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So I wrote earlier that my boyfriend of a week broke up with me right? This is the lovely conversation we had....Let me know what you think of how he did it, personally I think all of it was a giant load of BULLS**T but thats just me...He said he did it this way so he didn't look like an asshole that just said it's over but I think this was worst than just telling me...
Him: I have a plan
Me: Oh yeah, what’s that
Him: Evolution
Me: Evolution?
Him: Yes just trust me, what do you honestly think of you when you look in the mirror.
Me: That my face is breaking out, my hair needs to b redone and I wish I had bigger boobs? Lol I’m not sure what the correct answer is
Him: You are getting there but think and look deeper
Me: Look deeper at myself?
Him: Yes as deep as you can. Tell me what you see
Me: Idk, a girl with not many friends, nobody she really trusts, a lot of secrets, a bunch of insecurities and a girl wishing that just for once her smile was real.... is that what you wanted me to say?
Him: Sorry but yes. I said evolution because you are a strong woman when it comes down to the environment around you. But truthfully your worse enemy isn’t what society thinks it’s what you think of yourself. You need to evolve. If you think that I’m wrong or bothering you please tell me so because all I’m doing is trying to help
Me: I really wish I had as much confidence in myself as you seem to have in me, I really do, thank you
Him: Now the other problem is you doubting yourself too much. I knew that someone like you wouldn’t tell anyone this because you lack trust since your last break up. Now I need you tell me have I been wrong in anything because if you don’t I mite make a mistake in trying to help you
Me: No you've basically gotten everything perfectly right, it’s really scary that you know all this
Him: Now u need to learn a few things so you can achieve happiness. You need to appreciate your body and way of being. You need to be happy of life no matter what because each day is a gift and not a given right. Next you need to learn to move on from what you are right now and focus on the future. There is one more step but I cant tell you it right now because it will make you worse than you already are. Now the next thing I want you to tell me is why haven’t you been able to do these things.
Me: I don’t know honestly, I guess I haven’t tried, I get so caught up in the past, the stuff I’ve been thru, and all that pain and insecurities and I just don’t focus on me, and what I need to be happy, I just never think about myself anymore either because I’m so focused on everyone else so I guess that answers your question?
Him: The next thing you need to do is the hardest it might make you hate me though
Me: What’s that?
Him: You need to get rid of things holding you back
Me: That is gonna be hard, half the people I know hold me back from that, hell half the things i do hold me back from that...why would that make me hate you?
Him: Because I’m the thing that holds you back the most.
Me: Do you really think that? Honestly?
Him: I don’t want to but I honestly do. I can tell you what you need to do and can’t do but what use would it be if you can’t actually use it because you are with me. Do you see my point? If you think I’m wrong tell me.
Me: I think this was a very nice way of getting me to break up wit you but honestly no I don’t, you may not realize it buy I l have smiled more in the last week with you than in the last month and I'm happy but I'm not gonna hold you in a relationship you don’t want to be in and please don’t feel like you have to stay with me out of guilt
Him: I'm sorry
Me: It’s fine
Him: The best thing you can do is smile and everything becomes easier
Me: Easier said than done but okay, whatever you say
Him: I have a plan
Me: Oh yeah, what’s that
Him: Evolution
Me: Evolution?
Him: Yes just trust me, what do you honestly think of you when you look in the mirror.
Me: That my face is breaking out, my hair needs to b redone and I wish I had bigger boobs? Lol I’m not sure what the correct answer is
Him: You are getting there but think and look deeper
Me: Look deeper at myself?
Him: Yes as deep as you can. Tell me what you see
Me: Idk, a girl with not many friends, nobody she really trusts, a lot of secrets, a bunch of insecurities and a girl wishing that just for once her smile was real.... is that what you wanted me to say?
Him: Sorry but yes. I said evolution because you are a strong woman when it comes down to the environment around you. But truthfully your worse enemy isn’t what society thinks it’s what you think of yourself. You need to evolve. If you think that I’m wrong or bothering you please tell me so because all I’m doing is trying to help
Me: I really wish I had as much confidence in myself as you seem to have in me, I really do, thank you
Him: Now the other problem is you doubting yourself too much. I knew that someone like you wouldn’t tell anyone this because you lack trust since your last break up. Now I need you tell me have I been wrong in anything because if you don’t I mite make a mistake in trying to help you
Me: No you've basically gotten everything perfectly right, it’s really scary that you know all this
Him: Now u need to learn a few things so you can achieve happiness. You need to appreciate your body and way of being. You need to be happy of life no matter what because each day is a gift and not a given right. Next you need to learn to move on from what you are right now and focus on the future. There is one more step but I cant tell you it right now because it will make you worse than you already are. Now the next thing I want you to tell me is why haven’t you been able to do these things.
Me: I don’t know honestly, I guess I haven’t tried, I get so caught up in the past, the stuff I’ve been thru, and all that pain and insecurities and I just don’t focus on me, and what I need to be happy, I just never think about myself anymore either because I’m so focused on everyone else so I guess that answers your question?
Him: The next thing you need to do is the hardest it might make you hate me though
Me: What’s that?
Him: You need to get rid of things holding you back
Me: That is gonna be hard, half the people I know hold me back from that, hell half the things i do hold me back from that...why would that make me hate you?
Him: Because I’m the thing that holds you back the most.
Me: Do you really think that? Honestly?
Him: I don’t want to but I honestly do. I can tell you what you need to do and can’t do but what use would it be if you can’t actually use it because you are with me. Do you see my point? If you think I’m wrong tell me.
Me: I think this was a very nice way of getting me to break up wit you but honestly no I don’t, you may not realize it buy I l have smiled more in the last week with you than in the last month and I'm happy but I'm not gonna hold you in a relationship you don’t want to be in and please don’t feel like you have to stay with me out of guilt
Him: I'm sorry
Me: It’s fine
Him: The best thing you can do is smile and everything becomes easier
Me: Easier said than done but okay, whatever you say