V For Virgin.

I'm 21 and I'm a virgin. I will stay that way until I get married. I would never look down on someone else for their choices regarding this, no matter how different those choices may be from mine.

I just happened to see this, and I was interested to see it started back... around four years ago. I was 12 then, so just entering middle school, and I know very well many of my peers were having sex. Heck, by the end of eighth grade two girls were pregnant! Honestly, and maybe it's because I haven't dated anyone in awhile, I'm not overly interested in having sex right now. Not really something I wanna do in high school. College, maybe, but I kinda wanna stay a virgin in high school.

If you're someone who doesn't agree, so be it! I have friends who aren't virgins, and I don't think any less of them! I think it's just something you wanna do or don't want to. I'm perfectly fine not doing it, and I feel like I don't have anyone in my life, or who has been in my life moreover, that I'd WANT to have sex with.

And I'll end my little rant sesh with that :)

I lost my virginity when I was 15 and I don't regret it at all. I've always been a very sexual person and it was just an extension of that.

I believe in waiting until marriage.

Virgin. I don't really care about having it before a certain age. I'll have sex whenever I'm damn well ready. I've never liked people pushing me sexually and after my sister got sexually abused I won't let it happen to me. I have a boyfriend who is 19 and I know he has a good head on his shoulders but I'm not letting my guard fully down. I know if anyone tries to make me do something I don't want to (girl or boy) I'll personally make sure they can't do it to anybody else. ;) Haha, that wasn't threatening at all.

But the younger people having sex scares me. I mean, they're just hitting puberty so they're getting hit full blast with all these hormones, so it's like how do you know if it's hormones or if it's real? Personally, I didn't even know what a condom was until late middle school/early high school. I can't remember an exact time.

I'm a virgin.
The one of the last out of my group of friends.
But, I don't care. I'm proud of it. I'm not waiting till marriage, just until I meet someone who deserves to have it, even if we stop dating. Someone I care about who genuinely cares about me. & if that ends up being the guy i marry, than so be it. Good for us! Lol.
I will never judge kids my age and younger for having sex, because its their choice, I have no say in that. Kids do it to feel older, beautiful, loved, etc. There's a lot of reasons for why.
It's funny though, because most of my friends telling me to wait, have lost it at 16 or younger. They regretted it.
And that's one thing I don't want to regret.

Well, I'm 16 right now and still a virgin. For some reason this bothers me, and I'm hoping that I'll meet someone that I like enough just to get it over with. I feel like its an unnecessary milestone or whatever. Like I'm sure that when I actually have sex it'll be whatever, but I'm not dead set on it having to be the right perfect person, where we get married and live together forever . because I know for sure that I don't want to be a 17 year old virgin.

I'm 17, still a virgin. The last of my friends, but i don't care really. I promised myself not to give it away till I find someone I can trust. Finding someone you love is really hard and therefore I won't be counting on love just yet.

I'm a virgin and i'm proud of it. The reason im still a virgin is because i dont want to loose my virginity to some random guy that i dont really care for that much. I feel that i would rather wait until im a bit older and at least wait till im with a guy that i could imagion spending the rest of my life with. Alot of my friends go and have sex to fit it but i just think something like sex is being treated not as symbolic as it used to be.

Years ago, we were all meant to be married and have children by the age of 14. That's just how it was. Now, expectaions have changed, but our bodies haven't. On that note, I don't think 12 year olds are THAT hormonal that they need to have sex. But if someone in their teens decides to lose their virginity, I don't believe it's that big of a deal. If the person you have your first time with is special, or anybody you have sex with, really, it's a bonus to feel that emotional connection. But, it all depends on the person choosing to have sex and what THEY believe. You can't really judge somebody for that. Let people do what they want with their bodies. If you feel you might regret it, you should think about that before you have sex. But if you are 100% sure about what you're doing, go for it. Even if you do regret it, though, it's really not the end of the world. Just don't be unsafe -- That's the only thing I have a problem with.

I originally planned on staying a virgin until marriage. And although I am still a virgin and plan on staying one for a while, I don't know for sure if I'm going to wait until marriage. But I do know I'm going to wait to have sex until I know I'm in love and want to be with that person for the rest of my life.

Something that deeply affected me was that my ex-best friend had sex at the age of fourteen. She had known the guy for less than 6 hours. He was seventeen. That ruined our relationship. We both vowed that we would NEVER let a guy ruin our friendship, but it did. And it killed me. This is why I'm waiting to have sex. Because with sex, it creates drama. And I don't want that now.

