Sorry but I don't care about your problems. :]
You know, I've been thinking a bit here and I feel like there are a lot of people (though of course not everyone) who act like they care when you tell them about your problems. I mean, it's so painstakingly obvious that they're just being nice and trying not to trample your feelings to a pulp when they keep nodding and saying "Yeah...I'm so sorry you had to go through that..." and the way their voice trails off when you keep going on and on; that glazed look in their eyes that plainly displays their inescapable boredom.
So after I thought about it for a whole of twenty minutes I decided to let some of my pent up frustrations out and say I don't give a care about your problems.
That's right. This is to all the girls in school who feel like I'm that shoulder to lean on when they get themselves into drama. I'm not a tissue holder, I'm not a support system or an AA group speaker. I'm not that girl who'll come to your house with Rockey road ice cream and a chick flick to watch when you and your boyfriend break up after a month's boring relationship two years ago. I don't want to hear your sob stories about how much your life sucks - and that's to every emotionally unstable friend I've made throughout the years. And to the parents, cousins, aunts, and uncles I have - if I have to listen to another sob story about some relative that's ended up in jail that I don't even know about or never even heard of - I'm going to scream.
You may think you can make yourself feel better by either lying about the problems in your life or complaining about the ones you have, but honey, I do not have a door with a plaque that says Therapist on it, so don't come crying to me.
The community and its problems are not my own. I would much rather stay in my shiny little happy bubble with no care in the world than listen to another story about the drama you're experiencing today.
And I may sound selfish, but consider this a glimpse into the reality of some human nature. Sometimes you just don't care. And right now - since this is my journal - I don't see any use in fluffing it up for anyone. I'm not trying to sound like some apathetic "cool kid". I'm just letting it out today.
Anyhow.
I hope you have a nice day mibba. :D
~CI
So after I thought about it for a whole of twenty minutes I decided to let some of my pent up frustrations out and say I don't give a care about your problems.
That's right. This is to all the girls in school who feel like I'm that shoulder to lean on when they get themselves into drama. I'm not a tissue holder, I'm not a support system or an AA group speaker. I'm not that girl who'll come to your house with Rockey road ice cream and a chick flick to watch when you and your boyfriend break up after a month's boring relationship two years ago. I don't want to hear your sob stories about how much your life sucks - and that's to every emotionally unstable friend I've made throughout the years. And to the parents, cousins, aunts, and uncles I have - if I have to listen to another sob story about some relative that's ended up in jail that I don't even know about or never even heard of - I'm going to scream.
You may think you can make yourself feel better by either lying about the problems in your life or complaining about the ones you have, but honey, I do not have a door with a plaque that says Therapist on it, so don't come crying to me.
The community and its problems are not my own. I would much rather stay in my shiny little happy bubble with no care in the world than listen to another story about the drama you're experiencing today.
And I may sound selfish, but consider this a glimpse into the reality of some human nature. Sometimes you just don't care. And right now - since this is my journal - I don't see any use in fluffing it up for anyone. I'm not trying to sound like some apathetic "cool kid". I'm just letting it out today.
Anyhow.
I hope you have a nice day mibba. :D
~CI
Posted on September 4th, 2009 at 11:22pm
It depends on the situation for me. If someone broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriend they had for a month and I can tell they really aren't that upset about it, I really don't care. However, if someone's relative is dying/recently dead, that's when I'm supportive.
Tina Turner, September 5th, 2009 at 12:41:51am
When I express sympathy to anyone, whether it be on Mibba or for real, I'm being sincere. I wouldn't tell someone I feel bad for them if I didn't mean it. Probably why I don't say it very often. =\
Jessie in Calalini, September 5th, 2009 at 12:26:35am
"But if someone just lost a family/friend to Cancer, I definitely care."
There's nothing wrong with caring. :]
And of course I would be there for someone who's going through a horrible time like that, but the examples I gave where so much more smaller and ridiculous. I'm just so tired of hearing about the /every day/ problems people spill to me in school. u.u
Cryptic Ink, September 4th, 2009 at 11:35:45pm
Hmm. For some reason I just care. I don't know why. I get guilty so easily, and I just like helping people. No BS there though. I don't want to sound like some freaking saint or something, 'cause I'm not, I just care about people for some reason...
Huh.
I get what you mean though. Sometimes it's tiring to constantly hear about other's problems. Especially if it's something stupid, like their boyfriend of 2 days broke up with them. I don't care about that kind of stuff...
But if someone just lost a family/friend to Cancer, I definetley care.
Sniffing Sharpies., September 4th, 2009 at 11:31:07pm
I care...sometimes, for some people, in some situations.
Honestly, it depends who you are. If I don't know you, chances are I don't give a sh*t what your problems are. I care about my friend's problems, but only sometimes. I don't care for their typical high school drama problems that everyone is going through, but it it's something horrible, then yeah, I care. For the most part, though, I don't.
I either care too much or too little and either way, it doesn't seem to matter to people. They still come and complain to me.
Nixie!, September 4th, 2009 at 11:29:12pm