Self-Injury Ed and Support

Kerplunk Girl:

I have moved on from cutting to drinking heavily.

I did that for a while: drink and do drugs. It only lessened the amount I cut. I finally gave the bottle I would always drink out of to good friend, saying "Keep this away from me" and I keep away from the parties.

Kerplunk Girl:

lucifer's_angel:

ierogasm:

stringy-tin-tin:

doesn't like...pain release endorphins?

yeh it does, and so does other things like mild excercise, and eating chocolate (:

Actually even something like playing a sport, or even engaging video games, can actually release dopameine into your system, and you get a high.

Gah.

It shouldn't matter if it realeases endorphins! :x

*shrug* I meant that if people are after a rush there are better ways than cutting, booze, or drugs. Sitch?

I used to cut. A lot.
I first self harmed when I was 7, and seriously tried to kill myself at 10. I admit it, i'm pretty fucked up.

Then one night, about 2 months ago, i'd just got home from school and was sitting on my bedroom floor, cutting away, and I looked up at my Green Day poster. Those guys mean so much to me.
And I thought, what would they do in my shoes.
I realised they would just tell the world to fuck of, and never do that to themselves.
That is why I stopped cutting.

xx_outlaw_xx:

I used to cut. A lot.
I first self harmed when I was 7, and seriously tried to kill myself at 10. I admit it, i'm pretty fucked up.

Then one night, about 2 months ago, i'd just got home from school and was sitting on my bedroom floor, cutting away, and I looked up at my Green Day poster. Those guys mean so much to me.
And I thought, what would they do in my shoes.
I realised they would just tell the world to fuck of, and never do that to themselves.
That is why I stopped cutting.

:clap:
That's good! Just try and stay focused. And do something heathly when the world gets to you.

This is a really good site for help & knowledge of SI;

http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html

sorry, no good with linking things

I haven't cut in 3 whole months and I've made a promide to myself that I won't ever do it again. I'll never try to commit suicide again either because I want to grow up and fall in love again and get married.
I don't really have much self control so the fact that I've gone 3 months of no SI makes me feel really good.
If you self harm do whatever it takes to give up. Seriously, the feeling of achievement you feel is better than the relief you get out of cutting.

I cut when I feel the need to bleed.

There are worse things you could be doing to yourself. And it's not like it hurts anyone.

lucifer's_angel:

There are worse things you could be doing to yourself. And it's not like it hurts anyone.

That's so not true!
Yes, there are worse things. But it's the same thing with abusing someone and murdering someone. You shouldn't do either.
Plus, you'll regret it in the end, and it's hurting everyone around you. It took me a while to realize that. Things had to be put into perspective for me. Maybe you need the same comfort I have.

I used to cut.
I relapse sometimes.
But I think a lot of people do it to "fit in", and that's not right.
Neither is doing it at all, but it does erase some of my emotional pain.
I'm not killing myself, I don't see the problem.
:/

Angelina Jolie used to cut herself.

:shifty

Demolition_Lover:

I used to cut.
I relapse sometimes.
But I think a lot of people do it to "fit in", and that's not right.
Neither is doing it at all, but it does erase some of my emotional pain.
I'm not killing myself, I don't see the problem.
:/

You're still hurting yourself. You're at risk for infection, and you'll have scars. It may seem like it's worth it for the first couple seconds, but that's it.
My dad got a little cut on his knee. He got an infection in it, and had to have surgery. Another couple minutes without treatment would mean amputation. A little bit longer would mean death.

I clean them.
I'm not dumb.
Relapse happens to everyone.
Well, not everyone, but a lot of people.
I know it shouldn't be done, I know it's wrong.
You're providing no new information to me except that it happened to your dad.
I'm sorry if I come across as rude, but I know it's wrong.

Come Undone:

lucifer's_angel:

There are worse things you could be doing to yourself. And it's not like it hurts anyone.

That's so not true!
Yes, there are worse things. But it's the same thing with abusing someone and murdering someone. You shouldn't do either.
Plus, you'll regret it in the end, and it's hurting everyone around you. It took me a while to realize that. Things had to be put into perspective for me. Maybe you need the same comfort I have.

Oh, please.
Disregard my point much.

Self-harm: It's self-harm.
It can't be compared to abusing someone, or killing someone. Because those are directly affecting others, against their will, which goes against one of the main foundations of law.

Anyone not following? Let's reiterate:
self-harm.

In conclusion, I'll quote the old adage - "What they don't know, won't hurt 'em."

That's what I often think. It's my body, I should be allowed to do what I want with it.
And it's not like I'm cutting off a limb. Just a slight couple of cuts now and then.

But, I don't know. It does hurt others. They don't like us doing it because they love us and don't want anything bad to happen to us.
In the long run, it's your decision.
I'm glad people around me don't want me doing it, yeah...it's a bitch and sometimes I'd wish they wouldn't give a fuck. But...if they weren't there, in the back of my mind telling me not to do it, I don't know how far i'll end up going.

One way I think of it, is comparing the addiction with other things like drugs. Sure, it's your body and you can do what you want with it. You know it's harming you, but it doesn't matter because you want it, you need it. Then I see it is doing me damage, I don't like relying on something self destructive to get by each day.

But, like I said. It's your body, your choice what you do with it. -shrug-

lucifer's_angel:

Come Undone:

lucifer's_angel:

There are worse things you could be doing to yourself. And it's not like it hurts anyone.

That's so not true!
Yes, there are worse things. But it's the same thing with abusing someone and murdering someone. You shouldn't do either.
Plus, you'll regret it in the end, and it's hurting everyone around you. It took me a while to realize that. Things had to be put into perspective for me. Maybe you need the same comfort I have.

