V For Virgin.

@ Ayana Sioux
I just think that a person should have a relationship because they like the person, not 'cause they want to get laid. Sex is pretty easy and relatively uncomplicated compared to a relationship.

I've done everything but have sex. I like giving head, I like being eaten out. I like kinky things, too. I watch porn a lot, I masturbate all the time, but I've never had sex and it pisses me off.
I had a boyfriend, the guy I've done everything with. I wanted to have sex with him, I definitely did. We tried, and it hurt too much that I made him stop. That happened twice. I'm worried about it happening again with someone else. Now that I'm in college I'm afraid that guys aren't going to wait around for sex. I'm afraid that a relationship is not going to come before sex like it does in highschool and that scared me. I do not want to be a virgin anymore, but I will not lose it meaninglessly. I want it to be with someone I love. I didn't realize how genuinely worried I am about this until now. Oh god.

@ dru will wait.
You know, the more I think about what you said about having sex before a relationship all the time, makes a lot more sense. I mean, I thought about how some guys today just want sex from a certain girl so they would go through with the dating just to hit and quick/ smash and dash. Then the girl will probably feel dumb as fuck afterwards. I think that if you have sex before, it will better filter out (what I call) the fuck niggas and make it easier to identify the people who are worth your time. If that makes sense. But I don't know if that's your intent. Maybe yours is more for sexual gratification which I can understand because sex is important in any relationship.

@ operatic skeleton.
I don't think I would consider you a virgin. I believe what's considered a virgin is someone who hasn't had sexual intercourse which means the penis enters the vagina. But maybe it hurts because he's either too big, or you're too small. If I were to be completely honest and vain, I'm kind of small so that sometimes worries me. But over time, you will naturally widen to make it easier so I don't you should worry that much about it.

@ operatic skeleton.
I share a different opinion than Ayana. If you weren't able to have sex, I say you didn't have sex.

@ Ayana Sioux
Generally I would prefer sex to a relationship and when I just want sex, I think looking for a relationship simply to be able to have it isn't only silly, it's cruel to the other person involved. Sex is one of the most important things in a relationship to me, so it's also important to know going in if we click. But, mostly, I think starting off without romantic intent will make it easier to go or not go to that place, because the expectations are minimal.

@ dru will wait.
Okay, that makes sense too.

I am a virgin and everyone who knows is very proud/envious of this fact! I'm actually proud of myself too, although I've never actually been in a real situation where I felt I had to have sex anyways. Honestly, I feel like if you're ready to have sex, you wouldn't be scared of it, and I am scared. So, I'm not ready. I've heard guys like virgins and that's probably for some creepy kinky reason that I don't care about, but for now, I am one and I plan to stay one for a while.

The lad I'm seeing asked me yesterday morning how old I was when I lost my virginity. I told him 16 and he seemed surprised which annoyed me hahah.
But then he told me he was 13. Whoa. He knows it was really young but he said he was buzzing at the time because the girl was 14 and yeah he is male and was given the opportunity so it's like what do you expect... But it's just so young. That seems wrong to me.
Then I got paranoid about how many girls he's actually slept with and what number I am if he lost his V 6 years ago when he's still a teenager but I'll try not to think about that. But I'm guessing quite a few as he first had sex so young and he's really good in bed so clearly experienced. It makes me feel better about my number I suppose though. I'm tempted to ask him his number but it might be too soon and it might make him feel uncomfortable or upset me if it's a lot but I dunno. I'm curious.

I've been called a unicorn for still being a virgin!

On a more serious note however; I see myself keeping it that way until I'm married. Will it stay that way? I don't know.

It sickens me that little girls are losing it. Having sex for the first time is supposed to be special. I am not a virgin, I lost mine at 15 to a guy I had been dating for two years. We are not together anymore, but it was special since we both lost it to each other. As of now, I am expecting a little baby in June 2013. c:

@ dru will wait.
I agree. Media portrays virginity as something that should be lost as quickly as possible. I can't wrap my head around this idea. Another fantastic example of how warped society is becoming. How can losing your virginity NOT be a big deal?

