Self-Injury Ed and Support

  • Snufflebean

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    there are times when you need to draw the line, obviously.
    But if it helps someone from having a complete mental breakdown or they let it build up, they might kill themselves.
    A little cut is nothing compared to that.
    August 18th, 2007 at 06:13am
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    Demolition_Lover:
    there are times when you need to draw the line, obviously.
    But if it helps someone from having a complete mental breakdown or they let it build up, they might kill themselves.
    A little cut is nothing compared to that.
    Exactly.

    Also, Bullets, please; Shalisa's comment made perfect sense. Just because it goes against your beliefs, or an extremist view, doesn't mean it's not valid.

    For similar reasons people adopt, for example, eating disorders.
    August 18th, 2007 at 01:10pm
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    someone agrees with me?
    woot!
    in my opinion, everyone is freaking[parents, advisors, ect] about nothing.
    sure, their 'jocks' can use steroids and the 'preps' can smoke pot, but if the 'outcasts' are cutting, it's gunna be a HUGE deal.
    August 18th, 2007 at 02:09pm
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    Demolition_Lover:
    someone agrees with me?
    woot!
    in my opinion, everyone is freaking[parents, advisors, ect] about nothing.
    sure, their 'jocks' can use steroids and the 'preps' can smoke pot, but if the 'outcasts' are cutting, it's gunna be a HUGE deal.
    NOT though that I support SI / SH as a means of dealing with issues, or whatever ...
    I just support people's right to do what they like with their bodies.

    Idk. I guess we should be against it on principle, right?
    ._. shrugness.
    August 18th, 2007 at 05:03pm
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    Demolition_Lover:
    there are times when you need to draw the line, obviously.
    But if it helps someone from having a complete mental breakdown or they let it build up, they might kill themselves.
    A little cut is nothing compared to that.
    Exactly.

    Also, Bullets, please; Shalisa's comment made perfect sense. Just because it goes against your beliefs, or an extremist view, doesn't mean it's not valid.

    For similar reasons people adopt, for example, eating disorders.
    Umm, I did say it meant sense...I didn't say it wasn't valid (maybe you misread the comment)Unsure
    Sorry if you thought I was trying to insult her beliefs, in fact I was praising her
    August 18th, 2007 at 05:32pm
  • Snufflebean

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    I'm not supporting it.
    i'm just not gunna critisize or demean or shun people that do.
    :/
    August 18th, 2007 at 05:41pm
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    Bullets:
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    Demolition_Lover:
    there are times when you need to draw the line, obviously.
    But if it helps someone from having a complete mental breakdown or they let it build up, they might kill themselves.
    A little cut is nothing compared to that.
    Exactly.

    Also, Bullets, please; Shalisa's comment made perfect sense. Just because it goes against your beliefs, or an extremist view, doesn't mean it's not valid.

    For similar reasons people adopt, for example, eating disorders.
    Umm, I did say it meant sense...I didn't say it wasn't valid (maybe you misread the comment)Unsure
    Sorry if you thought I was trying to insult her beliefs, in fact I was praising her
    O.o

    Oh, my.
    I'm sorry.

    I think I'm coming down with a cold ... and hallucinating, or something.
    *sends basket of fruit*

    My apologies for the mistake.
    *shakes head at self*.
    August 18th, 2007 at 06:22pm
  • sunflowers.

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    oh that's okay, don't worry about it.
    August 18th, 2007 at 07:33pm
  • RENT.

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    In a way cutting or SI/SH is the cowards way out - instead of adressing issues people take it out on themselves, which is highly unhealthy.
    August 19th, 2007 at 06:36pm
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    I don't think it's necessarily a "cowards way out".
    It's just some people's way of coping. It's not a good or sucessful way but a way to cope none the less.

    Now I won't go into my past and tell you everything but I will say i have experience in this subject.

    I'm not supporting SI but I think it is your body and you should be able to do what you will. It is not the same as drugs in that way. Because with drugs and alcohol you actually are putting someone else at risk.

    I never knew that picking scabs was a form of SI. hmm.

    I think people, whether or not they do it for attention, they need help. If you are that desprete for attention you need help too.
    Whatever help means to you. If it's a doctor, friend, family member, complete stranger... whatever it is.
    I shouldn't be telling people to get help but still.

