V For Virgin.

I lost my virginity at nineteen. Wasn't pressured or anything like that, we were both virgins so that was nice too. Was a little bit clumsy and it wasn't perfect but I certainly don't regret it. I'd still say I'm very inexperienced though even though I'm not a virgin. I've only had sex with one person and I'm not with them anymore, and I know that whenever I'll end up with someone new it'll be like the first time all over again, the same nerves from before are just gonna come back.

That'll be fun.

(btw I can't even remember if I've posted in here already but whatever.

I chose to "lose" my virginity (such a stupid way of saying what I mean, because nothing is really lost physically) because I want to be experienced, and I want the man I fall in love with to be experienced too.
Sex to me can either be like any other activity, or it can be one filled with love and compassion, but for me it doesn't have to be.

A misconception about "losing virginity" that many young women have is that their vagina gets broken, and that sex will hurt the first time.

The hymen is just the opening to the vagina, and it doesn't break the first time you have sex. Your cherry is not popped, and after your first time nobody will be able to tell you aren't a virgin any more just from looking at your vagina.

The hymen can tear your first time if you aren't prepared, if you don't masturbate or use tampons to stretch it out, or you are very rough and don't use lube.

But your vagina doesn't get all stretched out and loose if you have lots of sex either, the vagina is very elastic, and it will shrink back to it's original tightness if you don't have sex for a while.

So yea, have sex when you want with who you want, if you want to.

@ CreeperEyes
You must have an extremely low testosterone level.

Plus, on with the topic at hand, I am also a virgin. But I don't really think virginity is a physical thing; to me, it's mostly a mindset and how a person see's their sexual life. I am an extremely sexual person, but my sexual life is one of virtue to a certain extent.

I am 19 and still a virgin. I'm currently in university and I remember in high school, thinking that at least half of the girls hadn't had sex yet. But I get to university and I am certainly in the minority. And on top of that, everyone is having casual sex and I am about a year older than everyone else.
I really want to have sex. My hormones are raging and I keep having very sexual dreams. I think I'm ready physically for sex, but I'm scared of how I'll feel emotionally after.
There is a guy I know, I really like him. I know he wants to sleep with me and we've made out but I don't know him very well. I'm scared that if I sleep with him I'll be floor whore. He doesn't sleep around a lot, but I'm afraid he'll be done with me after we have sex.

God I'm soooo confused! I really just want to do it. I'm almost 20 for goodness sake!

Virgin. I know I'll probably lose my virginity in the next couple of months or so, since there's no way I can control my hormones around my boyfriend any longer

I don't count sex as a big deal. I get that it's a special thing and I'm definitely waiting until I'm 100% really, but I don't really hold much of an attachment to it as others do.

It never bothered me that everyone I knew was going out & hooking up while I was at home eating cookies & watching anime in my defense. I'm eighteen years old & still haven't been in a relationship, never kissed anyone or anything. Frankly, I like being the odd one out of the group of ppl who talk about sex & their own encounters while I'm like "Well I'm in love with fictional characters, 2D anime guys + Kpop//Jrock dudes"

I think there's a time for everyone & you're only a virgin once. I don't want to lose it to a guy & have him wake up the next morning like "Lol see ya" you know? It's just a very serious matter to me & I'll treasure my virginity until I find someone who I'm drop dead in love with & who I know will respect my body, not use it like a hunting map or whatever

I'm 17, a senior + haven't even kissed anyone. I don't think being a virgin is embarrassing. You need to do what makes you comfortable and if you don't want to do anything until you're married then more power to you. None of my best friends have done anything either, so I can't say I've ever felt pressured into doing anything. If someone demands sex from me, they're not worth it, because a relationship is a two way street and if I'm not down they need to respect that.

Part of the reason I am still a virgin is because there's no one I am interested here, but still, I don't really see the point in having sex until I actually want the person. Also, I am afraid of getting pregnant and I know too many people who have gotten pregnant even with a condom so it basically scares me out of wanting to have sex. I don't need a kid

I really don't think virginity matters all that much. I mean, I'm a virgin but I don't feel embarrassed about it - nor do I feel like I need to lose my virginity any time soon. I mean, I don't want to be a virgin forever *knock on wood*, but I don't care if it's a couple more years until I have sex for the first time.

Still a virgin and still proud. I don't know why so many people feel there are like age limits/requirements on certain things. Like OMG I'm 18 gotta hurry up and lose the V-card or OMG I'm 21 let me drink myself into an alcohol induced coma (of course there are those who don't even wait to reach those ages) but like why do we have to put a number on things? Sometimes I feel like society makes being an adult and a virgin out to be a bad thing. I don't see what's so wrong about it; waiting for the right person, not getting knocked up, staying free of STDs, not having to deal with the emotional trauma/drama all sound like good reasons to keep my goodies under lock and key. But hey, that's just me. I'll be a 40 year old virgin, I don't even care.

I'm a virgin mostly because of my religious beliefs, but also because I've never had a boyfriend (slightly embarrassing) so I have never really had the chance to lose it. I'm still not sure if I want to wait until marriage, but I do know that I'm definitely waiting until I'm 18. I guess it just depends on if I really feel like the guy I am with at the time is really worth doing it with. I don't know if I phrased that correctly, but basically I believe sex is more about love than pleasure.

I think I'm still a virgin just because I haven't had the chance to lose it. But people are so determined to lose their virginity ASAP and I really don't care. I'm not gonna wait until I'm married, I'm not gonna wait until I'm at a certain age, I'm just gonna simply wait until I've found a nice guy that I like.

