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MollieSue
Fanfic Fanatic
Age: 16
Gender: Female
Posts: 1156 | May 13th, 2008 at 04:28pm above the influence:
Yes. Gender confusion is somehow a phase in most teenagers.
I'd say wait until you are 16, like what Micheal said.
You're still young and a bit confused.
Just wait and you'll find out what you are.
BUT...
If you're really sure that you're bi.
Then, go ahead and tell your parents.
Make sure they're calm and respect you while you talk.
I agree with you. That's what I'd do.
Good luck =] |
Superwoman
Ink Slinger
Age: 69
Gender: Female
Posts: 970 | May 13th, 2008 at 04:39pm You're still young, you may still be a bit confused, I would wait and see if I really was Bi, at you age I didn't know if I was bi or not, but it got clearer as I got older, I am nearly 16 and I am sure I am Bi, but if you really are sure and you want to tell you parents I see no harm in doing so. |
Mannequin. Queen
Cliché Catastrophe
Age: 19
Gender: Female
Posts: 378 | May 30th, 2008 at 08:27am Just wait.
You don't want to say something and then have it kick you in the ass later. |
Chazz_MCR
Amateur Author
Age: 15
Gender: Female
Posts: 124 | June 1st, 2008 at 01:04am Lady.Jane:Just wait.
You don't want to say something and then have it kick you in the ass later.
Amen to that.
I have no idea if i'm bi or not.. |
Freddie Mercury.
Grammar Guru
Age: 68
Gender: Male
Posts: 5551 | June 3rd, 2008 at 06:34am I agree with everyone else, really.
you're only 13. You don't know what you are.
I know that sounds horrible, but you're probably just confused.
hell, I'm 15 and I have no idea what I am!
If you're 100% sure, though, which I doubt, you should just wait until you're older still,
because I really doubt your parents would take you seriously. |
mannaquin
Amateur Author
Age: -
Gender: Female
Posts: 138 | June 3rd, 2008 at 09:22pm ummm. i wish i could help... right now im curious i havent found the rite girl to kiss yet bc i dont know if im bi or not. but im not telling my parents. bc we r catholic they would freak... i dont know what to do either... |
FrankieMonster
Fanfic Fanatic
Age: 20
Gender: Female
Posts: 1245 | June 4th, 2008 at 08:24pm I say the same, wait for a bit.
After all, kissing someone of the same sex does NOT make you bi.
Not even if you enjoyed it.
I'm 19, and I was starting to think I might be bi at age 15, but it wasn't until I was 18 I was sure. And I did kiss LOTS of girls, LOTS xD But that didn't help me feel sure about it, all I knew from that was that it was nice kissing girls, nothing more. But then I started falling for a girl, but I still wasn't sure. But like I said, now I am sure, because I've been in love with several girls. But there's NO RUSH!
And yeah, I haven't "come out" yet to my mum or anything, but I don't feel that I have to. To my family, it's not a big deal.
My stepsister has a girlfriend, and my mum and stepdad are very fine about that.
So just, don't make a rash decision, because it will be even more embarrassing if you come out now, and in a few years realise you were wrong, and you have to say "eh yeah, so ehm, mum, I'm not bi..." |
HeartSearching
Ink Slinger
Age: 14
Gender: Female
Posts: 831 | June 7th, 2008 at 09:08am Ummm...yeah quick question. Aren't you born liking both sexes, I mean I really don't think you just randomly become something you know, don't you have to just figure it out first instead of becomeing bi?
Sorry if I sound rude or idiotic, but really. |
running on empty.
Fanfic Fanatic
Age: 14
Gender: Female
Posts: 1577 | June 7th, 2008 at 06:49pm I told my parents that I was bi and they didn't believe me...
I would say wait.  |
FrankieMonster
Fanfic Fanatic
Age: 20
Gender: Female
Posts: 1245 | June 7th, 2008 at 07:52pm Yeah well, bi or gay isn't something you are turned into, it is something you realize with time.
Though some people can make you see that you're bi, and then you do sort of say "they turned me bi" even though that's not completely true.
