V For Virgin.

  • Jordypye

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    @ Answering.Alexandra.
    I know this girl who has a new boyfriend every week, she's really open to boasting about her sex life as well.

    I was walking with her up to the shops one time and she kept going on about how great her boyfriend is at sex. That wasn't even the worst part. She asked if I'd had sex with my boyfriend and I said I had then she tried to get me to describe my boyfriends dick to her. -.- Thats when things got awkward.

    If I'm asked I'm not going to lie about being a virgin or not. I'm just not going to go running around screaming "I've had sex!" to the world.

    Considering I was raised in a Christian family myself. When I sat my mum down and told her she took the news better than I thought.
    December 30th, 2012 at 03:57am
  • Answering.Alexandra.

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    @ Death The Angel

    I guess those are just people that really feel they need that kind of attention.

    By the way, I was also raised in a Christian family, so it gives me great relief to know that your mom took it well. Even though I'm still a virgin, if I have sex in the future, it gives me hope that my mom won't be as angry as I'm anticipating.
    December 30th, 2012 at 08:06am
  • panda_saurs_rex

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    I lost mine at 15. but I had been with the guy officially for 4 months. and unofficially for about 6 months. and I don't regret losing it at that age I just wish he didn't turn into a sex crazy asshole after ward, like if i said no to having sex (manly at 3am when he would wake me up because he had been on his computer all night) he would pester me until i told him to shut up. then tell me im cheating on him and getting sex elsewhere as to way i said no.
    January 3rd, 2013 at 12:42pm
  • folie a dru.

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    @ Death The Angel
    Even if a teenager were to brag about how many people they've had sex with, I don't think that necessarily makes them a slut.
    January 3rd, 2013 at 05:21pm
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    @ panda_saurs_rex
    Just to let you know for future references, pressuring someone into sex and accusing them of things like cheating when they say no are signs of abuse/an abuser. Please be careful next time and don't let anyone force you into a decision you do not want to make. Your body is yours to do with as you will and you do not need to put out because a guy accuses you of cheating.
    January 3rd, 2013 at 05:23pm
  • panda_saurs_rex

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    @ the drupocalypse.
    the first time wasn't someone pressuring me. and thank you for the advise. oh and im not with him anymore =]
    January 4th, 2013 at 02:17pm
  • Americanaa

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    I'm still a virgin at 16 which isn't rare but it kind of is considering what people get into these days. What makes my case so special is that I've never gone past making out and I've only kissed two guys. Honestly, I'm holding on tight to my virginity. It's a big deal to me and I want my first time to be with someone I love. I don't want to regret a thing. The one thing I hate about being a virgin though is that people think I'm innocent. Really, I'm not a prude, I've just never gotten the chance to go past first base.
    July 7th, 2013 at 04:29am
  • treat02

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    @ dru is taken apart.
    I agree. It's people's choice if they have sex or not.

    Still, I think I'd prefer if 11 year olds or some sort of very young age didn't have sex--then again, it's their choice.

    Still, child sex is kind of . . . well, gross.
    July 8th, 2013 at 04:58am
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    @ treat02
    I don't think children shiuld have sex and I think there is a difference between saying a woman shouldn't be judged for her sexual decisions and children might not be emotionally capable of making those decisions,

    They shouldn't be shamed, but discussing it isn't out of bounds.
    July 8th, 2013 at 05:07am
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    dru is taken apart.:
    @ treat02
    I don't think children shiuld have sex and I think there is a difference between saying a woman shouldn't be judged for her sexual decisions and children might not be emotionally capable of making those decisions.
    That said, some children develop and have those thoughts earlier than usual.
    July 8th, 2013 at 06:19am
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    @ treat02
    They're still minors, assuming. They're still getting an education, assuming. They're still being supported by someone else, assuming. They don't have a job capable of supporting two lives, assuming.

    I don't think teens should have sex. I don't judge and acknowledge they may not be making a bad decision and there may be nothing wrong with their specific decision. But as a general rule, I don't think teens should have sex.
    July 8th, 2013 at 02:31pm
  • treat02

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    @ dru is taken apart.
    Exactly. To be honest, I think there should be a law preventing kids having sex. Ah, but that's just not going to happen. Still, adults have a different lifestyle, and I think it's better if an adult has a kid, than a child.
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    They don't have a job capable of supporting two lives, assuming.
    Exactly. Before even adults have sex they have to consider the financial situations. Most 10-year-olds or 11-year-olds wouldn't really consider this. But I can't imagine my 12-year-old friend that's going to seventh grade say that she's not a virgin.

