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  • Modern Myth

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    I think both my parents prefer my older sister over me.
    I mean, she has her own family now, with a boyfriend and son, and they're like "Oh, look at Daniel!" Well, my mom at least.
    Don't get me wrong, I love my nephew, but, my sister was the one who came to my 8th grade graduation, not my parents. (She had to leave, but, I don't hold that against her, Daniel was starting to wail.)
    I even have my mom calling me by 'Taren' a lot of the time, covering it up with 'I've had this exact same conversation with her'
    Now, I love my sister to fucking death, Kevin and Daniel too, it's just, yeah...
    But, we're about 9 years apart, so, yeah.

    I don't want to sound like I'm whining, which I probably do....
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    August 5th, 2008 at 07:43am
  • Angelwolf1993

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    I know they feeling...my parents love my little sister more and when they bring her gifts it's like "What about me? I'm your kid too?"
    It doesn't exactly have to be gifts either...in my case food...I tell them I not hungry but I'll eat it in a few minutes...I come down a few minutes later to see my sister eating my food that was for me...
    In the end I just pushed them away thinking "I'm not taking care of you when you are in diapers..." Disgust
    Simple as that for me...and Hispanic families are supposed to be really close too...
    August 6th, 2008 at 07:16am
  • Finding_Forever

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    I'm always the misunderstood one. My parents always favor my younger brother. Hes a spoiled brat that gets everything he wants, while I haved to work for everything i have, and get, and he sits on the couch, while my parents hand life to him. I know it sounds like im Jealous, but while my brother is constantly being
    carried through life, while I'm the one who has to work for everything, i always get the hard side of the part. I think it's good that i have to work for everything, for character-building reasons, but it's hard to look at a younger sibling, while your doing all the work, and he's just being fed with a silver spoon in his mouth (or however the phrase goes)
    August 7th, 2008 at 04:42pm
  • obscene.

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    My father doesn't really havea favorite. Sometimes he likes me better, sometimes my sister and sometimes neither. It's normally neither. Though I do know that I'm my mothers favorite. Unless you count my nephew, then he is her favorite. XD
    August 7th, 2008 at 08:14pm
  • ella vator.

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    My parents don't really have a favorite. On my birthday my sisters would get a present too, and if it was one of their birthdays we'd still all get a present. None of us really get away with anything either, usually when one person gets in trouble the other two got bitched at also. :shifty
    August 8th, 2008 at 05:50am
  • the endless.

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    It's become pretty obvious that my brother is my mom's favorite. When he acts like a total brat she still calls him by pet names and scolds him instead of screaming at him like she would do to me.

    I dunno, it makes me pretty bitter sometimes, but then again I have my dad who I think probably likes me better than my brother, because I actually laugh at my dad's bad jokes and I'm nice to him.

    Just today, I came into the kitchen and put my plate down for a couple of seconds to get some water, and she started screaming at me to clean it, and he did the same thing and she didn't say anything. She was like "it's okay, he's really stuck to his diet today, the poor thing." Never mind that I've been on a diet for months.

    ...Okay, I'm bitter.
    August 10th, 2008 at 08:59am
  • cyanide cola.

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    My dad always prefers my brothers over me.
    All because they're into the games he likes and stuff.
    It's stupid.
    And, my mum, basically, she's the only one that shows me that I can really get somewhere, while my dad doesn't bother with me. :file:
    August 11th, 2008 at 10:20pm
  • Impossible

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    Like so many other parents mine claim they have no 'favorites' and I'm not going to argue that they do.however it does sometimes feel as though an older or younger sibling is favored over yourself.Sometimes I guess that is the case,but most of the time,I think parents are unaware of favoring one child over another.
    August 12th, 2008 at 04:41pm
  • EmilySays

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    I've always thought that my older brother is favoured over me but now that I've taken a step back and looked at the situation it's clear that neither of us are subjected to favouritism. We both get everything we need and most of what we want. However, I tend to get away with more things than he does as I'm more persuasive and not scared to ask.
    August 12th, 2008 at 04:44pm
  • chrissie.

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    My brother was always my dad's fave, and I'm my mum's fave.
    I have more in common with mum than I did with dad,
    and vice versa with my brother.
    September 10th, 2008 at 12:11pm
  • Maxwell Green.

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    My dad prefers my younger sister to me.
    He lets her get away with anything, and she never gets punished. Ever.
    I'd get more into detail, but talking about them makes me so emotionally sick. I can't stand being in the same room as either of them.
    My mom has just given up on it all. She gives us both equal love, and even though she's completely aware of what my dad does, she's way too stressed out to try to sort it out anymore.
    September 12th, 2008 at 04:55am
  • junioramazon.

