of your life. (that being said I don't want to start a debate about that. I'm pro-choice anyway).

    If you want to go out and have sex, it's ultimately your descision but I think it's incredibly stupid at a young age.

    Some girls might think they love someone and want to stay with them forever at age 15 but believe me. It's probably not going to last. Boys in highschool only think about sex. Yes even the "sweet" ones.
    It's best to just wait.
    June 27th, 2008 at 03:19am