    Even so, I am a virgin. I'm 18. I'm asexual, that said.

    Still, a woman's virginity shouldn't matter on their age as an ADULT. I don't want to think about 9 and 10 year olds having sex, it just makes me wonder about the world these days.
    July 8th, 2013 at 04:14pm
  • dr. faustus

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    I think there's a difference between being sexually used and sexually liberated. And it can take awhile for young girls to realize that. I started this thread five years ago and my overall view of sex has changed. I understand my body a lot better and back then I wasn't having a lot of sex, hell I was probably one of the biggest virgins around and I'm 22 and still not having sex, but I have felt what it's like and I lost my V card when I was 19 going on 20. It was to a guy I knew for sometime, and it was only once.

    I was in a relationship a few months later and that's when I understood my body a lot more and I do as well wish teens would wait until 18 or older to lose their virginity because of psychological reasons and now a days the rise of STD's and the projection of America glorifying teen pregancy.

    I've been celibate for two years now and I'm glad I made that decision because I know what I want in a man and if any man wants to get with me he better work for it, it's not going to be easy. I want this man to work for my goodies and care about my body and I'm happy that I'm taking that route.
    July 9th, 2013 at 09:11am
  • SitaRose97

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    I am proud to say that I am a virgin, and I am probably the only one in my group of friends who is waiting to give it up. For me its about being mature enough, being with the right person, and being in the right situation. I want to be sure that whoever I give it to is the one for me, the person I will be with for the rest of my life. I have a bunch of friends who think its weird that I haven't had sex yet, because they are chatting about their sex lives in front of me. Yeah it makes it kind of awkward for both parties but they need to know that I am not ashamed about it.
    July 9th, 2013 at 02:18pm
  • Abbycus Forensicus

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    I'm a virgin, 20 in three months. I always thought that I would like to hold on to my virginity for as long as possible, partly because I think I will struggle in a sexual relationship, partly because any kind of romantic relationship is too suffocating for me. I found someone recently that was kind, generous, sweet, you name it, and I really wanted us to be together so I plucked up the courage to give him my number but it turns out he is in a relationship. I've gotten to the point now where I no longer have a romanticised view of sex and I sort of just want to get it over an done with. I think that the longer I leave it, the harder it will be for me to do it. There is a guy I know likes me, and he's a year younger than me but he's had sex before, and I'm considering just sleeping with him. Either being in a relationship or arranging some kind of deal. I don't know. Has anybody had a similar experience?
    July 12th, 2013 at 04:36pm
  • Rae-Dene

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    Im 18 and am still a virgin. I have not found anyone that I am willing to give that to. All of my friends that have had sex keep telling me how good it is, but that if you don't love them and they don't love you then it sucks.
    July 12th, 2013 at 04:50pm
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    @ Americana Exotica
    You go girl! That's the reason why I'm still a virgin!
    July 12th, 2013 at 04:52pm
  • folie a dru.

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    @ Rae-Dene
    While I think it's perfectly admirable of people who want to only have sex with people they love to do so, I disagree strongly that sex only feels good if you love the person. I have had sex with fifteen people and only loved two. I've only had bad sex twice.

    However, I waited until I was in my twenties to have sex and did lose it to someone I loved and trusted. (I'm also 8 years older than you, which makes a difference.)
    July 12th, 2013 at 07:12pm
  • independence.

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    Still a virgin, and that's fine with me. I mean, I'm not particularly concerned about if I lose my virginity as long as I'm safe about it. I'm friends with a guy, who I care about and trust, and the subject's definitely came up. If it happens, okay. If not, I'm not exactly concerned about losing it or not.
    July 14th, 2013 at 06:52am
  • Franceschi;

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    I have mass respect for those who are over eighteen and still holding their v-card. I lost mine at 21 and the whole experience is one I tend to try to forget. It wasn't a special moment with someone I honestly cared for and I regret that. I honestly wish I still had mine, but even now that it's gone I think it's important to still treasure sex. It is certainly an intimate moment with another person that you can never take back.
    July 17th, 2013 at 06:33am