Sometimes, I feel kind of pathetic because I'm still a virgin. One of my good friends made fun of me because I haven't had sex yet and that hurt my feelings a bit. I've never actually dated a guy, so I have no romantic experience whatsoever and at this point, I feel like it's never going to happen for me.

I don't know, maybe I'm just being weird or something.

@ darci.
I think depending on the individual, losing your virginity can easily not be a big deal.

My boyfriend and I were just two basically strangers who had known each other for three days when he had sex with me. He was a consenting adult, so was I, and it wasn't a big deal to him.

It just depends on the individual and their personal views and feelings toward sex.

@ loverboy.
I know the feeling. I'm still a virgin, proud of it some times and other times, like yourself, I just feel pathetic. I've been bullied about it and honestly, I think some of it stems from the bully loathing themselves for not having held out(a rare case really, some people are just assholes.) I've had relationships, but I've never been comfortable enough to give that part of myself away, and the rare times I'd gotten close, the guy wasn't interested in waiting anymore and broke it up by sleeping with other girls. Mature.

The problem I find is, is being insulted about being a virgin by girls who are barely in their teens. Where I live, girls are spreading their legs at the tender age of 9, and the youngest pregnancy I've seen is 12. What the hell is wrong with the world when people so young are not only having sex, but bulling those older than them who happen to have morals? I've been told to kill myself because I'm still a virgin. I don't see virginity as something to be ashamed of and personally, I'd rather be a 'fridget bitch' than a slut.

I was 15.
I was with him for a year and he was a year older than me. We broke up after two years. I'm not going to say I regret doing it because I don't, but I think if I was to ever be in that serious of a relationship again I'd wait longer. Sex just complicates everything and there are so much more fun things you could be doing rather than getting down and dirty in the dark. Like laser tag. I love laser tag! So much more fun than sex.

My two cents. :)

@ curly_cues
I think it depends on the the person and the age of the person as well. I'm in my mid-20s so to me sex is much more fun than laser tag. But when I was in high school I made a decision not to have sex until I was out of school, so I think it's a very good decision for teens who are having sex to wait until they're comfortable and not put so much weight on it because sex in high school can have much more disastrous results than an adult having sex.

@ dru will wait.
I agree, a lot of girls ask me if they should have sex now since they know I've done it and I always tell them to wait. After sex all the feelings seem to change and it's a bit much to handle when you're still growing and figuring things out.

i"m only 18 and i am still a virgin. whatever. It seems now a days its not cool if you're still a virgin. The generation and kids are messed up these days. And it seems like most of my friends have losted it or at least lied about losing v's. but i will when i am ready not at this age but when i find someone i truly love.

I don't really understand why there's a name for it. Maybe I don't feel the same way as everybody else does, but to me, sex has never been a life-changing experience. Having it or not having it is not a big deal (as long as you don't get pregnant, catch an infection, etc.), but I know a lot of people think it should be something special and wonderful. I don't even like sex, so special and wonderful is never going to happen for me, not that I care if it does or not, because sex isn't important to me at all. I just don't understand why you obtain a name for not having sex... To me, traveling is a much more life-changing experience, but there's no universal name for someone who's never left the country...

I used to get picked on by a friend of mine when I was 13; because she lost her virginity before me, and she wanted me to as well. I was weird.
Well; I've stayed a virgin all these years and I'm glad I did. I'm going to lose it to the right person, who also saved it. I'm still going to wait until I'm 18 because honestley; it's for adults, I'm still a kid.
If there's anyone out there who's my age or even younger and is seriously considering losing their virginity, be it to some random guy/girl or a boyfriend, wait. You'll never regret what you didn't do, and you'll be glad you waited. It will be so much more special like it's supposed to be, I promise.

@ Miss Vampire Is Dead
Not everyone sees their first time as special though. It's good you're willing to wait but not everyone has the same views so telling them to wait might not be the right advice for them. My first time to me, I don't remember it as special or anything, not really any more. To me, it's just another time I had sex. There's plenty of other times you may regret having sex, not just the first time. But it's good that you're happy with your choice.