Why is it this way

I want love him show him i have everything he could ever look for in a girl I
I want to feel him know his emotions if he has eny
I want him to realize me ......no im not the girl in the background ,quiet,to myself
Dammit!!!!!the friend zones a bitch.
I want others to love us together
But he has other plans somone who sticks out more than me
And i he knew what i want i would be hurting the both of them
AND MYSELF(OUR RELATIONSHIP)
why..........does it have to be this way?