Oh, please.

Disregard my point much.

Self-harm: It's self-harm.
It can't be compared to abusing someone, or killing someone. Because those are directly affecting others, against their will, which goes against one of the main foundations of law.

Anyone not following? Let's reiterate:
self-harm.

In conclusion, I'll quote the old adage - "What they don't know, won't hurt 'em."

that's like saying getting drunk, doing drugs etc. are all fine because it doesn't hurt anyone else. Yet drugs are still bad and most people agree that you shouldn't do them. Same with self harm. It's like an addiction. For me it started to get so tempting to self harm that every time I was upset about the slightest thing I wanted to lock myself in the bathroom with a pair of scissors.
Even if you do it you can't deny it's dangerous and you could loose control over what you're doing.
I'm not saying it's stupid to cut because it does give a lot of relief but you shouldn't stick up for your actions saying 'it's fine if I cut, it doesn't hurt anyone'. You really need to accept that it's a problem.

Bullets:

that's like saying getting drunk, doing drugs etc. are all fine because it doesn't hurt anyone else. Yet drugs are still bad and most people agree that you shouldn't do them. Same with self harm. It's like an addiction. For me it started to get so tempting to self harm that every time I was upset about the slightest thing I wanted to lock myself in the bathroom with a pair of scissors.
Even if you do it you can't deny it's dangerous and you could loose control over what you're doing.
I'm not saying it's stupid to cut because it does give a lot of relief but you shouldn't stick up for your actions saying 'it's fine if I cut, it doesn't hurt anyone'. You really need to accept that it's a problem.

Firstly, I have nothing against people drinking or doing drugs. Although that substance abuse can actually lead to social problems, i.e., you get high and get into a fight, or a car. But in, of, themselves, I wouldn't call drinking and drugs bad. People consider drugs bad mostly because they're illegal. And they're only illegal because the government says so. And many of the problems caused by them, like impure doses, gangs and gang-violence, court proceedings, etc, would disappear if they didn't weren't illegal, and therefore distributed via a black market.
You can say that a lot of things are dangerous, and you could lose control over them. But that doesn't immediately mean you have a problem. There is a level of control. Evidently in some - your - case/s, when the behaviour controls you rather than the other way around, yes, there's a problem.
But I wouldn't call my relationship with SI "a problem".
I don't feel like going into that, but it's not the same situation you're in, obviously.

I'm not trying to "stick up for my actions".
My actions don't need defending.

Bullets:

lucifer's_angel:

Come Undone:

lucifer's_angel:

There are worse things you could be doing to yourself. And it's not like it hurts anyone.

That's so not true!
Yes, there are worse things. But it's the same thing with abusing someone and murdering someone. You shouldn't do either.
Plus, you'll regret it in the end, and it's hurting everyone around you. It took me a while to realize that. Things had to be put into perspective for me. Maybe you need the same comfort I have.

Oh, please.

Disregard my point much.

Self-harm: It's self-harm.
It can't be compared to abusing someone, or killing someone. Because those are directly affecting others, against their will, which goes against one of the main foundations of law.

Anyone not following? Let's reiterate:
self-harm.

In conclusion, I'll quote the old adage - "What they don't know, won't hurt 'em."

that's like saying getting drunk, doing drugs etc. are all fine because it doesn't hurt anyone else. Yet drugs are still bad and most people agree that you shouldn't do them. Same with self harm. It's like an addiction. For me it started to get so tempting to self harm that every time I was upset about the slightest thing I wanted to lock myself in the bathroom with a pair of scissors.
Even if you do it you can't deny it's dangerous and you could loose control over what you're doing.
I'm not saying it's stupid to cut because it does give a lot of relief but you shouldn't stick up for your actions saying 'it's fine if I cut, it doesn't hurt anyone'. You really need to accept that it's a problem.

You can kill yourself by smoking. It's just as bad as self-harm, some could argue. I don't care about drugs or drinking. I still so it. Sure it harms your body, but it's your body. No one elses. I like this point-
"What they don't know, won't hurt 'em."

Demolition_Lover:

You can kill yourself by smoking. It's just as bad as self-harm, some could argue. I don't care about drugs or drinking. I still so it. Sure it harms your body, but it's your body. No one elses. I like this point-
"What they don't know, won't hurt 'em."

I also like the line, "You choose your poisons."
Maybe some people disagree with self-harming ... But I don't drink, or do drugs, or smoke. I don't consume energy drinks. I don't go to fast food places (excepting McDonald's when my friends are working). I don't eat any type of meat, or animal products (although I don't take issue to products of animals - eggs, milk, honey, etc).
I occasionally drink caffeine.
This is the extent of what I do to my body. You do choose your poisons. Since I don't complain about other people's, they shouldn't complain about mine.

lucifer's_angel:

I cut when I feel the need to bleed.

There are worse things you could be doing to yourself. And it's not like it hurts anyone.

There are numerous sides to this arguement - self harm isn't always about wanting to kill yourself, and people [adults in particular, although I know of adults who self harm] interpret it wrongfully.
Yes, it is alot about the release [see back to the "endorphins" conversation] but it's also the knowledge and security that you are in control.

And I realise I just sounded like the biggest wanker going.

Fueled by Shalisa.:

Yes, it is alot about the release [see back to the "endorphins" conversation] but it's also the knowledge and security that you are in control.

And I realise I just sounded like the biggest wanker going.

No you don't you make a lot of sense! That's the thing though that although you feel in control (which I did at first) and I got a lot of relief out of cutting it started to become like an addiction which is often the same with drugs, drinking, smoking etc. Many people do all of those things in proportion but other's start to take to much and feel unable to stop which is also the case with self-harm.
People start cutting too deep and to often.