Oldest Children.

  • folie a dru.

    folie a dru. (1270)

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    So here's one of the oldest children.

    I'm the oldest of five.

    I'm 21, Derek's 19, Josh is 17, Tori is 15 [almost 16], and Cody is 12.

    Problems being the oldest?
    Cool things about being the oldest?

    The problem with being the oldest is that you're generally the science experiment. You got harsher rules at that age than they did, blah blah blah.

    Cool things are that you're the oldest.
    November 25th, 2008 at 08:03pm
  • twiggeh

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    ^Yeah I agree. With the 'science experiment' point

    I'm the oldest of two.

    I find my younger sister is a lot less independent than I am, I will happily do things by myself and not need mum's help, from when I was younger than she is now (my sister).

    My mum was a younger sister, and she therefore empathises with my sister a lot. She has no experience of being the older sibling, so often I get the hard end of the stick.

    I think, though, as the oldest, you keep your innocence longer with your parents. I don't know what my mum know, or suspects, I do, but I'm sure that my sister will be 'older' when she gets to my age.

    My mum is actually pretty good on realising how old I am, and what I should be able to do now, but I know some parents certainly aren't.
    November 25th, 2008 at 08:30pm
  • The Brightside

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    I'm the oldest of three. My younger sister is 14 and my brother is 12.

    I definitely know what you mean about the science experiment thing. At my brother's age, I had 8.30-9ish bedtimes. He goes to bed at whatever time he wants - usually around 10 or 11 because he reads so much or plays ont he computer. My sister got her first horse off my parents, and got her second bigger horse when she just 13 - I saved up for my first horse and didn't have someone else take care of it like how I take care of hers, and I didn't get a big horse til I was 15.

    I read somewhere that scientific research has shown that mothers often have the most trouble bonding with the first child, as it was the most traumatic for them, it being their first and all. My mum is a lot more distant with me than the other two, and that piece of research seems to fit.

    Like ^ said, my parents both were the youngest siblings, so they don't get what it's like to be the oldest. >_> My dad gets how 'hard' it must be (:tehe:) though, 'cause he once said that "oldest kids get all the shit from the parents". Kinda true. xD
    November 26th, 2008 at 04:08am
  • twiggeh

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    It will be really interesting to see what freedoms my sister gets when she's my age.

    I got my first efpos card at her age (12) and mum won't let her get one til she's 13. Thats a slight reversal in the normal ways of experimentation.

    But my sister also has no bed time. When I was 12, mine was 8:30, but I could have the light on til 9. I thought I was lucky then too.
    November 26th, 2008 at 04:40am
  • waits.

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    Haha! I'm the oldest of three: Me- 15, Tom- 13 and Sam- 11, and I totally agree with the whole "experimental child" thing. My parents openly admit that I'm the "guinea pig" , and honestly, I don't mind. The only thing I don't like is the whole being drafted to babysit all the time, and having more responsibiltity and junk. It bothers me when I see my 13 year old brother not even being expected to take care of himself and stay home by himself when I was babysitting alone at that age.

    I like being oldest though. I think it all evens out. I mean, yeah, your younger siblings might get not so harsh rules, but you're the one who gets to date first, drive first, all that cool stuff.

    :D
    November 26th, 2008 at 05:44am
  • Teen Distortion.

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    I'm the oldest of three.
    Ben's nine and Josie is sixteen months.
    My parents had a lot harsher rules for me and I set their expectations so it'll suck for my brother and sister if they don't kinda follow the way I took.

    I'm a lor more independant than my brother, and my sister is to young to tell.
    I'm okay with being the oldest.
    November 28th, 2008 at 03:15am
  • Darling we're Dead

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    I'm the oldest of four. My younger siblings are thirteen, ten, and six.

    I actually feel really left out in my family. I know they care about me, but no one really like comes and asks me if I'm alright. I also feel really responsible for my siblings. I want to make sure that everything goes alright for them and that they're okay.

    It's tough sometimes though because my thirteen year old sister is really sassy and into that teenage rebellion stuff, my ten year old sister has Autism, so it's harder for her to understand, and I just want her to be okay, and my six year old brother is hyper and I feel the need to look out for them.

    I really like being the oldest though, because even though it's the hardest and takes on a lot of responsibility, I go through things first. I know what's going to be hard for them and I can watch out for them better.
    November 28th, 2008 at 05:18am
  • pulmonary archery.

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    I'm the oldest of three, but I really don't feel like I am a lot of the time because the age gaps are so huge.

    I'm nearly 18, my sister is 4 and my brother is a month old. As a result I feel really separated from the family. They all do the things that parents and their little kids like to do. I kind of feel like I'm just someone who lives in the house with them, and won't be there much longer.

    Anyway, I can already see that I'm the 'experiment.' I've heard my mum say many times that my sister gets away with things I never would of. She gets so much more than I did too, but that could also be down to like.. Money issues and stuff. I feel like she'll grow up in a much better environment than I did. She already has a stereo in her room and likes playing on my game boy. I didn't have those things until I was twice her age.

    My mum said to me I'm different to them though. I asked why and she was like, "I don't know, you're just special, you're my first born." I suppose it's understandable.

    I could talk about this subject forever. It annoys me and upsets me all at once, sometimes... But it's a lot more than just being the oldest child.
    November 28th, 2008 at 04:30pm
  • peter quill.

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    At the moment I'm living te role of the eldest because my older sister moved out

    I'm now getting the money, attention and I cn bully my sister because of it

    Though when my sister comes back I get de-oldest

    It beats being the middle one :XD
    November 28th, 2008 at 06:16pm
  • rockurheart

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    I'm the oldest of two.

    The problem I have is that my parents tend to blame me for everything bad that happens and that they usually put me on a tight leash.