Doesn't matter how you say it though, as long as you're sure of it. |
Nasty Habit
Amateur Author
Age: 16
Gender: Female
Posts: 113 | June 8th, 2008 at 12:39am Everyone gets like that at some point or another,
I agree with everyone else, wait a while, see if you still feel the way you do.
I may be 16 but last year I went through a time where I was confused and I didn't know if I was bi or not, I gave it time and it all sorted itself out, I'm happy as I am.
if you really want to tell them then I suggest finding out in casual convosation how they would feel if a sibling or yourself was to tell them that, see their reactions and decide on that. I asked my mum what she would do if my brother came out about being gay (hes not but it was the casual convo) and my mum would be fine with it, however my grandad would most probably dis-own me.
I made the decision to just give it time and live my life as I wanted, finding out who I am as I grow up.
Don't feel presurised into anything, make sure you give it time first, a lot of people just go through a phase.
god luck with everything, hope it goes well <3 |
Miss.Smiles
Fanfic Fanatic
Age: 17
Gender: Female
Posts: 1030 | June 20th, 2008 at 04:27am DId you know about half even a bit more people in the world are bi.
Isnt that intereting.
There's no way almost everybody in the world can be straight.
but peopel don't see it. Pretty interesting thing you should google it.
I learned it from a Psychologist student. |
RENT.
Wordsmith
Age: 16
Gender: Male
Posts: 12005 | June 20th, 2008 at 10:00am The Phantom.:TheKinkyShrink:You're only 13; don't tell them yet!
Statistically, a lot of women are bisexual.
I would wait a few years before telling your parents you are bi.
I'm 16 and still haven't come out to my dad...
Do what she says.
Just....wait. You're young, don't worry about it.
Yet.
Your feelings for Ruth may just be of a really really strong friendship. |
Poison;
Amateur Author
Age: 16
Gender: Female
Posts: 101 | June 22nd, 2008 at 08:07pm Coming out of the closest, honestly, it's different for everyone!
Where you live, religion, and other stuff are all factors.
When should you come out?
When you're older and live on your own!
Parents can [and probably will] take away privileges.
Cars, phones, computers, games, hanging out with friends..
Also, you may feel uncomfortable in your own house, because they might not let you out of the house, they may not let you hang out with your friends if they think they're gay, bi-sexual, lesbian, whichever, because they might think that you guys are together.
When you're younger and you come out of the closest, they may think it's just a phase that you're going through and you'll grow out of it. When you're older, they believe its not such a phase and will come to terms with it better. They'll be like, "you're thirteen, you're just confused..." or something...
Who should you come out to first?
Somebody that you know will support you, and that you love and trust, even though they don't support the gay/bi-sexual life style, they'll love and support you no matter what.
A close friend, family member, anyone!
How do you come out?
Find a nice atmosphere, where you're both comfortable.
Sit them down, tell them how you're feeling, explain that it's not a phase.
There is no rush!
Don't worry about coming out at age thirteen, fourteen, etc.
When you date at a young age, relationships don't last as long when you're younger.
So it doesn't really matter about relationships yet..
I hope that helped..
..Though, I did get most of this advice off of a video, whichever.  |
evencrayonslaughatme
Writer's Block
Age: 17
Gender: Female
Posts: 69 | June 23rd, 2008 at 01:23am first off just want to throw the fact out there that I dated a girl from Ireland too she was from cork...
any who...when I wanted to come out to my mom about being bi...i was a lesbian for a while and then when I was 12 i decided I couldn't limit myself to who I can and cannot love therefore I became bi and gave guys a chance..
When Sarah and I(The girl from Ireland) started dating I wanted to tell my mom, so I wrote a letter to sarah and left it on my dresser. When I came home from school my mom told me to sit down we needed to talk. Yes, I wont lie. She did yell and cry, but at the end she just hugged me and told me she loved me no matter what.
good luck! |
Maxwell Green.
