- Bullets:
- that's like saying getting drunk, doing drugs etc. are all fine because it doesn't hurt anyone else. Yet drugs are still bad and most people agree that you shouldn't do them. Same with self harm. It's like an addiction. For me it started to get so tempting to self harm that every time I was upset about the slightest thing I wanted to lock myself in the bathroom with a pair of scissors.
Even if you do it you can't deny it's dangerous and you could loose control over what you're doing.
I'm not saying it's stupid to cut because it does give a lot of relief but you shouldn't stick up for your actions saying 'it's fine if I cut, it doesn't hurt anyone'. You really need to accept that it's a problem.
Firstly, I have nothing against people drinking or doing drugs. Although that substance abuse can actually lead to social problems, i.e., you get high and get into a fight, or a car. But in, of, themselves, I wouldn't call drinking and drugs bad. People consider drugs bad mostly because they're illegal. And they're only illegal because the government says so. And many of the problems caused by them, like impure doses, gangs and gang-violence, court proceedings, etc, would disappear if they didn't weren't illegal, and therefore distributed via a black market.
You can say that a lot of things are dangerous, and you could lose control over them. But that doesn't immediately mean you have a problem. There is a level of control. Evidently in some - your - case/s, when the behaviour controls you rather than the other way around, yes, there's a problem.
But I wouldn't call my relationship with SI "a problem".
I don't feel like going into that, but it's not the same situation you're in, obviously.
I'm not trying to "stick up for my actions".
My actions don't need defending.