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| Stephanie Writer's Block Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 95 | So...I go to a catholic school with a population of no more than 200...I have been going there since since I started school... That means I have recieved all sacraments so far... When I was younger I just accepted the picture of God and all that jazz....I was young what else was I supposed to believe... Now that I'm older...I don't believe in any of that...I just can't come to grasp the concept of the bible and Jesus and whatever else...I like Geometry and the proofs and all that...I am a person of science...I like proof... We got a letter in the mail today talking about conformation(sp?)...My mom says I have to...I don't think I should have to...I think it should be my choice... She told me that I can have my choice, but there is no point in going to a catholic school if I don't get confirmed... She informed me that if I don't get confirmed that I will go to the public school with a population of....every other kid in town... I need help FAST...She gave me until morning to decide... I just don't think that its right of her to pull me out of the only school I have ever gone to...I would never survive in the public school because I am just too shy to be thrust unwillingly into that sort of situation...She is threatening to take everything away from me...the car, the phone, and anything else that has any value... I know this isn't right...I shouldn't be forced to be part of something I don't want to be a part of...There are plenty of people that go to my stupid catholic school that aren't catholic...I personally don't see anything wrong with not wanting to be confirmed... Can some one please give me advice... |
| Ianto Jones Fanfic Fanatic Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 2571 | You're right. It's your choice. Have you told your mum you want to stay in the catholic school, without having a conformation? You could explain to her you really really don't want to move schools because you're really shy. She needs to know hoe strongly you feel about this. Good luck ![]() |
| acid martyr Amateur Author Age: 13 Gender: Female Posts: 259 | If you really don't want to, I agree with Ianto. Just tell her your pov, and hopefully she will understand. I would be freaking out if I were in your situation, though, so you're doing pretty good. |
| Stephanie Writer's Block Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 95 | I'm doing horrible...She won't listen to me...and she pulled my grandma into this...My grandma has been guilting me about faith and how it helped her get through my grandpa's cancer... I don't want to hear that...guilting has never worked on me... The saddest thing about this is that my dad thinks it should be my choice and he agrees with me...(we don't get along or agree on anything) My mom told me to pick my battles...Conformation shouldn't be a battle...it's supposed to be a choice to enter the church as an adult...I just don't want to be a part of that anymore... It's not like my mom is religous either...we haven't willingly gone to church since I was seven or six...My family isn't hardcore catholic...I just don't get why she is making me do this... |
| Ianto Jones Fanfic Fanatic Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 2571 | Have you asked her why she's making you do it? Maybe you could get your dad to talk to your mum about it? |
| Mortiferous Fanfic Fanatic Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 1870 | Don't give in to it. Do what you think is right. Think ahead. After all, if you follow that path, what will your future hold? |
| Stephanie Writer's Block Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 95 | This whole thing has turned into a load of bull...My mom recently informed me that the money I earned this summer working for her is to be used for lunch money, car insurance, and gas...I should have control over the money that I worked my ass off for...I was saving that up for things to buy for when I move out of this hole... I am thinking of not eating lunch...and the car stuff doesn't make sense because I can't drive anywhere...I get to ride the bus to school when it starts in a few days and I will only be able to drive when I get a different job... According to my grandma I am going to become a fortfive year old loser if I don't get confirmed...and about my dad talking to my mom about it...Well...My mom is like an unstopable force of nature... I'm not giving into this...but the consequences are bullshit...there shouldn't even be consequences...and it shouldn't be a battle... |
| Maxwell Green. Cliché Catastrophe Age: 69 Gender: Female Posts: 551 | Okay. Honestly, I don't think you should be taking your mom/grandparents shit like this. If you give in, you'll give them a sense of knowlege that they can beat you in everything. I know it's not right to go against your parents, but this should be your choice. Though, I don't think you will ever get your way completely. Would you rather go to a public school and become more free, proving to your mom and grandparents that you can do it, or get confirmed and keep going to your school? It's up to you to choose, because getting your way completely will probably cause a lot of damage within your family. Personally, if I were you, I'd go to a public school. This year, I'm switching from a private religious school that i've been going to my whole life to a public school, too, and I'm scared... I'm super shy, as well, and I'm afraid that I might not make new friends... but I don't beleive in the reliigon anymore, and staying within my comfort zone isn't worth the pressure put on my shoulders. Just think about it, and try to compromise. That's the way all big decisions are made, anyways. |
| Stephanie Writer's Block Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 95 | Actually...I think I may be winning... My mom came home for lunch today...which is weird...and while she was leaving she asked me why I didn't want to go through with it and I freaking snapped...I didn't yell, but I firmly said that I didn't believe in God anymore...She asked how I could go to a catholic school all my life and not belive and then She just left... She has been nice to me since she got home from work...and she hasn't said anything since the little lunchtime bit... I'm just really surprised...but for some reason I think she is just regrouping...I don't know I already know people from the public school...I live in a pretty small town...but I'm just too shy for a situation like that...I only have this and my senoir year left...It would fuck me up if I were to be switched like that...and the first day of school is on thursday...this week... I absolutely hate the school I'm going to and I hate the people...but I would rather go through with it for the last few years and not get along with anyone than go to the public school...It's just hard to explain my reasoning with that...My thoughts when I even think about it go back and forth and get real confusing... Besides...a friend of mine that just graduated is also counting down to a two years like I am...definite celebration involved...ha... I'll update when the war is over...or something... |
| Maxwell Green. Cliché Catastrophe Age: 69 Gender: Female Posts: 551 | ^This may be off topic to the 'battle', but if you hate your school, you should switch. High school years are supposed to be fun, not filled with misery. As I said, i'm switching too and I'm terrified, but if i'll make me happy... it's worth it. |
| Ianto Jones Fanfic Fanatic Age: 15 Gender: Female Posts: 2571 | Yeah, you should be happy in your school. It may be scary at first, but it will pay off being in a better school. ![]() |
| xrosesaregreenx Writer's Block Age: - Gender: Female Posts: 13 | My mom says that I need to get my conformation, but that after that i can basically choose whatever i want |
| Stephanie Writer's Block Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 95 | I thought I would like to tell you all... Tis' over and I have won... ...But now my grandparents keep sending my emails about how God is real... Respect my choice...It's not like I come to your house screaming my beliefs in your face... Thanks for the awesome support...You, my fellow Mibbians, are awesome... |
| Skrillex. Fanfic Fanatic Age: 16 Gender: Female Posts: 1172 | Well done. It is your choice. You're grandparents shouldn't be sending you emails like that though. They shouldn't try and force you into a religion. ![]() |
