How to Mend a Broken Heart

I’ve heard people say that the best way to get over someone is by getting under someone else. Maybe this works for some people, but I’m here to tell you that there is no quick-fix solution. Getting your heart broken hurts and there’s no way a meaningless fling will fix it, and in most cases, it will just leave you feeling empty. In fact, no one other person can fix it, that’s the part you have to figure out yourself. You are the only one that can mend your broken heart. It’s not going to be easy. I know that better than anybody. I don’t even think I’m there yet. I guess I’m still figuring out how to handle things on my own, and maybe one day I’ll be able to fix my own heart. Until then, I’m just going to have to take a deep breath and hope for the best. Isn’t that all any of us can do?

Stop Relying On Other People

I think the first step to getting over someone and moving on with your life is to stop relying on other people. That’s where most of us find ourselves in trouble because we put so much of our faith in someone and give our hearts fully to them, only to be let down later. It’s this giving away of the heart that gets us all into trouble, isn’t it? I’m not saying that you shouldn’t give away your heart ever. Giving your heart to someone can definitely be a good thing. Just make sure they intend to give you theirs back. The point I’m trying to make here is that if you begin to rely too heavily and too solely on one person, there’s a greater chance they’ll let you down. Everything starts with you. Stop expecting things to just work out and for other people to step in when you step out. Stop expecting someone else to handle everything for you. You are in charge of your own life and your own destiny. You make things happen.

Take Charge of Your Own Happiness

You don’t need someone else to make you happy. The moment you begin to think you can’t possibly begin to be happy without a certain someone in your life, slap yourself in the face, hard. Your own happiness starts with you. Do things that make you happy. Go after your dreams and sing in the shower every once in a while. Take charge of your own happiness. The second you do, things will start to look up.

Make Drastic Changes

Make drastic changes to get the ball rolling if you’re still feeling like you’re stuck in a rut. Cut your hair, dress differently, do anything that empowers you and makes you feel better. I opted to cutting my hair. It was a breath of fresh air, and in a way, made me feel like I was starting anew. If a haircut can give you that as well, then do it! Get rid of that long hair you’ve been holding onto for the past three years and do something drastic! A healthy change could do you some good.

Guard Your Heart

You’ve had your heart broken and you’re wondering if it’s possible for you to ever love again. I’m no expert when it comes to affairs of the heart, but I’ve had my heart stomped on enough to know that guarding it is important. Don’t be scared to enter into new relationships, but do so with care. It’s okay to be hesitant every once in a while, and it’s definitely okay to feel scared! Whenever you find yourself feeling unsure, ask yourself what it is you're scared of. Once you figure that out, everything else will become clear.

Remember: Not Everyone is Out to Get You

Not everyone will break your heart and not everyone will hurt you. There are good people out there. Please remember that if you take nothing else away from this. It is possible to mend a broken heart. If you believed otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this, would you? Get out there, do what you love, smile, and sincerely believe that everything is going to be okay, because it is! You can do it. As for me, I’m still on my way to mending my own heart, but I think I’ll get there eventually, as will you!