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    My dad always seems to be under the impression that I'm his "Little Princess".
    I'm definately the favourite in his eyes, for no reason other than being the youngest, and a girl.

    My mum, on the other hand, her favourite "children" are the guinea pigs :XD
    Otherwise, she doesn't really favour either of us over the other.
    September 14th, 2008 at 04:07pm
  • Vengeful Lover

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    my older bro gets the attention, financial help, and better things, where as I'm the younger/only daughter and have a better chance to succeed in the future...wtf?
    September 16th, 2008 at 04:55am
  • devils little angel

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    It's happened to me since my brother was born.
    My brother had a severe language disability so he got all of the attention when he was younger.
    I caused a lot of trouble when I was a young child, I didn't even realise it at the time, but I got in told off by my parents all the time.

    Now more recently, I've got attention for all the wrong reasons.
    I developed an anxiety disorder and I had agoraphobia for a few months too. So I had awful rows with them for that too. They always say that I've ruined my life, they are right Sad.
    My brother recently started attending grammar school, so he's the favourite of the family at the moment :grr: .

    My grandparents on the other hand, well I was definately the favourite there. I still am. I always got treats from my Nana (RIP) and was treated nicely. My Grandad rarely teased me (which believe me, is odd), but my poor brother was treated pretty badly by them. He got teased all the time by them and they were just generally mean.

    Favouritism is horrible Sad.
    September 17th, 2008 at 09:50pm
  • Rainbowing

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    My mum favours blake, every one in the family, grandparetns, dad, step dad etc point it out alot. It gets t the oint wherehe gets what ever he wants and then mum turns around and tells me she can't buy me something as she spent all her money on him. Of coare he also got the bigger room, better clothes anything he wants, he can go to his friends whenever and I'm never allowed out, maybe 1 every 2 months if I'm luck, all he has to do is ask and off he goes for a week. The most unfair part is HE'S ONLY 12 AND I'M 16...

    sorry fro my rant XD
    September 20th, 2008 at 12:00pm
  • Necromancer.

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    Blah. My mother argues that she does not have a favorite. She prefers my sister though. I mean seriously, yeah, she has a job, yeah, she has friends. But I am 14 and misunderstood. My sister is 24, living at home, goes out partying every weekend pretending she isn't. But when she does something wrong, who gets blamed first and won't get out of it without cold hard proof? me. Who gets screamed at for doing something stupid (like sitting on the computer for to long) while my sister can go out and get PREGNANT and all my mom does is hug her and cry saying how it will all be ok. :file: I can go on for hours pulling up similar scenarios, but it is not worth it. She will try to play the good mother with me, but at the end of the day. I don't matter. and I can truthfully care less so long as I am taken care of until I leave. Oh yeah, ending note, she treats my supposed 'best friend' who basically lives with us, better than me cause her mom don't want her. At least she admits it :coffee:
    September 20th, 2008 at 02:55pm
  • neurotic.

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    Both of my parents favor my little sister.
    I get yelled at, while she could get away with murder.
    If I want something, I need to work to get it.
    If she wants something, my parents give her it.

    I mean, yeah, working hard builds character. But it's not too great watching everything being handed to my sister on a silver platter.

    Even on Christmas last year, my sister got really expensive crap that she never uses. Guess what I got for Christmas? Those teeth whitening things. Oh boy! Making my teeth white is so much fun!

    I do get something good though. Whenever my sister invites her friends over, they all want to hang out with me because they say I am much nicer than her.

    Even the rest of my family (my cousins, aunts, uncles... etc.) think that she is spoiled and I'm nicer. So it's not all that bad... :file:
    September 20th, 2008 at 05:17pm
  • chromatography.

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    I think there is something about the youngest sibling getting the attention. They, are the last child so they get it. Especially if it's a boy. I dunno why parents take a lot of pride in their sons. Both my step-mum and my dad do. But I'm daddy's little girl too.

    My step-mum favours her son, obviously cause she gave birth to him not me. They get along better and she's provides him with opportunities I never had. Which I zealously envy.

    But I still love them.

    There's always going to be favouritism because a person always gets along or admires somebody else and considers them a favourite. That's the thing with humanity, we don't realise we categorise people unintentionally, unless it's told to us.

    I mean people don't spend hours doing blueprints or planning schemes on how to make five favouristism to their favourite. A bit ridiculous.

    Unless it is out of spite. Which is low. Disgust
    September 21st, 2008 at 08:44am
  • Sparks

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    My dad babies my younger sister even though she is about to start High School.
    I just feel so ignored sometimes because when I want to talk he's always to busy but he has plenty of time for her.
    October 13th, 2008 at 09:00am
  • villa

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    Not really, although I always assume my parents favour my sister because she's older.
    But then I realize I'm wrong.
    October 13th, 2008 at 09:48am