V For Virgin.

@ The-Maine-Becky
Like pretty visitors said, getting drunk and having sex doesn't make one a "slut". I'm 25 and I can have sex with as many people as I want, while as drunk as I want. It doesn't make me a slut. It means I'm making conscious choices about my sexual life that have nothing to do with you.

I think having sex is personal and when a person has sex isn't much of anyone's business but their own. I personally wouldn't want to loose my virginity any time soon. Who am I to say that my choice and opinion is better than anyone else's?

I know someone who lost their virginity at the young age of thirteen. Now, though I disagree with this, it does not make them a slut or any kind of bad word. They are one of the most lovely, decent, kind-hearted people I know. We're all going to have our judgements, that's beyond our control. My suggestion is to not get involved in someone else's sex life, because each person is different.

@ Pretty Visitors.
I didnt mean to include you, I should have been more specific, I have no quarrels with a 17 year old having sex. I meanly meant that to people younger than me who do it to fit in and be cool. I'm a prefect starting in September, so I'm supposed to be the most mature in the school, so if I'm not ready I don't think many people younger than me are, older I have no probems with. This also comes from seeing girls I'm my class loose it when they were 11 to 17 year olds who dumped them soon after, you don't have to be in love with the person, but if they don't understand that you want to wai then they don't deserve you is the way I think.

@ dru can fly!
Again, I mainly meant that to be targeted at people younger than me who clearly aren't ready but just want to be cool. I have no arguments with you (you can read it all the comment above)

@ The-Maine-Becky
I still don't think that makes all of those girls sluts. To steal a quote, "a slut is someone who is having more sex than you".

@ The-Maine-Becky
I honestly don't think that age has anything to do with if you're ready or not. Unless of course you are technically a child. And nor does you're educational stance have much anything to do with it. Sex is something that only you yourself know you are ready for. This isn't determined by your grades in school, the amount of years you've been on this planet, or the things you've decided to do before and after having sex. It's something decided on a completely and totally emotional level. Also, having sex with more people than another and having sex at a young age does not make you a slut. It only means you've had more sex than others and have done it at a younger age. There's no need for labels in that area of life choices.

@ sicsempertyrannis
@ dru can fly!

I don't really know why I'm getting hate for quite simply stating that I hate it when people have sex to be 'cool' and they aren't ready.

Chill guys. Seriously.

@ The-Maine-Becky
Hahah, I'm not hating. I was just saying what I said cause it seemed you thought is was mostly an age thing, and using the word slut is slightly offensive to some people. Just sharing my opinon. Sorry if I came off as rude.

@ sicsempertyrannis

It's hard to convey emotions through the internet! But no, I didn't mean it in an age way, just that it tends to be younger people who are not mentally ready :)

... I'm 16
I have a 3 year old son
and a
1 year old daughter.
Bye. c:

@ The-Maine-Becky
It's not that you think that. It's that you called them sluts. I'm not a fan of slut-shaming, sorry.

I am not a virgin and I'm not proud nor ashamed to say that. I should have waited, I'll say that, but am perfectly content with the person that I am and how I carry myself and my sexuality.

I, also, am not a fan of slut-shaming in the slightest. Sex is a natural thing and usually those who are out having sex with 12 people in one night. . . though this is not always the case generally but among people I know it is. . . they've had personal problems and bad experiences (sexual abuse at a young age, for example) that cause them to act out in this way. So shaming them for something that they did not choose to make them that way should make you ashamed of yourself.

I've been 18 for 3 months officially and I'm a still virgin. Partly because I want to wait for the right moment, and partly because I'm still quite insecure with myself to been seen in such a way by another person. It's very personal to me and even though I do feel ready, I still can't help but be embarrassed because of the way society portrays sex. So naturally, I am one of those people who inferior for not having sex, I won't deny it. However, I'm not in a rush to give it up to just about anyone. I want to be in a healthy relationship and not a "call me maybe" thing so to speak. I want to know when it happens, I'm not going to be stood up the next day since most guys here are notorious for that. I find it very difficult to trust someone to be honest. My kindness has been used so much, it's hard to know if this person is being true to their character or not. I freely admit I find sex a beautiful thing so that's partly a reason why I feel so insecure, because I want to share that experience with someone, but no one wants to share it with me it seems.