    Cool thing about being the oldest is that my aunts treat me as if I'm their only child. :tehe:
    November 29th, 2008 at 07:08pm
  • RunawayRiotxx

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    In my family, if I don't do something i get blamed for everything. Everything is my fault and my litle sister is an angel. My sister can talk back and not do chores and no punishment for her. But if a friends mom drops me off at my house after a movie [we went to a movie and dinner..and the movie theatre is 5 minutes from my house] at 10:15pm I get yelled at and punished.

    I do think that I was the experimental child too. And as far as the distant relationship thing with parents. Yeah..I'd say that is true. My sister and my mom are prettyy close. It doesn't matter though..

    In 2 years I move out..
    Yea.
    November 29th, 2008 at 11:12pm
  • prototype.

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    I'm the oldest. Bea is 14 and George is 10.

    I sometimes hate being the oldest, they give me so much responsibilty and they know that I'm not capable of these things but they give it to me anyway. And also, even if I'm the oldest, I still feel inferior to my siblings just because they have bigger bodies than I. I am really skinny and they can push me off anytime.

    Then my parents trust me so much about my studies.

    The only thing that I like being the oldest is that they always think that I'm the good one.
    December 1st, 2008 at 01:00pm
  • bateman

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    I'm the oldest {15}. My brother's 12.
    Seriously, he gets away with so much. I don't really care, because I have quite a lot of freedom to be honest.
    It just bugs me how he thinks he can do everything I can do. It's like "No, I'm older. I've been your age and had those restrictions, now you fckn deal with it. :grr:"

    But generally, I prefer being the oldest.
    December 1st, 2008 at 08:20pm
  • Jonne Aaron.

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    I'm the oldest of two, at thirteen. My brother's eight.

    My parents seem to have decided to focus solely on him. He used to muck up at school all the time, and his punishments were minimal and he got counseling. I had serious issues at the beginning of the year, I still do, and I saw a shrink once and both my brother and my mum were in the room.

    At my brother's age, I was pretty much doing everything for myself, because my parents were so focused on him. He still doesn't know how to shower himself, and they still get him a bedtime drink. I think it fucking sucks, put bluntly, as when I was eight I was doing everything myself. He never does anything around the house, just sits and watches cartoons all the time. He still gets dressed in the lounge room in the morning, and doesn't cut up his own chicken schnitzels or whatever we have for dinner.

    I'm sort of divided on where I stand about being the oldest. I like, y'know, staying up late and being able to watch decent horror movies as opposed to kid's ones. But at the same time, I hate how he's got it amazingly easy compared to what I had.
    December 2nd, 2008 at 11:21am
  • dom howard.

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    I'm the oldest, at 14, with a 10 year old little sister, and I totally agree with the science experiment thing. I hate it, because I'm expected to do more, even though at my sister's age, I had to do alot and she does nothing. She's lazy & babied "/
    December 2nd, 2008 at 05:57pm
  • Rooskaya;

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    I'm the oldest at 16, my sister is younger (10) and there is a huge difference.

    My mom tries to treat us both the same, but I get a litle more, have to do a little more because I'm older where my dad spoils my sister and then spoils me after he rubs it in my face.

    Like the other day for instance:
    Me: "would you yell at her like that?"
    Him: "Uh.." And he got all quiet, but I think it's really shitty how he's so fucking bias and then he tries to say I have more when really, I don't. He doesn't take me out every weekend and buy me endless shit for failing school.

    But I do like being the older one because I can do more, like when I can't stand being around anyone I can just go off and nobody will question it. My mom just likes to tell people "she's a teenager."
    December 2nd, 2008 at 08:07pm
  • unapologetic.

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    Oldest child, too. My brother's 14, my sister's 12.

    And both think they're smarter than me at times.

    I do feel like a science experiment...since no one else has done anything first...

    And I feel like I get the brunt of the punishment. Like i'm the dud.

    My little sister can bat an eyelash, or my brother can stick out his lips, and they both get away with either nothing or a slap on the wrist.

    Me, however...well, no. I'm not cute and little anymore.

    And if I even insinuate unfair treatment or favoritism, my mom'll fly at me.

    I also am very protective of my sibs, and my parents get on to me for THAT!

    Because i'm doing my job, and I don't want my 90-pound brother on the high school football team.

    Eh-heh. :shifty:

    ...I believe I started ranting. Oops.
    December 4th, 2008 at 03:22pm
  • The Way

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    Boos:

    -I get most of the responsibility
    -They impose stricter rules, then get softer on the following kids
    -"take care of your siblings" blech

    Perks:

    -I get the new stuff
    -Can get away with a bit of bullying
    -I got to be the oldest first :tehe:
    December 4th, 2008 at 06:24pm
  • Gubface

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    Ummm...
    I'm the oldest of three. Unless you're picky and you count my three stepsisters and two stepbrothers. In that case, I'm not. But my 'blood' brothers are 8 and 6. Meaning I'm the oldest by 7 years :) But it's not all plain sailing. I get told 'you're a bad influence on you're brothers' all the time.
    But yeah, being the oldest rocks :)
    December 4th, 2008 at 06:33pm
  • avalon.

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    I'm the oldest of almost 5. I'm 13, Emilie's 9, Archie's almost 7, Joseph's 1 and Squid's gonna be born in the Spring.
    The bad side is that I got to do things at a much older age than my siblings. For example. I was never allowed home alone until I was eleven. Emilie's 9 and she's allowed home alone and she sometimes looks after my baby brother!
    I also often get left with all three kids and none of them listen to me. They don't seem to grasp the concept that I'm in charge.
    Mehh
    December 4th, 2008 at 07:51pm