Cheating....can it still work? - Comments

  • go for gin.

    go for gin. (100)

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    I'm not sure. I'd like to think I'd walk away, but there are so many different reasons people cheat- not that any of them can be justified.

    I suppose it's possible, but it's surely not easy.
    January 26th, 2010 at 12:39am
  • Aelf

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    The reasons for cheating are manifold and complex. People in cheating relationships may or may not be abusive, submissive, obsessive, unsatisfied or curious. It's never a smart decision to make, but people do it more often than you think.

    Personally, my opinion is that it can only work afterwards if you can both trust each other enough to draw up a clean slate, instead of carrying the baggage of the past into the future. And that kind of ultimate forgiveness can be pretty hard to come by.
    January 26th, 2010 at 12:06am
  • Total-Poindexter

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    What I dont get is, how can people claim to love one another but still cheat on them.

    I also don't get people who can still stay in the relationship even if they had been cheated on...I couldn't live with getting paranoid everytime my bf starts talking to another girl that he's think how much more attractive she is than I am and how he could easily cheat with her.
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:58pm
  • Audrey T

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    It's a really personal thing and the choice to stay together or pull apart is up to the people in the relationship and them only. Others can judge if they want but really only they can decide what's best for them and what their relationship can handle. Sometimes people like to judge a relationship, but unless you in it, you can never really know.
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:56pm
  • HippieDays

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    I forgive easily. But forgetting would be more difficult.
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:56pm
  • dexter

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    No, I would walk away. <<;; I'm too proud and I don't forgive easily.
    I don't see a point in cheating, if you're tired of me or you don't want me anymore, break up with me, don't continue to fake a relationship and cheat. Why isn't that easy enough? >:\
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:53pm
  • Scrubs.

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    v That's easy to say, but if your husband / wife of 20 years cheats on you? And you're still madly in love with them?

    It's easier said than done.
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:53pm
  • writinglikestupid

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    Sorry but if he cheats, as much as it may hurt, move on and find someone better! i know i wouldn't be able to trust the guy again if he cheated and i would NEVER knowingly go after a guy who's with someone else!
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:48pm
  • sainthood.

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    In my opinion, no.

    It takes alot to gain my trust enough, to even be in a romantic relationship with me. If someone cheated on me, that would all go to shit. I wouldn't trust them enough to even be around them.

    The same goes for someone whose cheated, I just couldn't see myself trusting them enough to be in a relationship with them.
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:44pm
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    In most cases, I'd probably end the relationship. For me, if someone cheats, my trust for them is destroyed and the relationship is never really the same.
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:44pm
  • HippieDays

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    I don't know, this subject is personal, because my mom was cheated on. Not by my dad, but still.

    I don't know, honestly. Because it'd be so hard to stay with someone after they've cheated with you, but you also don't want to throw a really good relationship away.
    January 25th, 2010 at 11:42pm