Funny to think I managed to lose my virginity Wednesday night as a random hookup

I'm nineteen, as of this past August, and I'm still a virgin. I don't really hesitate in saying so when asked because I don't have any shame in being a virgin. I don't care and I don't think I ever will. My sex drive isn't very hyperactive, either, so I rarely have sexual urges therefore no cares given.

I realized very early in my life that I was asexual, so the fact that at nearly twenty-one I'm still a virgin is exactly what I expected.

I have no intentions of losing my virginity, there's no idealism behind it, I just have absolutely no interest in that arena.
Conversely, I've never felt romantically towards someone, so I've actually never kissed anyone either.

I am so cool it hurts sometimes.

Virginity fascinates me as a concept. I mean, if we go by the standard "sex equals p-in-v", I'm a virgin. Most other things I'm not and I don't mind that I've experienced them at a somewhat "young" age. The timing was right, I was with the right person, and I have no regrets. My plans for having sex include waiting until I'm 17 and it has to be with the right person. I'm a romanticist, and I want my 'first time' to be incredibly sensual and more about exploring mine and my partner's bodies than the act itself, you know?

I think it really comes down to what you think of a virgin, because obviously someone of a different sexual orientation is going to count virginity differently. It also pisses me off how much value people place on it and how it equates to someone's self-worth, or has a very high standing in it. I honestly don't care if people have sex / do sexual activities on a regular, semi regular or never basis. It's their life and it's up to them, although I admit I do cringe when reading about young teenagers having sex and what have you. I'm all for the innocence of children. If we were to flip the numbers, to people who wait for marriage / are still virgins mid-20s I really don't care. It's none of my business.

@ park yoochun
Omg that 'lol see ya' made me LOL haha! I think you've got a great mindset about it!
Ugh I'm so worried about the likelihood of having to listen to/be asked questions on that horrid three letter word subject which I'm repulsed by. I guess I could just try to pull off the whole "I don't give a fuck" (literally) kind of attitude and hope they'd just move on, because if I make a fuss about how much I hate it I'm quite sure they'll all overreact and find it amusing.

I just...I can't even explain this properly. There's just...nothing there for me; no feeling towards it - no excitement about it lol. I just...eww. No. Just no. Excuse me while I go hop back on the Virgins R' Us train...

@ Xiaholic
you know, in the six month span that i've posted that, it made me lol too bc wow i'm such a nerd about these things. i understand how you could feel repulsed by the three letter word (sex...y junsu! *tarentellegra dances*)

i think the way society has put a spotlight on sex completely diminishes the purpose of it. i understand that you may love someone to the point in which you want to show them how much you love them which can lead to sex, but sex doesn't always = love & i feel like people are always like "so ily...are you going to take off my clothes so i can show you?" um no. i don't think that @ all. i understand maybe being in a relationship & after a few years you talk about it & discuss it. people give me weird looks if i'm even hinting that couples should talk about it.

why the look? the whole situation is awkward especially for newtimers. i don't expect the person im dating to suddenly go fifty shades of grey on me. first of all bc that's nasty & second, i'd deck he/she in the face for even trying. as a righteous person, i have my person bubble & no one can/should/will infiltrate said bubble unless they'd like to get a deck to the face. my fist can dish out nose job justices all over the world, okay.

idk, i'm w/ you on that "don't give a fuck" when explaining my views on the whole sex thing. to me, sex is sacred & i must love you beyond words can explain or the world can show if i give it up to that person.

@ park yoochun
I love your replies! So true, though!

I've never done anything more than hold hands/link arms with someone, and even then it was Sadie Hawkins and my date (just a good friend) was a total gentleman. But of my group of 3 best friends, I'm the only virgin AND the only one without a (steady or on/off) boyfriend, which is weird. I mean, at this point in my life sex and relationships are definitely not a priority, but I can't help but be a little jealous (mostly repulsed, but slightly jealous) when I see my friends or acquaintances with their boy/girlfriends and their PDA.

I’m still a virgin. Right now I am 23. I’ve never been in a “real” romantic relationship with a guy. I’ve “dated” a few times if you can call it that. The biggest thing I’ve did was hold a guys hand and have him almost try to kiss me. But I wasn’t into him like that, so I haven’t even kissed a guy yet. If I do get a boyfriend, it’ll be funny. Because I’ll be completely unseasoned in everything. But if the guy really cares about me, I’m sure he won’t see it as a big deal. My only fear is that I won’t be any good at sex and that the guy will leave me. I once knew this girl I served with in the military who gave her virginity to one of the other soldiers in our unit, and he went behind her back and told everyone how bad she was at sex and how she just “laid there” and made “grunting noises”. That scarred me. I’m not really all that pressed about having sex or having a boyfriend, either. I mean, if I fall in love with someone then i will. But for the most part the only time I ever feel like I REALLY WANT to have sex is a few weeks before I get my period. I know it’s just passing hormones, so i don’t really buy into it. Other than that I’ve now become perfectly ok with being a virgin. Although recently I wasn’t, because I did get a lot of shit from it from my family (but then I found out it was because they think I might be gay. Which I don’t think I am, because I’m only ever sexually attracted to guys...but I do ****WARNING TMI!!!!*** only watch lesbian porn when I’m horny, so I have no idea. Like I wrote before, I’ve never experimented with my sexuality so who knows?)