    That was longer than planned.
    August 20th, 2007 at 02:08am
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    I dont think someone can stop you, parents, doctors, friends, no one. You just have to wake up one day and say to yourself I wont do it anymore. And then if you feel like it you should try and talk to someone about it, but just to like ease up the pressure, to let go of everything and to just accept that you used to hurt yourself, you know it was bad, and you're not going to do it again.

    I'm not saying its the coward way out, but I don't really think is the breavest thing to do. It's not really your fault if you start SI-ing or something, its just a mental illness, like depression. But it kindof is if when you recover from your depression/SI sesion w/e you don't realise what you've done and just ignore it.

    I don't think kids know enough about SI, in school they tell you not to do drugs, not to drink, not to have unsafe sex, to wash your hands and other small stuff that you actually know, no body mentions anything about cutting or depression. Things should change.
    August 20th, 2007 at 02:24am
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    Fueled by Shalisa.:
    In a way cutting or SI/SH is the cowards way out - instead of adressing issues people take it out on themselves, which is highly unhealthy.
    That's a good way of putting it but for some people adressing these issues is incredibly difficult and although cutting is the easy choice it's hard coming to terms with it and seeking help is hard on a person too. I was to scared to call a helpline because I was worried my parents would find out and question me so I never did. It is a bit cowardly but it's a lot harder than it looks.
    August 20th, 2007 at 03:13am
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    I used to.
    I don't advise anyone else to do it.

    I think people need to get it through their heads that not all people who self injure do it because they are "emo".
    It's a way of coping.
    I think it is sad that a lot of people do it.
    And what makes it worse is some people do it for trend.
    September 23rd, 2007 at 01:29am
  • swollen.and.small

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    I used to cut too, but it definitely was not for trend. I think that trends are cool. Fashion, skinny jeans. Whatever. But if there's a trend for cutting?
    Come on. It hurts. Why?
    If someone has enough inner/outer suffering to go through with it, why do people feel a need to COPY it?!
    It isn't "cool". It's a way of coping with pain, and almost everyone will have a different opinion on it.
    If you are someone who turned to self-injury because of pain/confusion, etc., that is one thing. I was one of those people, but there are different options (or not, it's only my choice for my body). But When people do that kind of thing because "everyone else is" or it's "in" or "cool"
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    It's sad, in my opinion, that someone would go that far just to try to seem cool.
    September 23rd, 2007 at 04:19am
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    I guess it also depends on the degree of self-harm. If you pick at little scabs from time to time, it really can't be compared to, say, somebody with severe anorexia. Eating disorders kill, but scab-picking, well, it's pretty mild and undamaging to your health.

    Like most things, there are varying degrees. Some people like to get loads of tattoos/piercings, because they enjoy the endorphin rush associated with the needle piercing their skin. That could be considered self-injury, no? Yet if you suggested that this tattooed person see a therapist because they are 'severely damaging their health', they would probably laugh in your face.
    September 23rd, 2007 at 04:56pm
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    Oh yeah, definitely, I was just talking about cutting oneself though. It does depend.
    September 24th, 2007 at 01:08am
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    shalisa who?:
    In a way cutting or SI/SH is the cowards way out - instead of adressing issues people take it out on themselves, which is highly unhealthy.
    I'm a fucking hypocrite.
    September 24th, 2007 at 06:47pm
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    shalisa who?:
    shalisa who?:
    In a way cutting or SI/SH is the cowards way out - instead of adressing issues people take it out on themselves, which is highly unhealthy.
    I'm a fucking hypocrite.
    *shrug* I think a lot of people on this thread are fairly hypocritical .. at some point or another.
    September 24th, 2007 at 07:20pm
  • sunflowers.

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    I guess it also depends on the degree of self-harm. If you pick at little scabs from time to time, it really can't be compared to, say, somebody with severe anorexia. Eating disorders kill, but scab-picking, well, it's pretty mild and undamaging to your health.
    An eating disorder like anorexia or bullemia isn't actually an attempt at self harming though. When you end up with an eating disorder it's not really you trying to hurt yourself.
    September 25th, 2007 at 01:01am
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    ^ Yeah, that came out wrong. What I meant was, there are other ways in which kids are damaging themselves [not always on purpose, as in the case of eating disorders], and people who make little cuts on themselves are not really the worst off. Unless of course, the self-harm is linked with depression or another mental disease.

    Not everyone who self-injures is screwed in the head, e.g. people who enjoy getting tattoos because they like the feeling of needles piercing their skin.

    There are much more pressing issues in youth society LIKE eating disorders.
    September 25th, 2007 at 02:23am