My friend is a lesbian and she wants to change? - Comments

Half-Blood Princess.

And I bet that kills her inside. You can't change your sexuality, if you could, don't you think most gays would? I doubt she doesn't have feelings for women anymore, she most likely does and hides them because heterosexuality looks better on her social image.

v Then clearly she wasn't a "lesbian" to start with.

Sexuality is defined by chemicals in the brain. There is no way to change those chemicals. Sheer will power will not work, aversion therapy will not work, electro shock therapy will not work.

The only proven way to "cure" homosexuality is through a lobotomy, and unfortunatly that still failed epically because it removed all sexuality and pretty much turned the person into a vegetable.

You can not change your sexuality. Face it. We're all stuck how we are.

CC;; wrong. you can change your sexuality. Friends done it. She used to be a lesbian but now she refuses to look at a girl like that ever again. she loves guys now

CC; Sadistic as it sounds, I would have liked to see that. XD

sinner Yeah, if she hasn't dated anyone before, have her try dating both genders and see which one she's more comfortable with, or if she likes dating both. That should tell you (and her) whether she's straight, bisexual, lesbian, etc., because if she hasn't dated anyone then it's not really legitimate. Good luck with that. :)

Thanks guys. That really helped. I think it could be temporary thing because she has never dated anyone before. All teens go to some kind of confusion right? Maybe she's just in that stage. But no matter what happens, I'm always here for her. :)

v Come to my school. The year nine's are FULL of it. There's this one big fight going on in year nine at the moment, because one girl said on Facebook that she might like another girl, and someone saw it, and in the end one girl punched another girl, so some one else pushed the girl who punched the first one down the stairs, but that wasn't liked so the first one went and slapped the girl who pushed the other one, and someone else saw that and didn't like it so she went and bought a large iced coffee and threw it on the girl who did the slapping, but half missed and got it on Mr Tkatz, one of the assistant principals, and oh my God, I laughed so hard when I heard the story.

I said I was bisexual because I was being pressured into being straight by a lot of people, but I was with Aimee. I'm not bi. I'm gay. -.-'

v I haven't seen it going on in real life but I see it all over here, and I want to shake them and ask them how the fuck they know. Because a lot of times, it's just a phase. My mom is one of the weird...I guess you would say insitutionalized homophobics, because of her Christianity making her all weird about it. I'm Christian too but I don't have a problem with it. But anyway, she says it's a phase because she hopes everyone grows out of it. I say it's a phase because honestly, sometimes it really is just a phase. I thought I was bisexual at 15 because I thought some girls were pretty. Made a fool out of myself at the lunch table because everyone cheered about me being bisexual, and I wasn't. I'm straight. I just think some girls are insanely pretty, and I think Lady GaGa and Demi Lovato are freaking hot. XD

v Thirteen year olds are idiots in that regard. They haven't matured yet so they just love running around saying they're gay and starting fights. Even my school counselor agrees on that one. ;D

v True, true. *shrug* Then again, we have all kinds of 13-year-olds going, "I'M BISECHSUAL. :D" and they haven't even tried dating. XD But I know what you mean.

v True, but if you've identified as a lesbian, chances are that she's already tried out with guys. You don't just wake up one day and go "I like vagina", nearly every lesbian has experiences with men beforehand, which lead to the discovery.

Regardless, sleeping with men isn't a cure. :/

v Although if she tries to date guys, likes it, and changes, then that simply means she's bisexual. That could happen, too. Not saying internalized homophobia isn't what it is, just offering suggestions.

She can't change. There is no way to change your sexuality and no matter how hard you want to, fact is you can't.

What she is going through sounds similar to how I used to be, it's called internalised homophobia, where although you don't have any negative feelings towards other homosexuals, you cannot accept yourself and want desperately to change. It can result in some pretty serious problems and can definately increase suicidal tendancies.

The best thing you can do for your friend is not only be there for her, but let her know that you all love her and accept her, and other people accept her for who she is because it's totally normal.

Also, I strongly suggest you recruit the help of an unbaised counselor or youth worker to get her through this.

If she was a lesbian and she wants to change, then she can change. No big deal. Just have her date guys and see if she's comfortable with that. If she's not, then she's just not meant to date them. *shrug*

Simple; have her date a few guys and hang out with guys for long periods at a time. thats all i got