I'm still a virgin though my views have sort of changed since the last time I posted in this thread. I used to say that I was waiting for marriage but my views on that have changed a lot. I don't really think I'm waiting for marriage anymore but really just waiting until I'm comfortable with the idea of it. Right now, I don't really consider my virginity to be "important" or "sacred" really. It's just kind of something that's there I suppose. It's hard to describe how I feel about it I guess. I can see why it is important to others, but I just don't feel that same importance when it comes to myself.

I'm still a virgin mainly for the fact I might be just a wee bit scared of sex. I've talked sex over with my girlfriend and after all this time, I think I'm finally coming to terms with the fact that the idea of it terrifies me. Though, I don't think it's the concept of sex so much as it's the fear of someone leaving afterwards that I'm scared of. I'm terrified of being abandoned and I have this irrational fear that a partner will leave my after I have sex with them. Perhaps that's my lack of trust in humans speaking though. I have a problem trusting humans so I think that problem has a strong tie to my fear of sex. I'm just happy I currently have a loving and understanding girlfriend who's agreed to wait until I'm ready and help me work through my fear.

@ prickly vines
The hormones mean the sex isn't real or the "love" isn't real? I'm just curious because sex =/= love.

@ That.One.Loser.
Sex can create drama. It doesn't necessarily mean it will. I think the older/more mature people get the less drama it causes. Doesn't everything cause drama among teenagers?

dru chases the wind.:

@ prickly vines
The hormones mean the sex isn't real or the "love" isn't real? I'm just curious because sex =/= love

I meant how do they know if it's just lust or if they have genuine feelings of love for the other person.

@ prickly vines
Does it matter? You don't have to be in love to have sex.

dru chases the wind.:

@ prickly vines
Does it matter? You don't have to be in love to have sex.

I think when you're that young it should matter and I know a lot of people regret having sex at a really young age and wish they waited.

@ prickly vines
I don't think young children should be having sex, period, because it's stupid. But I don't think that their hormones 'confusing' love with lust should have anything to do with it. They just shouldn't have sex because psychologically they don't understand it and they're bodies aren't ready.

Wow, some of the people on this thread are shallow. I'm not going to rant, and I understand that most fourteen-year-olds have probably had a lot more experience than me, but I just don't understand why you'd want to have sex when you're fourteen. There are so many other, less dangerous things to do, (don't laugh, sex can be potentially dangerous for people, predominantly girls, that young) and if you are sexually frustrated, you have hands that are there for a reason. I just don't like the idea of giving yourself to someone and having them in control of you when you're at your weakest. It just kind of freaks me out to be honest. But I'm allowed to be freaked out, because everyone has different opinions not everyone has to sleep around to be content.

demolition lover;:

Wow, some of the people on this thread are shallow.

That's potentially bashing, careful how you phrase opinions. (E.g. don't go phrasing them as facts, particularly where they're, well, insulting.)

demolition lover;:

I just don't like the idea of giving yourself to someone and having them in control of you when you're at your weakest.

I'd argue that in heterosexual intercourse, notwithstanding the strength of a man, the woman has an advantage in that he has exposed one of his most vulnerable areas. Not to mention that, even though there are a lot of myths on prosecution of rape, most legal systems take charges very seriously. So, firstly, in my opinion it seems a little sexist to say you're being "controlled" and "at your weakest" (from the position of a female) just because you have consented to penetration, since he has exposed himself to the potential for a great deal of (blinding, nauseating?) pain if you wanted to inflict it; if the situation does get out of hand, there's that physical (and also legal) recourse.

Which is not to say you can 'prevent' rape - that's not the responsibility, I think, of a woman, and just encourages victims to blame themselves for not 'doing enough' to 'prevent' it if we couch things in those terms - but if we're talking, hypothetically, about a situation where a boy and a girl opt to have sex, and it's mutual and consensual, I don't see anything inherently dangerous or imbalanced in that. Particularly if the boy hasn't really come into his strength, it seems like the physical (anatomical) advantage is with the girl.

I think I'm mostly bristling at your use of "weakest" - I agree there's a vulnerability (which goes beyond the physical) in sex; there are a lot of nonphysical ways a young girl could be harmed through (even consenting) sex in high school. And people should be aware of that. It's a shame that so much of the discussion is premised on the physical, limited to either "don't have any sex because sex itself is bad for you" ('at your age') or "those people are silly, sex is physically natural and fine" - clearly abstinence [only] education isn't cutting it (looking at the high rates of teen pregnancy and STDs in areas which rely on it) but I think discussing sex should go beyond the 'practical' considerations - not just "this is how a condom works, use condoms." And the notion of abstinence should be looked at less from a moralistic standpoint, and more as "how can sex affect you, positively and negatively" - a more holistic discussion, I guess.

Haha, I'm sixteen and I still haven't had my first kiss yet. Kind of hopeless. I mean, lipginity SHOULD be lost earlier, right?