I don't mind waiting, I just hate being looked down upon and automatically branded "inexperienced" because I'm still a virgin at 18, sorry I wanted to focus on graduating high school first >.>

When it comes to topics such as this one, this quote comes to mind: "When it comes to exploring the sea of love, I prefer buoys." - Andrew G. Dehel. I love that quote, whatever way I look at it. (It's associated with homosexuality but that's not the point).

I'm a virgin, but I don't plan on arranging the moment or anything, just being prepared in advance. A prepared "spur of the moment" with someone I either love or with someone I deeply respect and love as a person but am not necessarily IN LOVE WITH is what I see as ideal for me.

I feel sorry for those who are involved with sexual activity at a young age and come to regret it later but I think activity at such an age is mainly due to their parents and how society is becoming so sexualised. I read a book about it and there are some parents taking their 12 year old girls to get Brazilian waxes, sometimes forcing them to. We need to reduce the need our young kids are feeling of being a certain person and behaving a certain way, particularly how they view sexuality.

I'm a freshman in college and I'm still a virgin YEYYYY. I don't know, I've never been very popular with the boys, only ever had one boyfriend. I'm not ashamed that I haven't lost my virginity yet. Even if I was, what can I do about it really lol. Also being incredibly insecure about my body doesn't really help either! I don't let it define me, I don't think being a virgin is really that big of a deal. At least to me it isn't. I've got more important things going on in my life than worrying about the fact I've never experienced sex before. The time will come eventually and if it doesn't then I will proudly be put in Ripley's Believe it or Not the 90 year old virgin.

I'm 21 and I'm still a virgin. It really doesn't bother me, I mean, I've never found anyone that would be worth giving up something that's so important. It's an experience that will never happen again and I think if it's just some hook up that means nothing, or comes to mean nothing later on, then it will be regrettable. I don't think it's the end of the world that I haven't lost my virginity, I just think that I'm waiting for the right person at the right time.

@ WhoAreYouJudy
There's a 105-year-old virgin. Or was. Not sure, the article is a few years old. here.

@ emaleeNightray
Wow, that's powerful. More power to you though. I sometimes wish more people (girls mainly) were like that because some of them seem to say yes although they're not ready. If they're ready, then that's their personal decision and power to them. But I can't look up to a girl that gives it up to a guy just because he pressured her to do it. It kind of comes off as a little weak to me.

And I don't like it when guys pressure girls to have sex with them. I've never been a guy, so it's kind of hard for me to speck on their behalf, but I do think that society needs to stop looking at a guy being a virgin as something distasteful while a girl being a virgin is not. I've always hated double standards, I swear. It kind of reminds me of that line by J. Cole in his song It Won't be Long "Living in this cold World where niggas shun virgins/ And praise hoes". Then in his song Too Deep for the Intro he says "Should I admit that a slutty bitch was my first smash/ Was inexperienced so nah I didn't wear it out/ Always thought my first time would be with someone I cared about/ But being a virgin was something to be embarrassed bout" It's kind of sad.

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I'm still a virgin. I haven't even dated. I haven't even kissed a guy yet. It's crazy. One of my friends thinks I need to get a boyfriend. Most don't think I do. I don't care. I'm not really looking. It's the last thing in my mind to be honest, like, it's deep in there. I feel like I'll probably have sex before I get a boyfriend... that sounds kind of bad to some, but I don't give twenty fucks. I'm not a very intimate person and I don't quickly open up to people. It takes years stacked on top of years. So much that the only person I've opened up completely to is my best friend that I've known since I was four.

@ Ayana Sioux
"I feel like I'll probably have sex before I get a boyfriend... that sounds kind of bad to some, but I don't give twenty fucks."

I don't think that's bad. I no longer will date people I haven't slept with yet. I'm not a virgin, but I'm just ... relationships in order to have sex seems silly to me.

dru will wait.:

relationships in order to have sex seems silly to me.

Yeah, now that I think about it, that does sound a little silly.