My Dad.

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Hiro Nakamura. Student Shakespeare Age: 14 Gender: Female Posts: 9908	August 14th, 2008 at 06:03pm Right Okay. Here's whats going on. My Dad has been arrested before, just before I started secondary school. I'm now about to start my GCSE's and He's in Jail Again. Only this time Its for Possesion with Intent to supply of a Class A Drug He has yet to be trialed so we don't know how long he's in there for. He's looking at Two, Maybe three Years. Mum's getting a divorce. There's no custody battle as I'm old enough to decide who I live with. My Problem is; My Mother is forcing Me to have contact with him. I don't fucking want to see him anymore. I hate him. I knew he was druggie but He'd always look me in the eyes and promise that It was only Cannabis. But He mentioned what the drug was on our last visit and I don't think he realised. He's been taking and helping people sell Cocaine. The Reason Mums making me visit him is because Me and Dad used to be so close. But He ruined it. She says she doesn't want our relationship to become how he and His Dads is. Excuse Me? Shouldn't that be my decision? Can You please help me? I can't seem to convince her to let me stop visiting. I don't want to Just, Help me? Note: I'm not at all upset he's in Jail. Infact I'm happy. Me and my mum have So Much more money now. I don't have to worry about where he is when I come hokme and he's not here. I don't have to listen to him Nearly crying "Please Love? I need the Money They're gonna stab me." When I'm in the same Fucking Room. He's already Been in there for nearly 14-15 weeks. I'm getting sick of going through all the security and shit to talk about absolutly nothing to him for an hour. So, Er yeah, Thanks for the Help.
Maxwell Green. Cliché Catastrophe Age: 69 Gender: Female Posts: 551	August 14th, 2008 at 06:31pm Have you told your mom about all of this? I think the only way is to tell her exactly how you feel. If she doesn't listen, refuse to see your dad. Just don't go. I know it's bad to not listen to your mom, but maybe if you refuse and show her how much it means to you, she'll get the point.
Ianto Jones Fanfic Fanatic Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 2571	August 14th, 2008 at 10:29pm If you haven't already, tell your mum how you really don't want to see him. But honey, really think about it. Yes, he may have done awful things, but he's your dad. I'm not trying to push you into anything, but make sure that you know what you're doing it right.
Eyes Only. Grammar Guru Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 4601	August 14th, 2008 at 10:42pm Like Ianto Jones said, he is your dad. And its your decision, maybe meet in the middle a bit? Tell your mum you dont want to see him every month or whatever it is, maybe every other month? Good Luck
abandon ship. Fanfic Fanatic Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 2841	August 15th, 2008 at 03:06pm I agree, maybe try for a bit? Tell your mother, though. That must not be an easy situation; good luck.
Skrillex. Fanfic Fanatic Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 1171	August 15th, 2008 at 03:27pm Yea, give it a go, and see how it works. Obviously tell your mum how you feel too. And at least she can't force you to see him if you've tried to go see him and stuff. Just basically what the others have said.
Mortiferous Fanfic Fanatic Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 1870	August 16th, 2008 at 01:43pm Um, I'm pretty sure you can back out if you want. No one can truly force you to go anywhere. I would, however, give this a try. Nothing bad can come out of that, can it?
zero; Fanfic Fanatic Age: 12 Gender: Female Posts: 1373	August 16th, 2008 at 01:59pm All you really have left to do is to tell your mother as gentle as possible that you never ever want to see his face again. I con't do it, but judging by the things you've been through, you can do it. When I was younger, there's been real troubles with my family, and it was because of my father. I'd rather not mention what it was. And I really just hated him. Whenever my mother would mention him, I would burst into tears. And I didn't hear of or from him for a few months.
Peter Petrelli. Hero Age: 17 Gender: Female Posts: 26786	August 16th, 2008 at 06:38pm I met your mum, she seems pretty nice and understanding and all that, so maybe you should just tell her out right everything you put on your first post? If that doesn't work tell her you'll go for it but if things don't work out after a few times tell her you don't want to carry on with it? If you need to talk to someone you have my number
Johnny and June Cliché Catastrophe Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 735	August 16th, 2008 at 08:25pm I would just try to convince your mom that this is really and truly how you feel and you feel strongly about it. It sounds like your mom is trying for all the right reasons though so give her a break. I don't know you or your mom and I do only know what is on this thread but your mom might be worried about you in the future. Maybe she thinks if you have a bad relationship with your father like your father does, you will fall down the same path. And she doesn't want you to have regrets later in life because you cut off your dad when you were young. I understand it though. You have giving it a try for years all the time but this is it now. I know. So the only way I think you can come to any resolution is to have a long, deep talk with your mom and work it out. In my humble opinion, she should let you decide what you want to do because this is such an important issue. I hope everything goes well for you.
himynameisbethany Writer's Block Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 95	August 17th, 2008 at 04:50pm Your old enough to make a descision yourself,but you may regret not paying attention to your dad in the future but if thats how you feel then tell your mum,i think she'll understand.
Extraordinary Jinx Cliché Catastrophe Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 320	August 17th, 2008 at 09:02pm my dad used to be a drugaddict too. that's why my parents got a divorce. i don't have a bad relationship with my dad though.. have you tried to talk with your mom, or your dad? when my dad was in rehab, i told him that "i don't want to talk to you until you get healthy and can pay attention to me, and not the drugs". he listened and stopped. if your dad have any respect to you, he should listen.
Wednesday Addams Amateur Author Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 283	August 22nd, 2008 at 02:37pm Ooh, been through something similar myself. If you don't want any contact with him, tell your mom. Even take it in stages, like "I don't want to talk to him just now, maybe in a few months I'll have changed my mind." I find that to be most effective. Even if you have no intention of ever talking to him again Good luck.

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