Cliché Catastrophe
Age: 69
Gender: Female
Posts: 551 | June 23rd, 2008 at 03:05am I once had a (guy) friend who blew a guy when he was... six. And he knew damn right what he was doing. When we were about 8 he told me, and he knew he was bi at 8 years old
His mom told him he was 'just curious', but I don't know. I havn't seen him since I was 11, so I don't know how he turned out. It's just to show that you can be very young yet also very sure of something, like my friend was.
But still, take time to figure it out. To me, sexuality is nothing. If straight people don't tell their anyone they're straight, then why should gay/bi people tell people unless they are asked about it? Because they're 'different'? Pshh, yeah,. totally. 
Good lucko. |
zombie-popcorn
Writer's Block
Age: 15
Gender: Female
Posts: 17 | June 26th, 2008 at 09:19pm okay, your still 13 so i sugest to not tell them. im 15 and i havent told anybody in my family. I sugest you wait until your older. cuz you dont know how thell react. i mean, one i asked my mom 'what would happen if i was a lesbian?'. and a month later she came into my room crying and asked me if what i had asked her so long ago, was a lie. and i lied.
i just hope that when you tell your parents they dont react as dramatically as my mum. |
Heartbreaker.
Amateur Author
Age: 17
Gender: Female
Posts: 105 | June 26th, 2008 at 10:20pm I'm kind of having to agree with everyone else that you're young... but I guess that really doesn't change anything.
I would personally not tell them, hell, I don't tell my parents I'm bi, just because of what I know it would cause... they don't even know I'm dating a boy right now. And I'm fine with it, I don't really think they NEED to know that.
Of course, this week is pride fest here (gay pride... GIANT celebration in my town, it's awesome ^_^) I'm going with my sister and alot of friends, and I plan on getting a t-shirt to see how my parents will react... but beside the point... anywho.
I think you probably need to find someone to talk about this with though, not just post a thread, although that can be helpful.
Coming out to people is hard... I hate watching my friends get torn up about it, since I don't really care what people think of me... I think it's just kind of a barrier in your mind that makes you freak about telling people... |
SaigoNoKotoba
Writer's Block
Age: 14
Gender: Female
Posts: 25 | June 27th, 2008 at 05:06pm katie1994:Okay well to start off yes I'm bisexual and my parents have been devorced since I was two...See two years ago at a party when i was 11 I ended kissing both my best friends Danni(girl) and Jorden(boy) and liked it both...therefore figuring out im bi. ANYWAYS!
I'm also exteremly scared because my mom is more understand though I have a shitty relation ship with my whole family and my dad says he has gay and bi friends but He yelled at my for using rechargeable batteries and asking for new shoes because my old ones were so worn they had holes in the bottom...See my delema?! I'm scared to tell any part o of my family!
This friday will be my four month anniversary with my girlfriend Ruth, but she lives in Ireland so my parnets don't know...nor do they know I'm bi, but I wanna finally tell them! I told my mom I was bi-currious yet she didn't get it and my Dad thinks Ruth and me are just friends because we'll be in a video call and we'll be LOVE YOU! I just don't know what to do...help? and I Really love my girlfriend may I say, she's the only thing that keeps me happy all day...so what do i do?
My parents are divorcing and my isn't living with us so I knew I had to do it seperatly. My sister was the first to know then my friends. I just old my dad two days ago. I was like dad I think I might be bi. He just kind of stared at me and went oh. I started to cry and I told him I don't want him to hate me. he said he didn't hate me and we had a long talk. It was nice though because I learned we have a lot in common. I think you should just tell them...just sit one down at a time. I suggest you tell the one you think won't freak as much first then tell the one you think much secondily. Just come out with it but be ready for a good talk after or a fight it all depends on your parents comfortable level with sexuality. I hope I helped some how |
Beauty-Is-A-Lie
Cliché Catastrophe
Age: 16
Gender: Female
Posts: 501 | June 29th, 2008 at 10:05pm as much as I love people who feel ready to finally out them selves
and look up to them because I can't even do it, and I've had more gf's then bf's
but I think you should wait, after all you are young |
