I'm 18 and I'm still a virgin. I've never been kissed and I've never even had a boyfriend. I've heard so many different opinions on how long I should wait. A couple of friends say that it's okay to just lose it to anyone, as long as I'm careful and safe (which I plan to be, no matter what.)
The majority of my friends say I should wait for someone "special," but that implies that I'll actually meet someone "special." Personally, I don't believe that there's someone like that out there for everyone. I just don't. It seems too good to be true. But that's a whole different story.
My older family members (i.e. my mother) and a small number of my friends think I should wait until I'm married to have sex. But I just can't see that happening. First of all, I have the worst track record with boys, as in no track record at all, hence the "no boyfriend ever" thing I mentioned earlier. I don't want to wait until I'm 30 to get married and have sex. I want kids, and I don't want to be in my 60s when they're heading off to college. Eh-eh. I want kids in my 20s. And second, I'm a little scared that if I wait until I'm married to have sex, I'll end up tied to someone who's well, not very good at it. I know that's not a reason to marry someone/not marry someone, but from what I've learned, a physical relationship is part of a good marriage (or am I wrong?). I don't want to be married to someone I won't want ot have sex with, because I want to be able to have a good physical relationship with my future husband.
I realize that a lot of this probably doesn't make a lot of sense, but it definitely felt good to get it all off of my chest.
The majority of my friends say I should wait for someone "special," but that implies that I'll actually meet someone "special." Personally, I don't believe that there's someone like that out there for everyone. I just don't. It seems too good to be true. But that's a whole different story.
My older family members (i.e. my mother) and a small number of my friends think I should wait until I'm married to have sex. But I just can't see that happening. First of all, I have the worst track record with boys, as in no track record at all, hence the "no boyfriend ever" thing I mentioned earlier. I don't want to wait until I'm 30 to get married and have sex. I want kids, and I don't want to be in my 60s when they're heading off to college. Eh-eh. I want kids in my 20s. And second, I'm a little scared that if I wait until I'm married to have sex, I'll end up tied to someone who's well, not very good at it. I know that's not a reason to marry someone/not marry someone, but from what I've learned, a physical relationship is part of a good marriage (or am I wrong?). I don't want to be married to someone I won't want ot have sex with, because I want to be able to have a good physical relationship with my future husband.
I realize that a lot of this probably doesn't make a lot of sense, but it definitely felt good to get it all off of my chest.
August 9th, 2012 at 07:54am